what does it mean?
and why do they keep sayin it - dont they know it kinda hurts ??
other then that I've also heard, dont worry -
I am like Ok
But - Why do they do it??
n what do i do?
2007-02-03 06:34:59 · 12 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ignore them. Tell them that you're not willing to settle down with just anybody and would rather wait for the right person to come along. Couples often want their single friends to hook up because they feel guilty that they've found somebody and their single friends are still alone. They usually don't mean to hurt your feelings when they urge you to find someone. But do tell them that you're taking your time.
2007-02-03 06:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by chiapet159 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they are intentionally trying to hurt your feelings, but they are probably just thinking that's what you want (which, you might) but they shouldn't bring it up so often. Sometimes our friends/families don't think about what they are saying.....
I remember when my sister wanted kids so desperately, and they were getting treatments, etc, trying so hard, but weren't telling anyone about it, as to not get their hopes up, or constant questions... but STILL, people bugged them..."why don't you have kids yet? you've been married for xx years?. You should have kids.." It hurt her really bad to hear that because it's not like she wasn't trying, and her friends (even some family members that didn't know) were nagging her about it. It was a big invasion of her privacy, and in your case, it may be the same.
People should mind their own business and only give advice when it is requested.
2007-02-03 15:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by catchernkeeper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are your friends, they are probably worried that you are lonely. If they are happy couples, they want you to find the same happiness they have found in each other. If you are lonely, maybe consider online dating. I did and found a wonderful guy. If you are happy being single, tell your friends that you appreciate your concern, but you are quite content being alone and are you have them for company. I was single for 12 years and it was hard going out with all of my couples friends, but I had fun and now that I have found someone, I'm having even more fun.
2007-02-03 14:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you are waiting for the one God has put upon this earth for you and that you are not going to interfere with Gods plans.
They do things like this to POINT out the fact you are there ALONE (as if you didn't already know this) They may think that you are LONELY and that the only way NOT to be lonely is to have a significant other.
2007-02-03 14:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by kevferg64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they tell u that cause they dont wnat u to feeel left out
u kno feel weird because u all go to the movies and ur the only one without an arm around ur shoulder
tell them ur perfectly secure about not havin a boyfriend
and when u WANT one ull get them
and if it hurts ur feelins
...be like guys lay off ur bein kinda harsh ok?
good luck honey
2007-02-03 14:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by leandrasmiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you!!!! ugh. people keep telling me that and then they are like. What's wrong with you that you aren't taken. Or they assume that I'm a closet gay. I've just started responding with "Do have anyone in mind" they nprmally dont so they change the subject
2007-02-03 14:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by I Have A Question 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anybody does it to hurt you they care about you ,and don't think you should be alone. What I would do is first don't let iy bother you. just say to them that when the time is right I'll have somebody in my life. This is my time to become, and do the things I need to or just want to.
2007-02-03 14:45:48 · answer #7 · answered by russell c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friends probably just want you to experience what they are currently experiencing, without understanding that you're okay just as you are.
Just smile, nod, and ignore them. Remember, being single is all right!
2007-02-03 14:37:38 · answer #8 · answered by ms_lain_iwakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the more you get to know people, the better you like your dog. If they cannot relate to that or understand what that means, that's their problem.
2007-02-03 15:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they don't want you to be alone anymore ? Just let them know that you are compfortable bein a single woman ! Show your confidence ! And they won't bug you anymore .
2007-02-03 14:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋