Especially when you do all of the stuff a mother is supposed to do and more. And then get told "Your not my mother!" or "You treat me like a stepchild". This is the hardest and most rewarding thing I have ever done.
2007-02-03 06:26:46 · 6 answers · asked by peach 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I could talk to you for hours! I am in the same situation. Bad part about it...the child really won't realize just how wonderful you are until he/she is grown...Good part about it....you have such an influence on that childs life!
I tell my son (stepson) all the time...you may think you hate me for it now...but I promise you...you will love me for it later!
Good luck to you and stay strong!
2007-02-03 06:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by emotional blonde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you are feeling. I had one of my childhood stuffed animals gutted by an angry five year old. It's been getting easier. However, I still get those moments when I want to break down and cry. That's usually when she comes up to me with a picture she colored with 'I love my stepmommy' scrawled on the top.
Hang in there and stay focused on the rewards, that is what will keep you going...that and about 4 cups of coffee, (or is that just me?).
2007-02-03 22:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand where you are coming from. I'm not a stepparent, but my husband is to my kids. They love to say things like that and I try to correct them. Deep down they know he does more for them than their real dad and they know he loves them, but I think it's just an excuse when things get a little to strict for them. Hang in there. It's not easy.
2007-02-03 14:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by ஐ♥Gin♥ஐ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. I do not know the feeling, but I have a couple of friends in that situation and I respect what they and you are doing. I have two boys of my own and I can only hope that if they ever have a stepmom, they have someone who really cares and is happy to have that role.
2007-02-03 14:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by sammiejane67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a parent, period , is difficult...kids say things to hurt their parents, no matter what the situation...If they were your biological kids theyd just replace the things theyre saying to"I wish you werent my mother" or "You are the worst mother ever"...try not to take it personally...be honest with them when the say such things..."If you're trying to hurt me, it worked" or "I feel sad when you say those things"...maybe theyll start seeing you as a person with feelings..
2007-02-03 14:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by ~LAX Mom~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine
2007-02-03 14:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by Wandering Sage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋