shes been dating him for like 6 months and he constantly talks about me ( in a bad way). he gets mad when she hangs out with me because i have alot of guy friends and he doesn't like her being around other guys. she also chooses him over me all the time. i honestly want to kill her lately. so how can i get things back to how they used to be?j
p.s. weve been friends for 12 years and i dont' want our friendship to get ruined over a guy.
2007-02-03 07:06:58 · 15 answers · asked by kellywithay23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
How about just telling her, or kicking his ***, jk.
I would either tell her, wait for them to break up b/c i know its not going to last some time and then your friend will know how you feel.
2007-02-03 07:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by Intuition 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pretty common for individuals to start neglecting their friends when they find a new boyfriend/girlfriend. They tend to get wrapped up in the new person. Try not to think of it as her choosing him over you, because what she really wants is to have you both but hasn't yet figured out how to make that happen.
If you don't press the situation, then you won't risk your friendship over the guy. Spend more time with your other friends. Give her some space, and eventually she'll come to realize what she's doing.
I had a friend who did something similar to me, and just recently she apologized for not being there for me. Even hearing it ten years later, it was very healing.
2007-02-03 07:25:38 · answer #2 · answered by ms_lain_iwakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, i have been in your position---quite recently. the friend in question has been dating her guy for almost 8 months now, and the first 6 were filled with issues much like yours....
you need to understand that your friend is "in love" with this guy. she is hoping to make a future with him, which means that he is going to get 90% of her time and attention whether you like it or not. its time for you to accept the situation for what it is and find some new friends. you don't have to lose your 12 yr friendship with this chick, but it IS going to be re-defined if you like it or not, so you might as well get used to it.
as for you hanging out with a lot of guys..... why don't you stop blaming her boyfriend for everything, and take note. first of all, if YOU got a boyfriend, most of those guys would be long gone....so what makes you think that he would feel any differently about his girlfriend hanging out with that many?
when i was in this situation, i had to decide.... do i really want this friendship cuz if i do, then i needed to change MY thinking.
and sorry, but that is what YOU can do to fix the problem. you can't control other people and she is not going to stop seeing him cuz you want that..... so get over it! and work on yourself.
2007-02-03 07:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats always really frusterating. Some day (even the day she may break up with her boyfriend) she's going to realize what a mistake she made by leaving you out. For now, give her and her b/f some space and find some other friends to hang out with for awhile.
Shes your best friend right?then just talk to her about it and see what she has to say.
2007-02-03 07:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by sportsluvr209 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really imagine a number of this pastime, comes from the lacking chum being narcissistic. She needs interest, and receives it in any respect expenditures, even ignoring her authentic pals. it is no longer a lot that they don't look to be recent on your existence at recent, yet there are deeper themes frequently, alongside with if in case you've been used with assistance from her for courting suggestion, then exceeded over each and every time she had a boyfriend. She is enthusiastic concerning the courting, because it is feeding her interest desires. it is no longer authentic love, because she in all likelihood isn't able to it. She in all likelihood is someone who won't be able to be on my own and feeds off of others for interest, and using them for suggestion. those type of human beings are the varieties which will communicate about themselves continuously. e-mail in reality is a good thanks to work out the trend, because you've written info of her one sided conversations. i do not see you as jealous in any respect, this does no longer come from jealousy, it comes from a feeling of getting used for suggestion, then even as she receives suggestion for her courting, she leaves until eventually the courting would not paintings. Then she will beg to have you ever decrease back.
2016-11-02 05:39:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should confront her about how you feel. And then tell her that you dont want it to ruin your friendship. if she still continues to ignore you, then say ggodbye to her. She should get her act together. Friends should NEVER pick a guy over their friends.
2007-02-03 13:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by AJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from me . he likes u !! mad as it sounds she is not talking 2 u cause girls know how 2 hang on 2 there man. ur not a friend now ur treat. either until they split up or get married. belive me get a boyfriend & ye will b good as new again. unless she gets 2 like ur guy!!lol.
2007-02-03 07:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she is really your friend she would be with you more i can see like the first few weeks its new and shes wantting to be with him all the time but she had to choose and it sounds like she chose him it happens alot in life but talk to her tell her how you feel if she cant see your hurting then shes not the friend you thought she was
2007-02-03 07:12:45 · answer #8 · answered by ibebarbie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friendship has already been tainted. You can choose to still be her friend and when she's ready she'll come back around but maybe you'll be busy. Be nice but be careful.
2007-02-03 07:15:03 · answer #9 · answered by doe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is try to sit down with her and tell her what you think. if he is making up things or over exaggerating things tell her. If she is a true Friend she will understand.
2007-02-03 07:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋