does it hurt to have an abortion?

Question

im onli 16 and i used a condom but i dont no 4 sure if i am but i have missed a period and ive had all the symtoms someone please help me!!!! my mum knows so dont thing im a slag lol..

Answer 1

I have heard it does hurt and you can feel what they do and the baby being ripped out.

In my opinion they should make abortions as painful as possible.

Answer 2

hey these things happen. Ignore the mentalists who have been rude enough to simply ignore your question and slate you! I am sure their lives are s perfect they have never made a mistake or been faced with such a difficult situation.

First thing is to obviously find out if you are pregnant. If you are, think deeply about whether you definitely do not want to have a baby. As hard as it may be to have a child, it is possible. People do it all the time and once they come along you wonder what you would do without them.

I am not a teenage mum but i am sure it really isn't any different.

I have however unfortunately had an abortion. It is an extremely difficult thing to go through. I was pressured into mine.

I had the type where you are awake and yes it is painful, very painful. However you are OK after, obviously very tender but OK. I wanted to suffer as i knew i was making my baby suffer, if that makes sense, hypocritical i know but i dont actually believe in abortions as they can scar you for life.

The emotional side of it is very difficult to deal with as well. It does stay with you and even 4 years on for me i still think about it quite a lot.

I hope this gives you an insight in to how it really is, however scary it may sound from what i have but but better to be honest about it.

I hope you get through it OK whichever route you take.

Answer 3

hello people read the question you all havein a go at her for askin about abortion, should we not be telling her to find out if she is actually pregnant first?!!!
Then if she is we can tell her what we think or abortions bearing in mind everyone has different opinions on this sort of thing.
As we all know just worrying about it can be enough to delay a period for a month or 2, and you are forgetting she said she did use a condom so stop being so nasty and give some real advice for a girl who actually has the sense to use contraception!!!!

For the record, i don't believe in abortion myself, but that is my choice and a decision i have to live with should i ever have an unwanted pregnancy, i will never force that belief on anyone else.

Answer 4

It does. I lost a child early in the pregnancy a few years ago and because my body didn't expel it, they had to do exactly what they do in an abortion. You'll experience a great deal of cramping for several days due to the dilation of your cervix and your uterus clamping down in order to expel the embryonic or fetal tissue, depending on how far along you are.

If you're 16 and your mum knows, why is it you still don't know for sure? Between the two of you, surely one of you has thought about checking with a doc?

Think it through before you rush to one decision or the other. Keep in mind that there are a lot of people out there who want nothing more in this world than to raise a child. It's your choice, but if you are pregnant, you also made the choices to put yourself in that situation.

Answer 5

ITS YOUR CHOICE TO HAVE AN OBORTION.
It feels very uncomfortable, like a very heavy period for about a week. It may hurt you more emotionaly so this is something you need to think about and talk over with your mum. DONT listen to people telling you what you should or shouldnt do, its your life, and your body, AND YOUR CHOICE. People that are telling you it is the wrong, or that it will hurt the child have no right to say that, as you are confused as it is without people trying to make you feel guilty into having the child. You CAN always have the child adopted, but that is for you to decide. Talk to friend, family, and a your gp. Find out first if you are pregnant and go from their. I wish you the best of luck

Answer 6

Yes, it hurts you and hurts the baby. You can get a free, confidential pregnancy test at a pregnancy care center in your area. You can find one here:
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp (USA)
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp (worldwide)

Here's more information you need to see:

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf

Support for Pregnant Teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

You are old enough to do the right thing. Don't let anyone hurt you and your baby.

Answer 7

Despite what others may say, to immediately say you are killing your child and abortion is wrong is a very narrow minded view to take.

You need to be 100% sure about your decision before you go ahead with any course of action. Talk it through with your mum and maybe a councillor of some kind. Don't rush and regret what you have done later.

The effects of an abortion vary depending on the stage of the pregnancy, this is something you do need to talk your doctor about.

Whatever you decide, good luck.

Answer 8

I'm 18 years old and just had an abortion. I live in the u.s.a. though. I made my decision on my own. It is hard and confusing thing to be pregnant especially when unexpected and you know you are not ready. I had to weigh the pros and cons of getting an abortion versus keeping the child. You know that it is hard to think for your future and the future of the baby growing inside of you when everyone is telling you what to do. My decision was easier because I am not religious and do not believe in a higher being, and anyone telling me i was going to suffer and going to the depths of hell for my sins. Anyways if you'd like to know about the procedure this is how it went...

First they take your blood to test the rh factor and also to see if you are anemic. They do an ultrasound to find out how far along in pregnancy you are. (yes the gel is cold on your tummy) Then there was a 15 minute waiting period before the procedure begain. I had to remove my clothes from the waist down and cover my lap with a white drop cloth. Waited a little bit longer for the doctor to come in. When she came in I had to scoot down to the end of the table (just like a pelvic exam or pap smear) At this clinic they offer gas to help take your mind off what's going on down there. Believe me it helped a lot because i'm a wuss. Then the doctor has to feel for the positioning of your uteris(also just like a pelvic exam) then after you are feeling good from the gas, you will be given a local anesthetic by needle in your cervix. That' didn't hurt because after the prick it goes numb. From there I couldn't feel much of anything. They have to numb your cervix to dilate it so the fetus can pass through. They put the tube attached to the vacuum in your uteris, and by looking at the ultra sound the doctor can see where the baby is. It felt like a long menstral cramp. Then they turn on the vacuum and it's all done. I started to bleed because it induces your period. So I had to wipe myself off and then put my clothes back on. I was taken to a peaceful lounge area with recliners and heating pads. I put the heatin pad right on my tummy because I was having menstral cramps. I was given two prescriptions, antibiotics and another that thickens your blood so you don't bleed too fast. After they took my blood pressure for the zillionth time I was ok to go home. I went right to bed and slept all day. I even went to my friends house that night and watched movies. The only thing I don't like is that I have to wear pads-they feel like diapers.

I hope that answers your question. Don't forget to make your decision for you.

Answer 9

having an abortion will hurt u for the rest of ur life, if u feel u can cope with that, then do it,
it is meant to be sore after words, as i was going to do it, but i could not find it in me to go through with it.
it is the biggest decision in ur life think long and hard about it. u can even go through with it and give they child to someone who really wants it, but can't at least someone will be happy that way.

Answer 10

if you used a condom,then you should not be pregnant..you might be late through pure worry.Why should anyone suggest that you are a ****.Not all.An abortion is not an easy option..depending on stage in pregnancy..there are different methods.Not painful..but more mentaly painful..one need sto be really sure and needs lots of support befroe and afterwards.

Answer 11

The emotional pain never goes away, its not a decision to take lightly, however unlike some other judgmental people who have answered your question, its your life, baby and body and its your decision to make, talk to your mum she maybe more understanding than you think.

It does hurt a little, but please talk to someone you trust before you do anything.

Good luck.