Im 19 living with my 27 year old boyfriend
2007-02-03 08:40:17 · 16 answers · asked by eurasia 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
YES have the baby. if you're not ready to be a mother, consider adoption. As for the boyfriend, at 27, i would hope he's mature enough to be a daddy. I know several great moms (with great kids) who got pregnant about your age. you'll do fine!
2007-02-03 08:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by Emily H 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends. Are you financially stable if you don't get married? Are you emotionally ready to have a baby depending on you for the rest of your life?
Even if your bf leaves you, he still has to pay child support. But aside from that, its all about what you are ready for.
Don't let the crazy Pro-Lifers try to persuade you into something that isn't right for you. Make the decision based on what is best for you, the baby and even your bf.
I really wouldn't even consider adoption...so many children are put up for adoption and never find homes. Could you do that, knowing your child will most likely be filtered in and out of foster homes for the next 18 years? If adoption was really that great, abortion would be illegal and people wouldn't have to go overseas to get the trendy ethnic baby. There are thousands if not millions of unwanted children wishing they had a parent but will never get them.
And women who get abortions DON'T always regret it. Some are actually relieved. Pro-Lifers are crazy nuts.
2007-02-03 17:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by makinguparandomsn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why not have the baby? I was 16, living with my bf, and had my first baby. Its not easy to raise kids, but its a very rewarding experience. I have three children, and i am only 20 years old. But they have changed my life forever. I have grown up a lot faster than most ppl do, but its just something that i has to so in order to be a good parent to my children. Hopefully the father of your baby is supportive, and helpfull. The father of my children waited until i had our last baby, then decided to walk out. I do it alone, and i work full time. Like i said, it is very hard, and you lose a lot of sleep and free time. But it has been the best experience in the world for me. Just remember this - you obviously can conceive, and you will be able to give life to a human being, witness their 1st breath, feed them the first bottle, and watch them as they grow into their own unique personality. Some ppl would give anything to have that remarkable feeling of fufillment, but for certain reasons they cannot. Children are a blessing.
2007-02-03 16:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by devinalexsmom 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes most definitely..i was 19 when i was pregnant with my first,my boyfriend was 21 and we had no sup[port from anyone,we didnt have any money at the time,no place to go etc...we struggled for the first couple months,but then he started working full time,we got a place and did well,everyone told me to abort my baby,friends and family..me and him never agreed on that so we dealt with it...we now have a georgeous 6 yr old girl and a 1 yr old son and im pregnant again *and we are now married* things will work out for u if u let them,this baby can be the best thing for u both,u dont have to married and be rich to raise a baby,u just need love and support =)..good luck!
2007-02-03 16:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Think about what is best for the baby, there is always adoption, look into LDS family services, www.itsaboutlove.org, or call 1–800–537–2229. There are people to help, a little bit churchy, but totally there for your good and your babies! Just get some support to make the decision, its a tough one.
2007-02-03 16:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by chelsie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry you are undecided on what to do. I wish I had the best answer for you but I truly don't. Usually when you become pregnant there is a bond there. If you are not feeling this bond then there is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better.
I would suggest looking into adoption as a secondary option.
Best of luck to you
2007-02-03 16:52:41 · answer #6 · answered by ChelYox 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you sound like you are unsure about getting pregnant withthis man. i understand that feeling. i married my boyfriend and we made the right decision. you need to have this baby but if you are in a bad situation and dont think you are capable of taking care of the baby then you should consider adoption. lots of people want to adopt a baby and you would be doing them a blessing but if you are capable of taking care of the baby (financially) then you need to. you wont regret the beautiflu momnets you will have with such a child. i love looking into my son's face an knowing he needs me and loves me.
2007-02-06 16:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means you should have it! If you don't want to keep it that's another story. Adoption is something to consider. If you're 19 years old and got pregnant, then you need to take responsability for your actions.
2007-02-03 16:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by bluegrass 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am prolife, but if you can't afford it or if you aren't emotionally ready I would sugest an adoption. It would be very selfless and generous of you to give your baby a better life than you would be able to provide it with, plus there are tons of peple waiting to adopt.
Abortion is murder.
Adoption is love.
2007-02-03 16:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have the baby,don't marry the boyfriend.
2007-02-03 16:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by Two Peas 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋