last summer 1 saturday hubby and his best friend of 25 yrs went to a college football game well anyways a few days later i was talkin to his buddy and he said before the game hubby took him out to breakfast but told his buddy not to tell me well that night i told him what his buddy said and he said he didnt say that so i ask him why he didnt tell me about eating out and he said "i forgot all about it'well next day i was talkin to his buddy and told him what hubby said and his buddy said "i think maybe he said it but im not sure.my mom said it sounded like hid buddy was tryin to start trouble but knowing hubby like she does he probably did say that cause i would get mad about not getting to eat out too but she dont know why his buddy would tell me cause he should know it would start a fight.His buddy said he didnt wanna keep any secrets from me and i know i should believe hubby but his friend has no reason to lie or start trouble cause we are all friends and they are like brothers.
2007-02-03 05:40:45 · 8 answers · asked by gina l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
been happily married 16 yrs to this wonderful man BUT he has told me little white lies and kept stuff from me in the past nothing MAJOR that i know of
2007-02-03 05:41:49 · update #1
and i know this is in the past and lying about a breakfast is no big deal but just wondering who other married women would believe
2007-02-03 05:43:19 · update #2
taking his buddy out to breakfast isnt the point the point is if he did say that to him about not telling me about it
2007-02-03 05:50:53 · update #3
NOT high and im 38 and what are u the spelling police lol
2007-02-03 06:04:14 · update #4
Is it possible that he kept this from you because you would have made a big deal about it? I see no other reason your husband would bother worrying whether you knew about it or not otherwise...
Are you being honest with yourself? Maybe you pick fights about the little things, which is why he has resorted to just lying about them, in order to preserve his sanity.....just a suggestion.
2007-02-03 06:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Gina, Like you said, eating out for breakfast is really not the question. What is happening is he is telling more little white lies,and after awhile they become big lies,and it gets to the point,that he lies to you all the time. I do know where you are coming from. I to have gone threw the same thing,and so other things on top of that. That's one of the reasons,i am divorcing this PIG, i was marry to. I do believe you. Small white lies turn into big lies,and you can't believe anything he says anymore. A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-02-03 05:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get some counseling. If you can not believe your husband then there is a trust issue. No one should be able to come between the marriage like that.
I have always believed in that and that is how I was able to make my decisions based on my observations of the marital partners. That way when I divorced there was no doubt in my mind.
I have heard it said that the only thing worse than years of a bad marriage is a year and a day.
2007-02-03 05:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the H is your question? You said a lot but, said nothing.....what are you? high? eat something instead of ramble on.....(and use the spellcheck) I'm thinking that you have been married for 16yrs and even if you married at 17 you should be in your early 30s....have you learned nothing in your life so far?..you sound more like you're 16 yrs old.....there are probably bigger lies from him to concern your with...
2007-02-03 06:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by willie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you upset because he didn't take you along to eat? They've been friends 25 years, which is longer than you have been married!! Maybe if he'd gone out to Hooters or something, but this seems sorta silly to me. Get over it!
2007-02-03 05:46:06 · answer #5 · answered by pookiebear24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u been married for so long, seems fine to me. Get over it so what if he did not want u to know about, I belief that he had a feeling that you would behave the way how u behaving now
2007-02-03 06:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by covergirl1303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to believe your husband. Sounds like his friend is trying to start trouble...Unless..
Have you given your husband alot of crap, so to speak over going out to eat and such, to where he feels like he has to lie to you?
If so, then maybe he did go eat, and dont want to have you mad at him.
This is something I would try to communicate with my husband about...
If he wants to go out to eat with his friend, that is fine...let him go. At least they are just going out to eat and not to a strip club, or something like that.
Let him be a friend and have a friend, if they wanna go out to eat, let him know he can and he dont have to hide it from you...tell him you would like to make a date to go out to eat with him soon also..But let him go...
Maybe your husband is lying, because he dont want you to be mad, and the friend can see this is silly, and wants you to have a better marriage, he may be trying to help...
Just dont sweat the small stuff...
It could be so much worse stuff, that he is keeping from you...
But fix it, communicate...patch up your marriage, let him know he doesnt have to hide ANYTHING
2007-02-03 05:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by ~Annette~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would believe my husband...but I didn't understand your words.
2007-02-03 05:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋