I don't know anything about renewing vows, but I would like to know if there is any way I can suprise my husband with getting our vows renewed next month while we are on our vacation. He has been in Iraq for the last year (military) and I want to do something to show him how much I love him. How can I set this up without him knowing? I jus want something very private with just me, him and our two kids. What will I need to do? Do we need new rings? Does this have to be done in a chruch?
2007-02-03 07:20:26 · 5 answers · asked by honeybear 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok, good idea.....I will tell him rather than suprise him. Is this something that we can make private with just us and our kids? And is it wrong of me to want to get a beautiful dress/gown? Or should we keep it simple? How do I find a preacher in the San Antonio or Chorpus Christi area when that will do this for us?
2007-02-03 07:40:34 · update #1
It doesn't have to be done in a church... doesn't have to involve rings... However it might make it more special.
The whole idea of renewing your vows is to rededicate a public commitment and a personal commitment to each other. I would recommend letting him know... maybe you should "propose" to him. The reason I suggest letting him know is that often times when people renew their vows, they want to write their own vows, rather than just doing the "repeat after me" ceremony.
Nonetheless, the reception is an important part that allows you to affirm your new re-commitment infront of all your friends and family.
My wife and I renewed our vows last year after 20 years of marriage. I'm so thankful to be in love today more than I was when we first married. It's a very special and sadly rare commitment to renew your vows after several years of marriage. But I think it's great!
Oh... and thank you husband for me for servicing in the military!
2007-02-03 07:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by JT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the previous post that it would be more meaningful to both of you to know and plan it in advance. I think, you suggesting it will be a nice surprise to him, and then you can both prepare for it together. There are no specific rules regarding the vow renewal ceremony - it might proceed similar to an informal wedding. If it's just you two and the kids, you could all get dressed up, and have the kids hold candles or something, then you join them and recite the vows you have written. You can try and google "vow renewal" to get more ideas. Often people want their friends and family there, they have a reception and cake; but I don't really know how to "jazz up" a private ceremony. You could make reservations in a nice restaurant for dinner afterwards.
2007-02-03 15:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's better so he knows so you can plan together. Your church may offer a special vow renewal ceremony separately, or as a part of the regular service, so talk to your minister. DON'T get new rings; aren't your originals special enough? You do not wear a wedding gown, just a nice dress. I would just have the ceremony, then family and close friends over for dinner.
This is most commonly done at the 25th anniversary, but lately I have heard of vows being renewed at the 10th.
2007-02-03 17:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We renewed our vows in our Bible Study class, on the day that marked 50 yrs. for us. It just happened to be a Sunday. It was preformed by the Minister of Seniors who also was our wonderful teacher. There are no legal or official papers needed.
I don't think this kind of thing should be a surprise but rather something you plan and do together.~~
Good Luck and God Bless Your Family
2007-02-03 15:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need new rings. You are renewing your vows, but the rings are still symbolic of the union itself. My only suggestion, I would not spring this on someone as a surprise. It is something that you need to get your head around first for it to really sink in and be a meaningful moment. Just my opinion.
2007-02-03 15:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sabrina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋