I just broke up with my bf/finace or 2.5 years and I was and possible still am dating a guy for 3 weeks. I dont know if we are still together becuase I have not talked to him at all for the past 2 days and he is not reterning any of my calls. I dont know what to do with him. I have a roomate and she has a bf who stays in the dorms with us, and I see them happy and all I can do is sit here and feel down becuase I dont have many friends becuase people tend to not like me. I always want to go hang out and have fun but I never do becuase I am hated for something that I have done in my past. I have a couple of questions; 1. What should I do anbout my bf of 3 weeks? 2. How can I be less shy and more outgoing? 3. How can I get people to like me? Please help me i am to the point where I would rather die then live, just becuase I say that does not mean I am going to do something stupid. I just want help I am depressed(not clinically proven)but I can tell becuase I am tears from everything latly
2007-02-03 06:47:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Also, I am away from home and all my friends, the only persont that I really have here is my roomate. I would go home but that is 1100 miles away.
2007-02-03 07:15:24 · update #1
Now the answer to your questions:
1.I'm sorry to say, but if your bf is ignoring you, he is a jerk. He may just not be home or not checking his messages, but...yeah. If he doesn't call back, then just forget about him.He's a real jerk for ignoring you, and you deserve better. :Like I said, he may just be busy or not at home.
2. Your shy huh? Shyness isn't something easy to fix, so you'll just have to step out of your comfort zone. Go to a social event and talk to some other girls. Ask people you know at work if you wanna grab lunch or see a movie. (girls/guys as a friend) I know you'll hate it, cause believe me, breking shyness is difficult. Just think: What's the worst that can happen. The other person gotta be a real snob to say no. (unless their busy) And you wouldn't want a snob for a friend, right?
3. You people to like you right? Well, believe it or not, people may think you're stuck up because your shy. It's happened to me before. The best thing you van do is follow my advice in #2, be sweet, and do favors for others.
I've never really heard of a person who hates people who are as sweet as a lamb
Okay, don't cry, and don't kill yourself. Life is a good thing when you look at it in the light. It is the only thing you truly own. Just remember, that there is someone out there who loves you dearly and would die for you.
2007-02-03 07:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by Carly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Dump him. He sounds like a loser. You are a winner and winners don't hang out with losers.
2. I wish I could help you there, but I'm not the best person to give that kind of advice. Mainly, just take a few chances. Go someplace where you don't know anyone and just talk to someone. Who cares if it goes bad because no one will know you.
3. Be yourself. Treat others the way you want to be treated. If your friends are losers, then dump them.
2007-02-03 07:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by wl_hung 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. What should I do anbout my bf of 3 weeks? - give him a little slack - people can get busy. dont freak and bombard him with emails or calls, give him space.
2. How can I be less shy and more outgoing? just say whatever you are thinking, be weird, talk to random people. yell. do whatever you feel like doing!!!
3. How can I get people to like me? just be friendly and fun, and yourself. try to find something you both like (like music) and then invite them to come somewhere with you (a concert).
2007-02-03 06:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by dancing on the sumbeams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem a bit low, and you've clearly got low self esteem. Go to the doc's cos you might actually be suffering from depression, and he can help. Talk to a trusted family member about anything you need to get out in the open.
Chin up, head high. Things'll get better.
Good luck!
2007-02-03 06:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by x-ROAR-Rocker-x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. what you need to do is go see your boyfriend of 3 weeks and talk to him... see is he is still your boyfriend... see if he is okay and if there was something that you did to turn him away...
2. there are tons of things you can do to become more outgoing... for instance, with the few friends that are close to you, see if they want to have a game night and have them all bring their fav game or a movie night (same rules apply) and they can bring their friends and you can all cook together and then have some social activities... it doesn't cost much, but it will give you a social benifit... or you can convince your roommate to set you up on a blind date with one of her boyfriends friends (even though you are not sure of your current status, you are NOT confined to one guy... leave your options open, don't turn anything down... if you don't enjoy your date, you at least appreciate your "bf" afterwards...)
3. first off, you have to be confident and love yourself before anyone else can like you. If you have to, teach yourself to be flexible, go to a sporting event (i.e., basketball game, soccar, baseball) even if you don't like it, with your roommate... if she likes those kinds of things... do something with her that she likes to do, even if you have to suffer alittle... she will probably introduce you to some people... and you will gradually get outside of your box. it helps to become friends with your roommate(s)... they know people that you don't...
and if all else fails, you can talk to me. ^_^ my myspace is www.myspace.com/janilleclaudette
and my aim is itoshiinaraku
I hope this helps!!!
2007-02-03 06:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by Janille S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you dont like yourself very much begin there and realize you are just as good as anyone else call your boy friend ask him what the problem is and if there is one should there be one remember before you and he were b/f g/f he had to come along /others will come and perhaps he is not the one anyway /try not to be so shy people are just that people and they dont know you either so introduce yourself and try to include yourself.....good luck and God Bless
2007-02-03 07:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ignored 2: existence, AND WHY? God made you using fact He loves you. you have this variety of ingredient called 'purpose', it is the reason you're unique, different. That makes you 'particular', particular to not me, who cares approximately me, yet particular to the guy who created you--God. So, having coming to this end it would do you plenty stable, to hunt His will to your existence, and stay it to the ideal of your means. stable success.
2016-12-13 08:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by casco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a real person...true to yourself & others & people WILL like you. Sometimes if you put on an act to make others like you, you become transparent to them.
As for your b/f, forget his ***...if he wants to be with you, he'll call.
Two words for you...SPELL CHECK!!!
2007-02-03 06:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by itsjustchris1968 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax, and a bit of information - you cannot make any one like you, just love yourself as you are.
2007-02-03 06:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋