I have been working out of town 3 days a week for a month now. I came home last night and found a used condum (we dont use them) in mine and my husband's room. I confronted him and he admited to meeting a girl online and invited her over. He said he lamost had sex, but didnt. I found this girls phone number and I am tempted to call. Should I call her? What would I say? Man this SUCKS!
2007-02-03 06:08:32 · 20 answers · asked by Nessy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You husband is a jerk of course. Call her and have some fun.
2007-02-03 06:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Derek 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know I was in your shoes 3 years ago and I called her. I asked a lot of questions and got a lot of answers. Some I wish I never knew. This is how it works you ask a question and she answers it now you have to live with what she tells you. Be ready for the answers that she gives. Once you ask you can't turn time back. Just an example...from my past...I asked her where they would meet on occasion and she told me the park and ride...Well to this day, every time I pass a park and ride what do you think pops into my head. My husbands affair. It has been 3 years. So like I said if your not prepared what you might here...DON'T ASK ANY QUESTION. You have to go to your husband and maybe suggest seeing a counselor. Calling her at this point will do you no good she could tell you anything. He is your priority at hand.
2007-02-03 16:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by Michele M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, this is awful, especially you being out of town working and trying to make a living.
Yes, I would defianatly call this other girl, stay calm, or she will just hang up on you and not ever answer her phone again..Call her and calmly as you can talk to her..Before you ask her yes or No...Tell her your husband already told you about her, and about having sex...see what she says...
If you tell her he already told you, you may get more out of her..If she thinks he hasnt told you anything, she will try to cover for him.
And then, when you are done with this phone call..calmly get his suitcase out, and pack his butt outta there...Make him leave.
Dont let him think he can do this, and you will stay with him and put up with this...
Even if you do get back together later on, and work through it..dont stay with him and work through it...Put the fear of God in him, and leave his lying, cheating butt.
Seriously....you dont deserve to be treated this way..dont let them treat you like this.
If there was a used condom, then they probably had sex...even if they didnt have sex, having another girl in the bed, or kissing is still considered cheating in my book...
2007-02-03 14:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by ~Annette~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't call this girl. Keep in mind that your husband is the one with the committment to you, not her. She may not even know that you're married. So to me, it does no good to start any kind of mess with her, when the culprit is actually your husband. Don't be threatened by her, but be threatened by your husband's actions. If the condum was used (with ejaculate inside), then he's had sex with someone, no matter how much he denies it. If he can't be true to you, then dump him. It'll be a lot less hurt then getting a disease from him that you'll never get rid of. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-03 14:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if the condom was used, he definitely had sex with her, i would call her, maybe u would get the truth from her, but not always. he seems to be cheating on u, and u can bet this isn't going to be the last one he meets on line. his morals are bad, so is his character, u just have to decide if this is what u really want out of life.
2007-02-03 14:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter that he almost had sex with another woman,HE CHEATED.that's the b all and end all of the matter,don't call,it will make you feel like crap,you don't know what crap your husband told her.may be the next time you are out of town find yourself a bloke to sleep with.is this normal in your marriage for him to sleep with other girls.i would be out of there if that happened to me.
2007-02-03 14:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by plopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes call her. But remember, she is not necessarily the one to blame,whether they had sex or not. If she didn't he was married, she can't be blamed but she may be able to tellyou a bit about your husband or what he has told her. What she tells you may help you decide to go to counseling or to dump his sorry butt!
2007-02-03 14:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, dear, it's your HUSBAND who is in the wrong. You have no business calling the girl. Your issue is purely with your husband. Sorry you have to go through this all.... get yourself tested ASAP for HIV/AIDS and assorted STDs.
2007-02-03 17:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call her.. Who's to say she even knew he was married? It's your husband you should be mad at. He is the one who is suppost to be "committed & faithful". She's not the one who made the vows to you. She don't even know you. I don't believe the "we almost had sex, but didn't" its a cover up, he got caught now he's trying to make excuses. Get rid of his ***...
2007-02-03 14:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by MSCLEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What good would calling her do? It's not her fault your husbands a jerk!
Forget calling her. Call a lawyer and start your divorce process.
2007-02-03 15:23:46 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
track her n b-i-t-c-h slap her n if u find a used condom thats not almost sex. and the fact that he had that other woman in ur house if i were u he would be in the hospital getting treat'd for serious injuries caused by me beating the daylight out of 'em.
2007-02-03 14:29:49 · answer #11 · answered by lilac. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋