I didn't mean to sleep with him????

Question

I am in a great relationship but last night I went over to my friends house and drank a little....well alot. Anyways I slept with my Fiance's best friend. He kinda pressured me so I gave in. Should I tell my man?

This was the first and last time I will ever do this....His friend was great by the way!

TO ALL THE PEOPLE WHO ARE JUDGING ME.... SCREW YOU I'M NOT TELLING HIM SH*T!!! and his friend won't say anything because he's married!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

Answer 1

You better tell him before his best friend does. It will definitely be over if he finds out from someone other than you.

Answer 2

To be honest with you, I really think that your fiance should NOT marry you, period. You are not to be trusted at all for what you have done. You disrespected him totally. So don't say that he pressured you, you know exactly what you were doing.

Don't say you didn't mean to sleep with him, because you meant it, otherwise, it would have never happened!

If you have the decency to tell your fiance, then you need to tell him. He will probably find out anyway. He shouldn't marry you, if all you want to do is 'screw' someone else, especially his best friend! He deserves someone better and someone that he can trust. You, are not in that category at all. You should be ashamed of yourself by disrespecting your body and being used like a 'whore' to someone else. What a shame.

Answer 3

I think that you don't need to get married. I have been with my husband for 18 years and one thing I know is that things don't just happen. You have to have been thinking about this other man and wanting him in the back of your mind. Did he rape you? Did he put a gun to your head? If your answer is no then you wanted it. I think that it will really hurt your fiance to know that you have done this to him. What if the guy gave you AIDS? What if your fiance is sleeping with your best friend? How would you feel. I think that you should tell him before his best friend end up telling him. What is done in the dark will ALWAYS come to the light.

Answer 4

Yeah, if you want your relationship to be overrrrrr!! This is not the time for honesty. There is nothing worse for a guy than his gal to cheat on him with his best friend. I doubt very seriously, if the other guy is really his best friend if he is going to be telling. Next you need to decide who you want to be with. Doesn't sound like you are very faithful if you could be pressured into sleeping with your fiance's best friend. But, maybe your fiance will be dumb enough to fall for the "i drank too much act."

Answer 5

that really is f u c k e d, and if you tell him he is going to go ballistic to say the least, and who knows it may be the end of your life with him, you need to ask your self why did you really sleep with his friend? booze is a scapegoat there is underling issues you need to address, if you cheated now you will cheat again, maybe you should put off the wedding and sort things out, if you decide you really love this guy, i would not tell him, but as a guy I must say there is a very good chance that he will find out about it, maybe not today or this year, but when ever there friend ship ends that is when he will find out, but you can always hope he does not find out for along time, and then you can just deny deny deny!! you have a lot to think about, I hope you have a good head on your shoulders and things workout for you!!

Answer 6

sorry to tell you this but your dumb!!!!!!! not trying to be rude or anything but why would you want to cheat on a good man thats been there for you with his best friend, that probabley just used you because you were totally wasted, but anyways if you had the balls enough to get on top of him or vise versa then you will have the balls to step up to the plate and tell him what you did. thats a good man that you totally stabbed in the back but TELL HIM!!!!!!he needs to know so he dont go thinking that he had a faithful woman the whole time when he really didnt. he deserves better, not to be cheated on.

Answer 7

Well first of all i wouldnt brag about how good he was your man will probably find out anyway but theres no excuse for what you did and some friend i would tell him before i married him keeping that kind of secret and them him finding out after you marry him is not right .

Answer 8

First, I don't think you're a very nice person. I'm not going to preach but I feel sorry for the guy if you end up marrying him.

I think if your morals are so little that all it takes is drinks to get you laid, then for your own sake, I think the worst thing you could do for yourself is get married. You are truly not ready.

If you continue, it will only make things worse later.

Answer 9

That's BS you didn't mean it. Its your body and mind you made the decision. Now you must deal with it. I wouldn't exactly tell your guy but there must be something missing if you gave yourself to another so easily. Think about it. If he pressured you hes a jerk. ANd you are even more foolish to give in and risking a good relationship.

Answer 10

What do you mean you did not mean to??? Be honest here you know you meant it when you did it now you just feel bad nad guilty that you did and gave in to it. YES you should tell your man what you have done... This is the right thing to do. You chose to sleep with the guy so now choose to do the right thing and tell your man. Besides if you dont tell him his friend just mighit or he may very well find out from someone else... It is much better for you to be the one to tell him.

Answer 11

we are responsible for the thing we do, as we did have a choice to do it. guess if u don't tell it that it could come out later on, so yes u should tell him the truth, but be prepared to suffer the consequences, as every action gets some kind of reaction. we do have power over our choices we make in life, and temptations come in one form or the other every day, but we are ultimately responsible even if we were drinking.