Why does self-confidence come and go?

Answer 1

Because we are what we think.
If we continually tell ourselves we can't, we won't. And on the other hand if we really believe we can do something, we will.. It is as simple as that.
I have been told it is 98 % mind, and the rest is the physical practise of whatever you are trying to achieve or become in your life.
Just taking the step and bringing ourselves out of our comfort zone challenges us as individuals and makes us stronger in the end.. more confident..
As opposed to being complacent, staying comfortable and having no challenges or stimulus can make our minds, body and soul retreat, shrink.. and we become more uncertain the less we partake in life in following our desires and dreams in general.. which leads to feeling less confident and insecure..
Supposedly it can take 4 months to build up confidence in having a mindset of I can do, and 4 months to tear it down repeatedly telling yourself continually negative things.
It is a habit we develope in our thinking, a pattern that either takes us up, or spirals us down.
In the end we only have ourselves to thank for what we think, how we are with people, and what we do in our precious short lives here on earth.
All sounds good in therory.. but it is action and actively reminding ourselves to stay on track, that ultimately makes us more confident. And in the end happier..
Why does confidence come and go, because it is a direct result of what we really think of ourselves as human beings first and foremost.

Answer 2

Self confidence as an artificial construct: External Stimuli.
It is built up with encouragement through activities that gratifies and improves the human condition and torn away by denying or repressing those activities.

Self confidence as a personal perception, experience, self-reinforcing system of ideas: Internal Stimuli.
Built within personal limits, repetitive and ingenious ways of activities that meet those criteria perpetuates a cycle of self verification when in a rigid state of mind: pedantic would describe such a person.

Self-confidence:
“Self-confidence”, the word, emphasis is on self. The word Confidence, implies to confide in oneself. The lack of notion of oneself would in part nullify the idea of confidence; it may be thought not to exist at all; it is nothing more than an extended description on the state of self motivation through the extent and limits of susceptibility and responsiveness to the human sensory and cognitive receptacles. Case: walking with rods. ( See below )

Answer 3

We judge our self worth on our successes and failures, whether they are large or small, and be it work, relationship, socially or emotionally related. Our self confidence comes and goes according to the judgment and/or standards set by others or ourselves. The kid
who has been the football star at his middle school, will suddenly not be so important when he arrives in high school. The healthy and pretty girl who is crowned
Miss Small Town USA, will suddenly feel inferior among the models in New York City. And the active YA asker with high points and a loyal following, will lose some of their enthusiasm, after receiving senseless violations.

Answer 4

confidence level keeps changing depending upon your mood swings. mood swings means the extreme change of mood that is prevalent in all age groups i feel the young people imagine some thing so romantic when fall in love and next the the mood is good when your in the best company of your beloved lover. bu the same love may not look or seem to attract you since you have already hugged or kissed etc. thus the mood wings and mood changes affect the brain and the confident level is affected considerably. the confidence level increases when you look good or your teacher appreciates in full of the class or the boss appreciates you in full view of the office staff etc. if your confidence level is not good or high even the best suit cannot bring you the beauty of charm which your ordinary sleeping gown can give your when you confidence level is high. in other words, it is not the newest or brightest clothes that make you look good but the confidence level which determines happiness and will reflect the confidence level.

Answer 5

It all depends on the individual and his/her environment. Some people are more easily influenced by the people around them and circumstance. People who tend to seek approval or reinforcement from others, I believe, are more prone to having their self-confidence affected by external influences.

In contrast, those who are able to objectively (and accurately) asses their strengths and weknesses, accomplishments, etc., and find their strength from within will be less likely to experience the same volatility with their self confidence.

Answer 6

Surrounding yourself with the kinds of people who consume and live off of the self confidence of others tends to do that...


Stick with positive uplifing people and leave the negative ones alone!

Answer 7

This may seem overly simplistic, but to me, most times it it merely a matter of blood sugar. If I go too long without eating, my attitude plummets about everything, all is hopeless, no one loves me, throw me a Clif Bar to tide me over and all is well within ten minutes. Weird.

Answer 8

Confidence comes after success. After we succeed we feel that we are good, and can do more. After a failure, we are disappointed and our confidence wanes. Simple as that.

Answer 9

I think if u keep god in your heart all the time it will help keep your self confidence

Answer 10

I think it's because we know ourselves and we may second guess our judgement. We also let negativity creep in, that's something that needs to be fought every step of the way. Stay Unique, don't fear rejection, and remember the power of positive thinking.