Abortion... your views?

Question

After reading some questions of the same topic I noticed a few people with very strong opinions.

I noticed one persons response that said she wouldn't abort a baby that had been conceived in rape and she would love it anyway.
I think it's easy to say that when you haven't actually experienced it.

I'd like to hear what everyone else thinks about it.
It's a topic that alot of people wont talk about & alot of people have strong opinions about.
Consider circumstances like rape etc...especially if the victim is a young teen with their whole lives ahead of them. What if the baby will be born deformed and in pain? What if the mother will surely die due to complications?
To say that abortion is wrong in every situation is completely obsurd in my opinion. I believe each case has to be looked at carefully and individualy.
Although I don't believe people should have them just to get rid of a baby because they can't be bothered to look after it.

Please don't just answer "it's wrong" or "I agree with it".
The point of this quetion is to find out why people have the opinions they have.

Also before i'm attacked with criticism I have not had one myself.

Please be mature about this and respect that everyone has different views.

I agree that there should be a lower time limit on abortions unless it is medically necessary to perform one.

Also, when a woman is raped the psychological effects can be devestating!
How can anyone justify making a woman carry the child of her rapist for 9months? For 9months she will have a constant reminder and will be unable to continue normally with her life. What if she has a husband & a family? How would it affect them?
A woman who is forced to continue a rape pregnancy may very well take her own life; and for this to be happening to a 14year old girl would be barbaric.

If those anti-abortionists had a 14year old daughter who was brutally raped would they force her to cary and give birth to it?

I personally couldn't watch my daughter/friend/sister etc go through that.

How can people compare an unborn fetus with a child? Obviously it will eventualy mature into one but the point is it isn't fair to say that murdering a 1yr old is the same as an abortion at 12 weeks.

To say that abortion a fetus that is the product of rape will be even more traumatic to the victim is also questionable.
For those who have never experienced it they will NEVER know what it does to a woman. All you have are stories via the media and as the media will print stories that make the most money they are totally biased in opinion.

I don't believe it is anyone's place to withdraw the right to abortion from women.

Answer 1

In every circumstance possible, it still should be and always remain the woman's choice. The govenment should have no say, and some may not like this, but men should have no say in this either (ever notice the people who picket outside planned parenthoods are all men over 60?). I agree that there should not be so many unplanned pregnancies since there are SO Many forms of birth control, abortion should NOT be used as a birth control method. The overall point is that education is key and that getting pregnant can happen to anyone, even if you are 15 (girls think they are invicible at that age).

Answer 2

I am pro choice. a woman's body is hers. I am a guy by the way. anyway, there are so many reasons for aborting including those pertaining to the health of the mother.for this reason I believe it is wrong for people, the media, the clergy, the government, priests, rabbis, preachers,teachers and any moral majority member to point the accusing finger and cry "murderer". These people do not know what the women is going thru. Maybe it is murder, maybe God doesnt like abortion, but isn't the decision to abort something extremely personal and private.? Shouldn't the decision be between the woman, her doctor and God?
As far as being raped and wanting to keep the baby I will say only one thing: when the child asks about daddy what do you say? no matter what the answer is the mother has to relive her horrible ordeal. I admire those women who have kept their child. It must be very difficult.
About teen-age pregnancy--I do believe the parent's have a right to know their daughter's intention. (and I wont go into how we need more education I think that drum has been beaten on enough)
Making the decision to abort would have to be the hardest decision a woman or couple could make. and I am sure that nearly all abortions were preceeeded by gut wrenching, heartache and the deepest soul searching there could ever be.
And it should be, But the final decision should be made by the person that's going to be on the doctor;s table. Roe vs Wade opened up a can of s*** didnt it?

Answer 3

No matter what the circumstances are, there is nothing that can justify abortion. While the thought of a teenager being the victim of rape is terrible, the thought of a teenager being raped and then having an abortion is far worse. Even though the rape was unfair to the person being raped, abortion doesn't improve the situation because it is just as unfair to the child because it did nothing to deserve death, and also because it has no say in the matter; it isn't yet able to tell you that it doesn't want to be killed.
Also, criminals are given harsher punishments if their crime was against a senior citizen. If it's wrong to take advantage of a senior citizen's vulnerability, how is it right to take advantage of an unborn baby's vulnerability? After we are born, we are still considered people no matter what age we are, so what makes an unborn person, whose life has also already begun, any less human than you and me?
Something interesting to consider is that approximately 11 to 26 million people were killed in the Holocaust, which is something people are horrified to think of and hope will never happen again. However, at least 40 million people have been killed (also very violently) by abortion, which is widely accepted as legal, and is going on even as we speak.
To say abortion is OK for the sake of the mother's health is not a good excuse. Besides the obvious way it harms the baby, it also harms the parents, as well as society as a whole. For example, suicide rates in the U.S. greatly increased after abortion began. Abortion can also cause the mother's death, as well as numerous other health problems.
Please don't get me wrong. I won't judge or condemn those who have abortions because it is not my place to judge; it's God's. I disagree with abortion is because God loves and has a plan for each life He creates.

Answer 4

It's never acceptable to kill an innocent human being. Would you kill a one-year-old because her father was a rapist? If not, why is the child in the womb fair game? Is she less worthy of life than the rest of us because of the circumstances of her conception? Should children should be punished with death for the crime of their fathers?

Furthermore, abortion only increases the grief and trauma of a woman who has been raped. Abortion does not erase the fact of the rape, but only causes the mother to become the aggressor, hurting another innocent victim the way she was hurt. Rape is bad; murder is worse. The knowledge of what she has done to her child will haunt her long after she has healed from the rape. Studies have shown that the majority of women who abort a child conceived in rape regret it, while none of the mothers who choose to give birth do. For more on this particular topic, including personal stories from women who conceived children in rape, see:

http://www.afterabortion.info/Victims/index.htm
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/focusmagazine/sohl/A000000103.cfm
http://www.dakotavoice.com/200611/Guest/20061101_GR.html
http://www.afterabortion.info/PAR/V2/n1/RAPESUM.htm
http://www.deathroe.com/Pro-life_Answers/Answers.cfm?ID=31

At least 480 American physicians recently testified that abortion is NEVER necessary to save the life of a mother:
http://www.all.org/article.php?id=10682

For more on the "life of the mother" topic, see quotes from a former head of Planned Parenthood, a former abortionist, and the former Surgeon General of the United States:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/motherslife.html

Disability and illness in a child are not crimes worthy of death. A child with health problems deserves protection, compassion, and help, not a violent death without their consent. We are all imperfect. That doesn't mean anyone has the right to kill us. If you wouldn't kill a born child with health problems, you shouldn't kill an unborn one for the same reason. Here are stories from parents whose children were diagnosed with problems in the womb:

http://www.benotafraid.net/default.asp
http://www.prenatalpartnersforlife.org/index.htm

Remember, the unborn child has his or her "whole life ahead of them," too. We don't have the right to take that away. What is absurd about believing that killing innocent human beings is wrong? Every abortion kills an innocent human being:

http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Answer 5

Well, I assume you have read my question of a few weeks ago on this very subject, I was absolutley hounded by some prolifers, and had to turn off the ability to email and IM me(you might wanna do the same for a few days), as I actually was sent pics of an aborted foetus and alot of abuse, even though my question was simply-'abortion, right or wrong?'.

I believe that it is not an easy thing for any woman to decide to do, though of course there will be those that prove that view wrong, I do think that if the law says that this is acceptable, then it IS acceptable. Laws are not passed for the few, they are passed for the benefit of everyone, if it was so 'wrong', then how comes it is legal in so many places?

I think that if you think abortion is morally wrong and a crime(which until the law changes you would be wrong about) then good for you, I have nothing but respect for the people who live their lifes with such moral aplomb.

Interesting that most of them quote the bible or make reference to God when they give their views, which is all well and good. But they seem to forget that God is the only one able to judge anyone(I don't believe in God anyway, but I am obviously aware that a huge amount of people do and that's fine), yet, regardless of the fact that they preach forgiveness, tolerence and God being the only one able to judge us mere mortals, these same people will quite happily stand outside a womens clinic and throw ketchup covered plastic babies at the poor girls going through hell already. Hypocritical indeed.(My sincere apologies to those who are prolife and not deranged nutters).

I think that instead of sitting around trying to force people to realise that they are 'right' as they obviously sincerely believe they are, and they have every right to think that, they should extend that same right to those women who make the awful decision to terminate a pregnancy. Forcing people to think how you do is what is called a dictatorship, and none exist in the western world, the supposedly most advanced part of the entire planet. Interestingly enough though, in not a single country in the western world is abortion illegal, only a few in the so called third world countries.

Now I happen to believe that in some cases abortions are not right, like if someone repeatadly uses it as a form of contraception, there can't be anyone who condones this, not even the hardest pro choicers, but does that mean she should be denied the abortion? I don't think so, but she should be strongly advised (and shouted at) to stop it, and use something to prevent it happening.

Apart from that, if through a random serious of events, or rape, or an accident, or there is something wrong with the child, then yes, I do believe if this option is available and legal then it should be utilised. Pro lifers argue that only God can take away life, and medcine should not interfere, but in this case, if God decides to give you cancer, should you refuse treatment then?

At the end of the day, we have to respect each others differing view points, I certainly try and respect those who don't agree with me, hard as is sometimes.

Answer 6

I totally agree with you on the fact that each situation has to be looked at carefully and individually.In the case of rape,I think abortion is a right choice.I can't think of any woman who would be willing to raise the child(and reminder at the same time)of the man that made her suffer(and more or less destroyed her life...).In that case,I can't consider abortion as a crime as the real crime is the way the baby was conceived...I would definitely consider it wrong in case that the conception is considered as an ''accident'' and the baby is not wanted due to the young age of its parents,their financial situation or just of them being bothered to look after it,as you say...In that case,its parents are supposed to take the responsibility of their actions and keep the baby..Otherwise,yes...it would be a crime...If the mother is sure to die due to complications,then I would agree on having an abortion,too...Finally,in the case of the baby being born deformed or in pain I'm 50-50 about it...Sure,with all these tests made during the very first months of pregnacy doctors can tell if there's a case that the baby will be born with some genetic anomaly so that the parents can decide to keep it or not...I happen to know a couple that had been told that their baby would be born with an anomaly..the doctors were almost 100% about it and gave little chance for a different result...The couple finally decided to keep the baby no matter what....He's at my age now,a 19 year old boy ,perfectly normal...It rarely happens,but in his case doctors were wrong...what if his parents had had the abortion after all???Yeah,some people consider it wrong and unfair to bring to life children destined to be in pain or deformed because of their suffering and I agree on that in a way,but shouldn't they have a chance at all?They're people after all...different,but still people...and their parents,in case they decide not to have an abortion,will always love them as they are...It just takes them to be determined to raise such a child...I strongly disagree with the parents that would have an abortion because of feeling shame for having a child like that due to society standards..If they decide to have an abortion for the child's own shake and not wanting it to be in pain during its life,then I'm ok with that...

Answer 7

Like you said, it's easy to say that you wouldn't do it if you haven't gone through it, but if you're not responsible enough to handle a child then you're not responsible to have sex in the first place. If the child was from a rape then give it up for adoption as soon as you can. Just because you were raped doesn't mean you can't love that child. You have a connection to your child .. if you carried it for 9months i don't see how you could just kill it. Basically what I'm trying to get at is abortion is wrong. The only reason you should abort it is because if you're going to die because of having that child.

Answer 8

Abortion in my opinion is a totally individual choice. Each case will have different circumstances, and it can only ever be the person who is pregnant who can ultimately make that choice. If someone feels they could bring up a child born out of a tragic situation like rape then that is their personal choice. Although they would need to think of the emotional impact on that child should they ever find out how they were conceived.

I think anyone who is thinking of having an abortion should be given all the relevant advice needed and provided with counselling before and after. My concerns with abortions in this country now are that people are not given the appropriate advice.

I read an article on one abortion clinic that had allowed a girl to have 10 abortions!! Clearly she is using this as some form of contraception ....outrageous as it may seem.
I think these sort of situations should never be allowed to happen.

I think none of us should judge anyone in this situation whether you have been in it or not.

Answer 9

I think everyone is different and all circunstances are different so it is very hard to pass judgement or say when an abortion should or shouldn't take place. We all have different coping mechanisms and we should stop being so judgemental about certain decisions some people make. Having a child is a massive decision as it is having an abortion or having a child adopted, none of these are to be taken lightly and we all make decisions based on what we know and have at the time. So I can not say whether or not I agree with abortions. What I can say is that I respect a decision a person makes at the time - they believe is the best decision for them to make in view of the knowledge and the choices they have at that time.

Answer 10

in the case of rape if the woman wants to get a abortion. i say its her choice. and if she is under age she should have the right to decide. and i believe in most other cases it should be legal,but have you ever looked at it this way? what if a guy and a girl are together, boy friend ,and girl friend,and the girl gets pregnant and she wants to get a abortion,but the guy wants the baby.does he have any legal ground on which to say hay that's me little baby my creation you are sucking into the vacuum cleaner. not that i have heard. but if that woman decides i am keeping that baby which would be the good thing to do and not the evil selfish thing. the man has to pay for that kid in tell he is 18 and he should. if a woman makes a mistake she should be accountable for it. and i no it takes two but bottom line the woman is the one that gets pregnant and its allot easier for them to prevent it. in the case of rape the baby is still Innocent. but we live in a free society and if we didn't allow abortion what would this world be like. here is one of my opinions and i no allot of woman would kill me for this but here it goes, most of the abortions that are taking place today are because woman are not being responsible plain and simple. i would allso like to ad my opinion on all these couples that are prolife because they beleive in adoption so strongly thats just fine and good, but i beleive that if the mother of that child that has been adopted wants her baby back when she can prove she is responcable enough to take care of it i think she should be part of that babies life. what i am trying to say is, if a woman decides to put her baby up for adoption that is a graet thing and i would love to see that before oborting the baby, but any time in the future i think the birth mother should have legal rights to see her own child and be able to spend time with that child. i mean what kind of twisted sick freaks would keep a birth mother away from her own child. and on top of that the father of that child should be able to spend time with the child and even have a chance to adopt the kid him self.