marriage problems?

Question

I dont understand why married people come online looking to chat with strangers about their marriage problems..I think talking to your spouse is much better then talking to some stranger and i dont think its gonna help ur marriage being on the computer chatting about ur problems do something about it instead of talking about it with a stranger..Anybody agree.

Answer 1

I'm not married, but I have been in a relationship for 3 years and I do agree with you. Nobody knows more about YOUR problems that you and your spouse. Talking to someone else isn't going to fix what's wrong with YOU.

Answer 2

Baji ji, I am very sorry to hear your marriage problem. The most marriage are like that on and off. I am married for 1 year and 4 months hamdullallah so we always went like on and off as I mean once we argument and other time we making a love. He is also my cousin. I don't know what up to your husband. I am sure there must be something reason that he don't communicate with you. I also know that your husband doesn't love you in that way. Try to sit with him and talking with him very nicer way and ask him what situation problem he have. Ask him a question as much you can. Which you think it important you to ask. Beware, it might be somebody have put the black magic on your husband as it happen load people have a problem over the moneys, the marriage, the house, the relationship, can't have a baby and etc. You need to find out about it if he have or not. Inshallah Allah (SWT) will be fix your marriage work and give plenty love between you and your husband, Ameen, Baji...

Answer 3

I agree to a degree. I think that people don't communicate enough or try hard enough when problems arise. But I have also seen people who refuse to communicate or to try and change so that leaves the other spouse out in the wind so to speak. So I can understand people trying to get answers anywhere they can. Most people can't afford or won't go to marriage counseling because of their own inate fears. For example, my best friend kept trying to get her husband to go to counseling because of the problems they were having. He wouldn't even talk about them with her. This went on for years. Finally she couldn't take being in a relationship where there wasn't any communication and she left it. Which was sad because I hate seeing any marriage disolve.

So I do get how important it is to work on relationships and not drag strangers in to it unless those strangers are professional counselors who can only help. And I also can see someone trying to seek help via the internet even though it's not the best place to find solice.

Answer 4

Sometimes I think its easier for people to talk to strangers, b/c the stranger want criticize them or put them down, like their spouse can do sometimes. I think whatever helps you with your marriage and If talking to a stranger helps you to talk to your spouse then do It. I mean come on when you go to a counselor do u know them, they are a stranger that you are telling your problems to, Is that any different?

Answer 5

Totally agree with you there, though I think I understand why they'd rather discuss their problems with perfect strangers. It's the comfort of getting a fresh, unbiased opinion, or of meeting someone who has gone through a similar experience.

Still, far more divorces would be prevented if people just faced real life every once in a while.

Answer 6

Your 100% right may be the time spent on the computer was a help to loosing communication with your other half communication and thought help to build a mar rage never the less working daily at your mar rage is the only way to build sound foundations and a willingness to make the relationship work

Answer 7

Talking to others, anonymously (as opposed to friends and family for example) is a great way to get some perspective before or during tackling issues with your spouse.
A little advice and knowledge to make informed decisions from never hurts.

Answer 8

I totally agree. If it that person hasn't voiced their concerns with their spouse or mate first, it's not cool. It wouldn't want to use Yahoo as a way to air out my dirty laundry during the fact. Not for marriage no.

Answer 9

yeah and no.
i am sure people dont chat here to get the definite final answer....i think it just helps reflect what is on your mind and hearing what others have to share to kind of get the mind a break.
communication is grand even when it is from a stranger.

Answer 10

In a marriage or any relationship for that matter, any help a person can get is always beneficial, however its up to those involved to resolve the conflict. So getting information on any subject as important as relationships I'm all for it.