i got on my pc today and my boyfriend's email account was up. i saw several messages from a "Tiff". Out of curiousity I opened them and to my shock i discovered that during the whole month of september he had been emailing eachother. he was discussing what kind of sex he wanted to have with her and she was pressuring him to choose between me and her. he actually told her whether or not he left me depended on how much she wanted him. when i confronted him about it, at first he denied that he wrote those emails and that someone must have hacked his account. when he finally admitted it, he said he did it b/c we were having a rough time in our relationship and it would never happen again. this is actually the 2nd time something like this has happened. i discovered texts on his cell, him telling another female that he loved her and his intent was to marry her. I consider all of the above CHEATING while he claims that it is not. does anyone here feel that this is cheating and should i go?
2007-02-03 05:38:02 · 14 answers · asked by Carrington 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's already done this twice and most likely will do it again. You're allowing him to get away with the "I'm sorry" routine. If he thinks it's that easy for you to forgive him than why would he stop? Problems in your relationship is no reason for him to get involved with someone else as long as you two are still together in any way. If he's doing this online and on his phone how do you know he hasn't done it physically? How many people do you promise to marry if you've never touched them?
You can do better! I know you may love him but please...love and respect yourself more!
2007-02-03 05:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy of 2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, the first thing was denying it, and gave you the excuse because of rough time in your relationship. move on and find someone that will give you the respect you need, and if you have problems that you two can settle it, than running away from it. once he cheats he will always cheat and have an excuse for it. you deserve someone better just tell him good bye and hope he happy. good luck.
2007-02-03 05:44:22 · answer #2 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having been cheated on myself, i did not forgive him one bit no remember what he informed me. i could not. i grew to become into as quickly as informed "if the guy somewhat loves you, they does not of cheated on you interior the 1st place" you would be mad for a at the same time as yet beyond common time, you will not be mad. So take a while and replicate what has got here approximately and initiate the healing technique of moving forward for your self and no person else.
2016-09-28 09:10:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you should not forgive it..He is discussing personal things with another woman..and considering leaving you. How would he feel if the tables were turned. He would never forgive you...If he is doing this what else is he doing. I say "First time shame on you second time shame on me" Don't let himkeep playing you for a fool...There are tons of others out there!! Obviously this is on his mind...
2007-02-03 05:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only you know for sure, but it sounds like he is always fishing, I would be able to forgive but I don't know how the relationship could survive the lack of trust that I would feel. Always wondering if he is telling the truth or not. Plus in these days, it is dangerous to be sexual with someone who is not honest.
2007-02-03 06:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by barbara b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same thing with the e-mail happened to me to.I had a very ugly fight with him and determined him to tell me who she was and so I put her in her place,is you know what I mean.It took me very long time to forgive him, but if I caught him again I don` t know if I could forgive him again.Ir is obvious that he has a problem!From my point of view that is cheating,and you never know is he was dating her during that period.
2007-02-03 05:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mary 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What a scumbag . Trust is gone . Be glad you found out now before there is more of an attachment .
I am sorry that you are hurting and distressed .
2007-02-03 05:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my past experiences once a cheater always a cheater. He cheated on you and you forgave him. He is counting on it this time as well. Stand up tell him to get on his way.
2007-02-03 05:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is definitely cheating, I call it emotional cheating and that's considered cheating in my book.
2007-02-03 05:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is cheating! Leave him...two times?? You have already given him too many chances.
2007-02-03 05:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by Redawg J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋