About six years ago as a mature student (I was 31 at the time) in my second year of a BA course I fell completely in love with a tutor, a couple of years older than me. It was love at first sight confirming itself during the months that followed.
I have to add that he was the one who insisted right form the start. (Even other students could notice it). However after a couple of months he suddenly changed his mind thinking that he had to choose between his job/career and his love for me. He chose the job. I' ve never known if and how much pressure the college put on him but it was obvious that they were against it. I dropped out of the course after the second year because I couldn't cope with it. I tried to get over him, moved to another country and tried to get on with my life. The problem is I just can't forget him even after all those years. I have never loved anyone outside of him - not before, not afterwards. Should I try and find him and see whether what happens now?
2007-02-03 08:20:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
u never forget them just have to move on
2007-02-03 08:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to patch things up if things weren't right when you
separated. I lost my first husband in 1998. I felt totally lost. I took a long time to clean and leave the place. I llived with him over 15 full time years. I loved him dearly. I chose to leave and go to my hometown in NY.
It was 4 years before I met someone special. I have since then gotten married and life is more beautiful than I could ever imagine.
2007-02-03 16:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by michelegokey2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find Him!!! I liked my future wife in HS. We went out once and we were just in two differnt groups of people. (I was a jock and she was in the marching band) I saw her 7 yrs later in passing and could'nt really talk to her. (she was with a guy and I was working) I got an e-mail from her a year and a half ago and we are getting married in April 2007. We are both 34 yrs old. Love is a crazy thing. True love never dies! GO FOR IT!!!
2007-02-03 16:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Mr.Know It All 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chasing a guy any kind of guy no matter how much you loved or love him isn't going to make things better you need to move on and get to know other people obviously you guys weren't made for each other.
why spend the rest of your life chasing a guy when you can move on and enjoy your life with someone Else!?
Its not worth it!!!
2007-02-03 16:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... um I think you need to contact this guy and see what he has been up to. You are thinking of him so much that you are missing out on the present time. Just get it over with...send him an email or something.
2007-02-03 16:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by Cyndee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get over him if i was in his position i would of done the same thing there are alot of better guys out there give them a chance and dont dwell on the past
2007-02-03 16:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by Rusty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u r trying not to forget him,u need to find someone real ,not live in past memories ,maybe u dated and u blame other guys always or compare them to him,have to erase him and leave place for something realistic and true ,dont forget he left u
2007-02-03 16:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by reifguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find him and see what he's up to. if you don't, you will never be able to move on, even if he's married or not. make contact with him, and if he chooses not to meet with you, you can at least know that you did try, and hopefully you'll be able to move on. good luck!
2007-02-03 17:24:38 · answer #8 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on and u dont get a chance.
2007-02-03 20:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋