Harder or easier?

Question

Has anyone here had a baby and then become pregnant within the next 3 months after having a baby? was it easier or harder to deal with? Ive really been thinking about it..when we do get pregnant about trying to get pregnant one more time right afterwards..i mean know its hard on your body but i think it'd be easier with them being a lot closer in age? what do you think?

I already have a 4 year old daughter

I just want my second and third to be really close together. I want to start trying as soon as i hit 6 weeks after delivery

Okay your not reading very well...i said i ALREADY HAVE A 4 Year old daughter...so i know what teething is and changing diapers and night time feedings are im not completely stupid!

Answer 1

it's hard at first but it does get easier. The worst part is the negative impact it has on a body. I hadn't completely healed after having my first child and ended up with placenta abruptio with my second. My girls were only 51 weeks apart. I wouldn't risk it agian but that's just me. Good luck with whatever decision you make.

Answer 2

I did this myself (twice no less). I love my children dearly, but do NOT recommend having them so close together. My children currently are 8, 6, 5, and 4 (I miscarried in between the 8 and 6 year olds). I was able to enjoy my oldest and let her be my baby for a while. The next 2 are 13 months apart and the lsat 2 are 12 months apart. The two children in the middle missed out a lot. I did not have as much time to devote to them They were rarely read to, or had one-to-one time, since their was always someone lese who needed me. I had 3 children in diapers at one time, too-and let me tell you-that's expensive!!!!
Also, it is very hard on the body. Your body goes through a lot during pregnancy. My gall bladder failed during the delivery of my youngest, which, according to my doctor, was caused by having so many children so close together.

The perfect age gap, in my opinion is 2-3 years. Trying after your baby is at LEAST one before trying to have another. At least this way you enjoy the baby phase. Also, your oldest will get to feel like a "big helper" with the baby by doing little things, like getting a burp cloth or a diaper for the baby.

Hope this helps!

Answer 3

First off, most doctors suggest waiting 18 months between pregnancies so your body has time to recuperate.


My brother and I are 1 year apart. My mom said it was really tough having us so close together. Sure, we do get along great, but we were both in diapers at the same time and were a handful from what I hear.

My two boys are 6 years apart. I didn't plan either one of them, it's just how it ended up. It's so much better(I think) because the older one understands that the baby needs attention sometimes and can entertain himself. He also tries to help out. He likes being the one to get diapers or bring me the baby's' toys.

So I would say wait at least enough so that you don't harm your body. Both ways I think they would get along. My brother and I do, and I think my boys will too. It's so cute hearing the 6 year old plan what he's going to teach the little one.

Answer 4

My children are two years apart which I thought was a really good age difference. They play good together and of course they do have their little arguments. I don't know how well it would have worked out if they had of just been a year apart. The best part about being 2 years apart was that my oldest one was already walking and in the process of potty training. I don't think we could have afforded buying all of the diapers for two of them. My mother had five children pretty close together. She was basically pregnant for 6 years. She never has complained about it being too hard. Always says she wouldn't do anything different if she could. It really has lot to do with what you think you and your spouse think you can handle.

Answer 5

I don't think it would be easier. While you are dealing with a second newborn, your first will be in their exploring age and turning your house upside down. I know that alot of women do this with no problems, but my doctor told me that noone realizes that your body needs at least a year to recover from the first pregnancy. I am pregnant with my second. There will be four years between them. I actually wanted 2 years, but this is good. My daughter is looking forward to helping with the baby and she is a big help now. She understands when I'm not feeling good and she will help me cook and clean. She tries to tie my shoes, because she knows it hurts to bend over. So maybe it is easier when they are older (?), but I like having a few years in between.

Answer 6

You are crazy. I have two girls. You haven't seen the worse of it yet with your newborn! You have no idea especially since you are a new mom! Close together should be like two yrs apart . You will make life miserable for yourself if you do this. I would never ever have two that close. You haven't even had the teething, up all nights, projectile vomit, or the fevers yet from the baby! And now you want to be pregnant. You're out of your mind.

Answer 7

My 2 children r 1 year apart and I am glad I did it. They play great together. Don't get me wrong it was hard having a new born and a 1yr old. But I don't regret it at all. I had lots of help from my husband. If you have the support then I say do it.
It wasn't hard on my body at all. Despite the stretch marks. lol
Good luck to you. ;o)

Answer 8

well my boys are a year apart cause I wanted them to be close in age my body took it fine I mean I have stretch marks of course but going to the gym can get your body back into shape and taking care of them is hard to but I still like that they are close in age cause when they get older they can go out together and not worry about the age difference they also seem to understand each other a lot.

Answer 9

I think it may be hard at first, but when the youngest starts to run around and play, I would think it would be a piece of cake. good playmates, I mean. either way you do it, there are hard times and then easier times! you already know that I am sure.

Answer 10

I think you should have your first baby... and then make a decision. You never know how difficult it might be.

In my experience, the closer the siblings are, the better the relationship.