She states that she only cheated because he did? Should I be concerned that if she thinks I'm cheating that she will?
2007-02-03 05:28:40 · 22 answers · asked by chris r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes you should be concerned.
2007-02-03 05:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The fact she didn't "mention" it before would concern me...
The old sayings like a leopard can't change its spots and once a cheater always a cheater would be haunting my mind...
I wouldn't think she would cheat just because she has done it in the past, however, she has overcome the inhibition not to cheat with someone in the past and blamed it on him? Two wrongs don't make a right... Yes, I would definitely be concerned...
2007-02-03 05:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by Robert C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people change! This is just a good reason for you to not even think about cheating. Really, almost everyone has cheated at some point in their life, so give her a chance to prove to you that she's changed.
2007-02-03 05:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by pookiebear24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hopefully you have a wife who will talk to you. If she starts to susspect something than there is a pretty good chance that she will if she has that comfort zone of doing it before. I was watching Tyra and the statistic is now 65 percent of all married women will cheat or have cheated, Im not trying to make you upset just keep your guard up. let her know that she can talk to you about anything...and also make sure she realizes there are no secrets between the two of you.
good luck and god bless
2007-02-03 05:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant go by assumptions. When a woman learns her man is unfaithful, she will do crazy things, to get over the hurt, betrayal, and loss of security. Don't hold it against her, and don't give any reason for her to think you might be cheating. A woman is very sensitive, and aware of the problem and she will catch you..
2007-02-03 05:35:56 · answer #5 · answered by beygrl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife did not tell you about the past relationship issues maybe she wanted to keep them in the past. Normally people who have been burned by a certain situation will be paranoid that it will happen again to them, so if she thinks you might be, then you really should just ease her worries and really show her that you are not the man who hurt her. In time she will learn to trust you with that issue.
2007-02-03 05:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expert, but cheating could mean one of two things.
a) She feels insecure about her marriage, and was looking for someone to make her feel romantically secure.
b) She really did not want to get married, but did it anyway.
If these are your concerns,maybe couples counseling will help you both.
2007-02-03 05:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if it ever gets to the point in your marriage where she is feeling like she wants to cheat, to come to you and tell you so the two of you can work on things.
Ok so if that does happen that she tells you, remember to keep your cool and realize something wrong drove her to that and do your part in fixing things and dont blow a gasket.
2007-02-03 05:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, people do stupid things when they are young, don't take it so seriously, if your relationship is healthy if you love each other then you have nothing to worry about. I don't agree with once a cheater always a cheater, people grow up, you know?, there are people that actually grow up out of that teenager behavior. Don't label her for her past
2007-02-03 05:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her past shouldn't matter. Live with the future. Stop thinking about cheating you will just hurt your relationship.
2007-02-03 05:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by hurt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater, always a cheater. don't piss her off, cause she will cheat. she made a conscious effort to cheat. what if she contracted some disease, but either doesn't know it, or failed to mention it? how many other things has she "failed to mention"?
before i even dated my hubby i learned everything. there's no way she "forgot" to mention it.
2007-02-03 05:33:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋