i know you might think it is wrong. but this is what i've made my mind to do. i want to conduct an experiment and see if bad break ups can be fixed. can you give me strategies on getting my ex bf back. everyone with experience on this issue is welcome and will be greatly appreciated. i want a step by step process of getting him back. this might sound pathetic and manipulative but i want to see if i can get him back. i don't want psychotic and degrading suggestions.
2007-02-03 09:02:54 · 31 answers · asked by leyna h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey Leyna,
Before i answer your question, something tells me that your
'experiments', may have given him cause to leave you.
Furthermore a saying comes to mind: be careful what you wish for. But to answer your question, some things do break beyond repair, this is a fact of life, however there's something innate in our nature that recognises sincerity, even if we numb ourselfs to it. My suggestions in this order are: a) don't expect anything for your efforts, (merely hope) secondly meet him for a chat in a public place, and be honest, and don't say anything you don't mean, be positive, don't consume alcohol prior to, or during your meeting with him. Try to be patient, and non-judgemental.
I really hope it works out for you, take care Michael
2007-02-04 22:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by michael j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to successfully get your ex back and keep him is by being yourself. If its meant to be then it will.
I don't mean this badly but if you lie and cheat to get back with him then the relationship will not work in the long run. You need to be yourself and if all is right then it will work.
Noone can tell you how to act. Your boyfriend may like you to dress sexy, he may want you to be less argumentitive or more. Only you know what he wants and if you can offer it. And if you cant without being true to yourself you would be happier with someone who you can be you around.
Bad breakups can be fixed. Sometimes years later. I had a huge breakup where really nasty things were said. I then later believed that everything was perfect back then. We met again 2 years later and everything was as it was before we met the first time and went great. 6 months later we both realised we broke up for a reason.
There is no right or wrong answer in love. Just be yourself and put faith that things will work out for the best, good or bad. Good luck.
2007-02-03 17:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I normally wouldn't do or suggest anything of this nature, but maybe you should change yourself. Not personality wise but in appearance. He might like the fact that you went to such great lengths to change yourself for him. But if he doesn't like it you can use a guilt trip. It won't necessarily be degrading or psychotic it's just to let him know that you care enough about him and being with him to change who you are. But other than that you could try just being a friend to him. Sometimes people who have a lot of history between one another they can relate to each other on different levels which might turn out to be an incredible friendship that could spark up the old feelings that you once had for each other. That in turn could create a lasting relationship. Good Luck! I hope that you get you man back!!!
2007-02-03 17:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by Bookworm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well
my ex tried to get back with me after 9 months. I had noticed she made some changes. Took a bit more charge in her life and apparently was asking forgiveness for something that I could not forgive. I lingered over what that certain issue was and deplored in her to give me time, though i wanted her so badly indeed.
she began telling me how much she wanted me and how desperately horny she was to be with me again. This got straight to me, so this is a tactic you might try. The apparent abandonment of pride before me was a fresh start.
So this is my suggestion. Try desperation.
But when you do, be prepared to be cross examined by him.
Expect him to look for something small even as evidence to the contrary. Dont doubt he loves you utterly and desperately also, but really, if you want him back. Make sure you inventory yourself and make a healthy change or two to prevent a repeat of grevious mistakes.
Try honesty. Or go home.
2007-02-03 17:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is just an experiment the answer is easy.
Manipulate your man - make him believe you are everything he ever dreamed of and wanted and DO NOT be yourself.
Of course, you'd have to dump him before you can't pretend anymore... because you already know he doesn't like the real you.
This is a great experiment for anyone who lacks a conscience or any kind of self-respect.
Good luck, and I hope one day you'll actually have an opportunity to experience or learn about real love... maybe when you stop wasting your time with stuff like this.
2007-02-03 17:25:11 · answer #5 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a sure fire way to make things work if you truly want to get back with your ex and make it last. However I do not fully understand your question, do you want to get back with him, at him? do you want to get back with him just to see if you can, then break up? You do realize that this is a human with feelings? Do you also understand that people can loose it when they find out that they have been played used as and experiment. You are asking for people to help you do something that can back fire on you. do you realize this?
have you ever heard the saying "THE HOLE YOU DIG MAY BE YOUR OWN.
I am not trying to put you down, I just want to think about what you are doing before you or someone else really get hurt.
2007-02-03 17:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by Vivimos en los Ultimos Dias 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And why would you want him back? For the sake of an experiment? I hope this is neither psychotic nor degrading opinion, it is realistic. Just remember in the first place that there is a reason you broke up.
2007-02-03 17:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't experiment with the life of another. No one has that right without the other person's consent. If you are not honestly, truly, wholeheartedly wanting this person back, you have no right, no matter how you present it, to lead another in a false direction. Would you want this person "experimenting" with you? Use the "Golden Rule" here...."Do unto others as you would have done unto you" - Go back and read what you wrote here and think about that.
2007-02-03 17:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lotsofwords 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a girlfriend now? Analyze reason for the break up. Determine if you need to change something in order to fix previous problems. Make yourself appear available and friendly but then make him pursue anything. Dress hot and put yourself in social situations. Be confident and let him know you notice him and act like you want to talk to him and be with him but once again let him come to you. Good luck!
2007-02-03 17:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by DebChick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously there has been great hurt here so the obvious would be to state that a lot of repair is needed...men are not all that different from women so you will need to make an impression that is instant as he may not give much opportunity for reconciliation...so may i suggest that you call him and arrange to meet him casually so he will be at ease take him for a meal at a really nice restaurant then ask him to take you home where your best mate can join you in a threesome (if your best mate is a guy
2007-02-03 20:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋