what should you do when you are having problems in your marriage?

Answer 1

Marriage counseling, if you both of you want to save your marriage.

Answer 2

Try to work things out the best you can. As long as you are not being hurt or abused you should do whatever it takes to make your marriage work. Tough times happen to everyone, so think about what you want and what you are able to do to work on it. If you two can't work things out just the two of you then go to a marriage counselor at your church or find someone in the phone book who specializes in marriage counseling.

Try to figure out what it was that drew you two together in the first place. Try to regain that love and feeling you had for each other and go from there.

Answer 3

Communicate them to your husband. Sit down and let everything out. If you don't tell him then how do you expect it to change. Sometimes us women think too much of something or make it bigger than it really is. And then men usually don't hardly ever realize that there is a problem to begin with. So we have to just tell them why we are upset or what we are thinking. If you don't feel that you can communicate 100% to your husband then find a good counselor that can help you and your husband express your feelings to eachother. If you know your husband will think that there isn't a problem then find some books that back up your thoughts and feelings. This is always good. Because then he understands that other people have the same problems or feel the way that you are feeling and he write it off or make you feel like you're ideas aren't important. Try to work things out before going to a counselor. It will save you money. Communication is the key. You can always try a get away too. And reconnect with eachother.

Answer 4

This must be a big problem, or else you wouldn't seek advice elsewhere. Depending on the problem. You should know in your heart whether it's worth working out or it's time to let it go. But by asking, this should mean that, "you're not ready to let go". So, in this case, I would advice you to do whatever you can to make this work. For whatever the reasons maybe, you sound like you still really care and love your spouse. So, try communicating, sharing, open and honest with one another. Maybe even try date night. Set some times aside, and go out and enjoys the town, remembering what bought y'all together in the first place and what's still keeping you there. We tense to loose focus, so focus on your marriage and what it takes to make it work. Remember it takes two. Good luck.

Answer 5

Both parties have to be willing participants in making the marriage work. If one person stepped out of the marriage (ie cheated) the other might not be willing to just forgive and forget. It really depends on the type of problems that you are having in the marriage. Is he or she seeing someone else? If that is the case....you may have to ask him or her if they want to work on the marriage. If one of you is not willing to work on it then you can't make it work on your own. Love is a two way street and it has to go both ways. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 6

Counseling... Read books...I am reading this book called "How one of you can bring the two of you together." Right now it isn't helping too much, because my husband is across the country and won't be back for a few more months, but it makes sense.

Try to remember that half the problem is how you deal with your problems, how you talk to each other, what your personal expectations are. While I am not placing blame on either of you (you can rarely blame only one partner), remember that just how you speak to your spouse and your expectations make a difference.

Also, it totally depends on the problems...can you elaborate?

Answer 7

everyone has problems in marriage. people may look happy all the time, but, thier not. you need to keep the communication between you and your spouse open as much as possible. talking is the best. but fighting is when it gets bad. you might want to consider a marriage counselor, then if all else fails try to end it in a positive way. both you and your spouse deserve to be happy, and if you or him are not, then your life is going to waist, if you have children, do not stay together just for them, it will confust them even more to see mom and dad fighting, they will adjust. marriage is hard, and living and dealing with another person everyday takes patience and communication. try to look at both sides, and try to do what you feel in your heart is right. you only have one life, you deserve to be happy.

Answer 8

I have been there where to want to make the marriage work but sometimes the other did not you can try counseling and an open communication but that stuff did not work for me. I tried for 2 years and ultimately it turned in divorce so you and he has to weigh what you both want and how far your willing to go to have it!!

Answer 9

Go to counseling if you 2 can't talk things out on your own. My biggest thing is fight til the end (not with your spouse). Fight with everything you have to make your marriage work. I hate when things get hard and people just up and quit and say OK divorce time. Try try & try some more!

Answer 10

EVERYTHING within your human power to save it! Communication is the key. Find out WHY you and your spouse are unhappy. Find out WHAT you and he can do to bring harmony and happiness back. Remember WHY you married in the first place and put each other back in the positions you were in each other's lives when you married.

Anything worth having is worth FIGHTING for. Be strong and flexible and you WILL save your marriage.

Answer 11

get off the Internet and talk with your spouse and talk about your Marriage and the problems you are having... do not ignore your Marriage...