She doesnt have anyone to help her, and shes stuck b/w a hard place and a metal wall.
I hate the idea of her having an abortion, and i wish i was at a point to where i could adopt her baby. She asked me to be the god-mom.
I am so confused. Shes going next saturday, how can I deal?
2007-02-03 06:30:34 · 16 answers · asked by Bored Much 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
All she needs right now is a friend to talk to first... usually when people make decisions about having an abortion the reasons are usually someone that is influencing her to do so , whether it is a parent or the boyfriend. and the decision of an abortion is usually a rash decision that is made without thinking. I know several women that ran to go do the procedure and regret it every day of their lives. a baby is a very precious gift, and should be given a chance; so help her understand if this is really something she WANTS to do rather than something she thinks she HAS to do. I would never give the advice to go with her and have the procedure b/c i do not want any part in someones choice of helping to terminate a child.. Plead with her to make the right decision for her child and herself. Whatever you do do not encourage the abortion... good luck
2007-02-03 07:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by finallyamommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a biochemistry significant, i need to push for an abortion if the toddler is extremely undesirable. do no longer experience undesirable for "killing an unborn toddler" even as getting an abortion because legally AND biologically, unborn human fetuses are not to any extent further considered little ones. through definition an unborn toddler is a parasite. it would want to no longer stay without its host (the mum) and frequently even motives the host issues, very like a tapeworm. Now, i'm no longer announcing that the zygote is tapeworm, only that there is not any reason to experience undesirable for aborting a toddler which will be delivered right into a courting that could no longer waiting to receive it. All in all, although, that is a large determination and should be heavily deliberated.
2016-11-24 21:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by chamberland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she asking you to be the godmother of a baby she plans to murder? You may not be able to talk her out of this, but you should try. She seems ambivalent. And if you cannot talk her out of it, then for your own soul's sake, you should not help her to kill her child. Let her know that you will be there for her and the baby and will help them any way you can. Ane mean it. God may have put you into her life for just that reason. If she thinks she can go on with her life afterward like nothing happened, she is wrong. That unborn child will always be in her thoughts. A close member of my family once had an abortion, and I still grieve for that child. He or she would be a high-school graduate by now.
2007-02-03 06:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by Amalthea 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way. If your friend was holding a gun to the head of an infant and threatening to pull the trigger, would you help her do it? Would you support that kind of behavior? Or, would you do what you could to save the baby and save your friend from a lifetime of physical and emotional damage?
There IS help available for your friend. If she goes to a pregnancy care center, they can give her referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free ultrasounds (at some centers); free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; and counseling and emotional support. All of their services are free and confidential. You can find one near you by calling 1-800-395-HELP or visiting:
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp
You could offer to go with your friend and see what kind of help they offer. Also, please show your friend this information:
Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm
Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf
I have soft, life-sized models of unborn babies at 11-12 weeks, as well as lots of pamphlets on abortion risks, prenatal development, etc. I'd be happy to send some to you to give to your friend, if you are interested. I can send them via Priority Mail and get them to you in 2-3 days. Let me know if I can help.
2007-02-04 06:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go with her and support her during this difficult time. Everyone makes mistakes and she will have to live with this for the rest of her life. Anyone that says that you or her are "murderers" or that you are killing this baby have obviously never been in a position to decide what to do. Just make sure she understands what she is doing and that it is not a snap decision.
2007-02-03 08:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by jenndriscoll530 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be there for your friend. It's her decision and hers alone. Even if you don't agree, she's still your friend. I know it's hard not being judgmental but in the end are you going to be financially supporting that baby (if she had it) or waking up 7 times a night to feed the baby. She has made the decision she feels is best for her and you should respect that. And unfortunately she would probably never give her child up for adoption, especially to a friend who she sees on a regular basis...
Just be there with her. Everyone goes through hard times, and someday when you are going through yours, you'll hope she's there for you.
2007-02-03 06:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by RitzFitz29 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ask her to visit and adoption agency. There are many people out there that want to adopt a child and are more than willing to pay all the expenses of a pregnancy and such. If she is steadfast in getting the abortion, then do your part as her friend and be there for her. If you don't agree with her getting the abortion let her know, but re-enforce the fact that you are her friend and that will be there with her through out all of it. I really hope that she changes her mind about abortion and decides to put the child up for adoption, but good luck to you and your friend either way.
2007-02-03 06:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by truckerman96 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Tell her not to have the abortion,tell her what they will do to her baby when she is in there..if she does go,tell her to ask for an us and see the baby no screen...they are going to murder this child and the child will feel everything if old enough...Dont take her if she refuses what u say,leave her to do it alone..u shoudl have no part in her killing her own baby...
2007-02-03 07:27:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her i dont reALLY agree with a abortion and i would love to adopt your baby if this is a posibility.
and tell her if she dose that why did she have sex if she dident want the kid?
also tell her you wouldnt want to be a murder would you
2007-02-03 06:48:20 · answer #9 · answered by JILL B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask her gently to come to church with you. There should be someone that she can speak with confidentially.
But - if in the end, she does go, I would take her just to be by her side. Thats a tough one. God bless, I'll be praying for yall!
Wow, Tupac - Keep Ya Head Up is on right now too.
2007-02-03 06:39:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋