i went into my husbands email to edit some pics and found this email it said - mark how are you?it was good to see you again even if you did give me the cold shoulder.your sons are so big! mary- it sounds like she ran into my husband and his sons some where. but why the follow up email and whats with the comment about "cold sholder".my husband is the friendlist person i'm sure he was nice to her but what was she expecting? i do have to say they have a huge history together and she has made problems in his last marrage.the last time they saw each other was about 4 yrs ago.
2007-02-03 06:52:32 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You would rather it said "It was so wonderful seeing you and being with you again!"? You should be asking your husband this if you couldn't figure it out, but It is obvious he ran into her and blew her off. You should be glad. And I hope your husband knows you read his e-mail, or you may just be his new ex-wife.
2007-02-03 07:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Lets get to the email. This is a person who 'was' once your husband's girlfriend, but not anymore because he is 'married' to you. He married you instead and you both have sons and a great marriage, I would assume.
You need to ask your husband why she has his email address and why the letter to him. If your husband gave her the cold shoulder that should be good news for you! He must have done that because he didn't really want to talk to her. Maybe she was expecting a good hand shake or who knows, and why are you worrying about it? You are the one who is married to him, not her!
The only thing that you should be concerned about is how she got his email address. Don't bring up his past with her, you will just fuel the fire, plus never bring the past up ever again! It will ruin your marriage! Just let it go.
If you already know what this woman had already done in the past, no use in bringing it up to his attention. Don't look for the drama, just move forward with your marriage and be thankful that he chose you for his wife! (smile)
2007-02-03 07:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's trying to make problems in this marriage, too. But the fact that your husband gave her a "cold shoulder" is telling me that he's not interested in her come-ons. I think I probably would not talk to him about it. It would only stir the past - why remnid him any more of it? Seems to me like he has good judgement, let it go. The fact that he has no problem with you going into his e-mail tells me he's got nothing to hide.
P.S. He "didn't tell you" about seeing her because 1) To him, it is probably insignificant (which is good) and 2) He didn't want you to worry needlessly (like you're doing now). I don't report to my husband anytime I run into some former b/f - it happens so rarely, that this information is pretty much irrelevant; it's not even worth my time to tell him the story. Don't worry, you're fine!
That she has his e-mail doesn't surprise me. If he's had this e-mail address for a while (like many people do nowadays) - then of course she has it. I've had the same e-mail address for close to 8 years now, so a lot of people have it. I'm not gonna change my e-mail every time I break up with someone, you know.
2007-02-03 07:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused -- how do you "edit some pics" through your husband's email account? I'm an IT professional and I don't know how to do this.
Snoops quite often get what they ask for -- trouble and lots of it. Since this woman is chiding your husband for "giving her the cold shoulder", he's obviously not doing anything wrong.
However, by reading a private communication addressed to someone else -- someone who trusts you enough to allow you access to his email -- YOU are doing something wrong.
Mind your own business. He's your husband and life partner, and your marriage license says nowhere on it that you own him.
2007-02-03 07:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by sparticle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In other words..Your husband was not friendly toward her..Made it very clear to her..He is not interested in her..in any way shape or form..she ran into him and his sons..it was not a planned meeting on his part..she is expecting to cause problems in his relationship with you..because he does not want her in his life..she can not stand his rejection..it is called revenge..if she can not have him..she is going to do her best..so no one else will want him either..in other words she is trying to destroy his relationships..because he does not want her..she is expecting to get the two of you into a fight about her..expecting to cause problems in your relationship with him..she sounds like a stalker..can not take no for an answer..the best way to hurt her is to ignore anything she says or does..it is called giving her the cold shoulder.
2007-02-03 07:18:59 · answer #5 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband knows she's trouble. If I were you, I'd be proud he gave her the cold shoulder. Maybe she was expecting him to be happy to see her.
If she's that big of a pain, your husband handled the situation beautifully.
It seems obvious to me that their "huge history" is just that, history. Give him some extra lovin tonight for being such a good guy!
2007-02-03 07:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You found good news. She said cold shoulder. Be happy. You seem to have a husband that disappointed his old girlfriend, because he didn't act excited or glad he ran into her. Say nothing, fix him a great dinner, and do your darnest to kill the guy tonight in bed. LOL
2007-02-03 07:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing, he did it for you by giving her the cold shoulder. Your husband is good man, give him all the love you can because he is one in a million. Why did she email him trying to get something going because he ignored her and hoping you would get mad because she sent him a email. forget her , she is a troublemaker up to no good.
2007-02-03 07:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like nothing is going on. It sounds like he just bumped in to an old flame and wasn't interested in chatting with her. Take it as it is and don't read in to it where there's nothing to read. I would bring up the fact that you were in his email and saw the email and ask him if she is bothering him. Always be up front and honest. You may also ask yourself why it is that you had to go in to his email, were you looking for something?
2007-02-03 07:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to ur husband about it! Maybe your husband gave her the cold shoulsder because since he has been married with her once maybe she is trying to start anothere relantionship with him and your husband probably knew that she would do that so he probably did not even want to bother with her!
2007-02-03 07:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋