Question Details: Hi i am sabeena. I belong to a muslim family. I was a winner of a beauty contest during my collage time so i fond of doing fashion but in my religion after marriage womens have to wear "Burqa". That's why i hate my religion. My parent always against with my good looking fashionable dresses and they also told me that i will also have to wear burqa after marriage. I hate this type of religion who restrict women to wear clothes of its own choice. My elder sister is also wearing burqa but i don't want to wear burqa. I told my problem to my best friend neha who is married hindu. she told me that his brother Rahul likes me & he want to marry me. If i agree to marry him then after marriage i don't need to wear a burqa and i will get all the freedom which i can't expect in my religion. I have seen many hindu gals who had as much as freedom after marriage as they want. I am in confussion what to do? should i marry him.
2007-02-03 08:13:10 · 12 answers · asked by Zaheer Alam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marry him if you love him
2007-02-03 08:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well...
A). I do not know what religion that is that makes a woman obligated to wear Burqa (especially after marriage?..first time hearing that one)...must be some kind of Taliban laws, definitely not Islam.
B) Since you hate your religion so much, why are you still in it?
C) Who is telling you that you MUST wear Burqa? Your Parents?...If you let your parents walk all over you as they are doing now, its no ones fault but yours. Quit being so soft and take a stand for yourself. Can't stand weak women.
D) Do you even know this guy? Have you talked to him or are you just marrying him because someone said he likes you? Marriage is a seriouse commitment. Be wise.
2007-02-03 16:25:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think you should follow what your heart says, freedom. But for what i know, if you convert from Muslim to any other religion, you will have some problems with your family in the future. This may be good, or may be not, is it worthy enough to do (convert), i think its yourself who should decide.
I have a friend who got the similar problem, she's a muslim and wanted to marry a buddhist guy, they had relationship for around 15 yrs, but none of them wants to convert, so they broke up. But then not so long after that, she found another guy who wants to convert to muslim, whom she loves, and now she's going to marry him.
Even though im not muslim, i have some muslim friends who are married but they really never wear that burqa thing, i dont kno, is that actually a must?
2007-02-03 16:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by floydrose86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you even know this guy who ur thinking of marrying? It sounds like u just heard Rahul likes you and ur considering marriage. Meet him, date him and see if he is ur husband material. No matter how much freedom you get out of ur marriage wouldnt worth marrying a guy u dont love... and really do you have to marry a hindo guy for freedom? is that the only religion group that will give you freedom? Marriage lasts a lifetime.. pick someone who ur in love with!
2007-02-03 16:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should first choose the religion you want. You don't have to be Muslim because your family says so. I don't think Muslim is as strict as it is portrayed to be. I'm Christian so I wouldn't know. But if you want to be Hindu, then be Hindu, not just to get out of wearing a Barqa. You should also marry a man because you love them.
Krazy Libra
2007-02-03 16:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Muslim, I can't see your parents agreeing for you to marry a Hindu. If so,make sure you check out all the Hindu customs before you go and marry someone of a different faith.
2007-02-03 16:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by Candace E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the results of taking this course of action - your parents will not like it. They may forbid it - and if you go against their wishes, they may very well disown you. Is that what you want? I am sorry to hear that you are unhappy. I am not Muslim, but I am married to a Muslim. He doesn't believe in the Burga and doesn't expect me or any woman to wear it. There are plenty of moderate and liberal Muslim men out there. I suspect if you are discerning enough, you will find one and he will be more acceptable to your parents than this Hindu man you speak of.
2007-02-03 16:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why asking me ? It's your life. You're the only one who know what is best for you.
Don't marry someone based on religion. Marry someone if you love him and you pretty sure that he's the one (your destiny)...no matter what's his religion.
But one wise thing to remember, you're life will be HAPPY only if you follow your husband religion. If you don't follow your husband religion, then it may create many conflict in the future.
Be wise. You're the one who gonna carry it you're whole life. You know you're right...
2007-02-07 03:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok now , lets get for real
It really does not matter what u wear married or not.
Its the fact whether u love this fellar or not.
Dont marry him for just material wearing purposes.
There is more to life than fashion and clothin.
2007-02-03 16:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What country do you live in??
2007-02-03 16:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by tomterry101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋