ok so i want a baby, but....im 17?

Question

ok so im 17 my bf is 19 we have been together for 5 years. we really love eachother and we are both out of highschool. we live together and we really want a baby, but i dont think this is the right time, altho i still want a baby by him, what should i do? i no he wouldnt leave me but i dont think we should have a baby rite now, what do i do??

oh yeah his son lives with us, his name is angel and hes 2, his mom left him at our house and never came bac, so we kept him, so he thinks im his mommy

hes been living with us since he was 3 months old, umm so raising a baby wouldnt be the problem, its just i kinda wanna finish school

yes he chested on me

*cheated sorry not chested

he graguated 2 years ago, i graguated last year

*graduate, sorry i am dyslexic

dear : i didnt name him angel, his mother did, i am not his biological mother, so i had nothing to do with his name

Answer 1

AND I QUOTE "but i dont think this is the right time" AND "i dont think we should have a baby rite now"

YOU KNOW THE ANSWER.

NOW IS NOT THE TIME.

AND, he has a 2 year old child, but you've been with him for 5 years????? He cheated on you????

please, please wait.

Answer 2

No If, And, or Buts about it. Put off having the baby. Getting the education will actually make you a better mother. Not so much because of the ability to get a better paying job, but because you'll have a greater appreciation for life's complexities, and have more life experience to help your child.

Life before twenty feels like you've learned alot, but there's so much more to learn. I have no doubt that you are a very responsible person who is capable of offering a great deal of love. But you need to take this time to give yourself the education to expand your personal growth. Through that growth, you can become an outstanding parent. One that nutures and teaches. The kind of mother and wife that can be strong, smart, and a wonderful asset to her family.

Also, life is so much easier if you get that education before age 25. the older you get the harder it is to keep up. You can't get many scholorships when you are older, and the class requirements will only get harder. Example: The math required to get my degree after I finished highschool was math 111. That same math course 15 years later is now math 97. I have to take 2 math classes before I can take the 1 college level class I need for my degree. Not to mention paying for each class and books. Had I taken it right away, I'd only have to take the one course. And back then they were $90 (x3) a credit hour. Now they're $225 (x3) I kick myself everyday for not finishing when I had the chance. Get to school while you are still on a roll. In the long run you'll be glad you did.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

Sure, ruin your life. If you are 17 and out of high school, you are either really smart or a drop-out. If you were really smart, you would not be thinking abut having a baby at 17 with a guy who cheated on you. So, I will assume you are a drop-out. You're already a dredge on society, why not add another person.

Babies are not some toy you get because you want it. Real babies are nothing like that baby doll your high school made you carry around for a week. They are a 24 hour responsibility. You have a baby when you are ready to spend the rest of your life taking care of it.

Edit: Son's name is Angel? Why not go all the way and name him Sue?

Answer 4

hey girl! yeah the baby should be fine! i was partying a lot b4 i found out (i mean she was concieved in vegas) and i smoked some purps as well, i was 10 weeks when i found out and after that i started taking my pre natal drinking lots of water and i cut out everything including caffeine! i am 34 weeks and my obgyn says she is doing amazing! my husband has his medical card and i guess his co worker told him that his wife blazed on and off all threw out her pregnancies (all 5) and his kids are o.k, he tries to get me to take a hit here and there to calm my nerves but i never will! my sisters best friend smoke a couple bowls hear and there up until he gave birth what you should really be concerened about is the vic though because i herd that wasnt good! there are chicks out there doing heavier things all the time and there babies are born with out retardation etc all that matters is is that you stop and make sure you are getting all the vitamines u need you and your baby will be just fine dont worry, there are a lot of ppl in your shoes that have healthy babies! back in the day woman smoked threw out there pregnancies. and yes even bud, the affects known from that is stunted growth, a.d.d, and depression but you are stopping much sooner then that so dont stress about it! =] congrats

Answer 5

Wait Wait Wait I can't say that enough it is good that you were able to forgive him for cheating but you have plenty of time to have babies, I think maybe you two should think about marriage before you think about having a baby. I have a question did y'all graduate high school or quit high school? Without a diploma you will not get very far in life get you an education that way you have something to offer a child. I am glad that y'all did graduate, but I still think you should wait.

Answer 6

Why don't you wait a little longer until angel is a little older? You can still have a baby when you turn 19, but if you don't feel it is the right time, then don't do it because maybe you will regret that. Have fun and good luck!

Answer 7

What should you do? I think if i were you i would take off running. I would not want to be there with someone that is cheating and had another kid with someone else. You are too young to even have to deal with his mistakes. I would not get pregnant right now if i were you. If you do what is that going to do for you? Nothing but make you have to tend to 2 kids. You should think about your own life right now and worry about kids later because you are still a kid yourself.
But do whatever. If you want a kid then have plenty of them so it will keep you from your schooling and your dreams

Answer 8

Sounds like you already know what you want. You said yourself that you want to wait and if he loves you than he'll respect your decision. Your already helping him raise his little boy who thinks your his mother so take care of him first. Your still young to have a baby yourself and you see that this kids mother left him, she must have been young herself. That shows it's not easy raising a baby. That your boyfriend cheated on you really has nothing to do with it, my fiance cheated on me 4 yrs ago but worked it out and are in love with a beautiful son who's 3 and a baby girl due in April. Someone who knows from experience, take your time!

Answer 9

are you nuts?

1) you are too young!
2) you can't support a baby and you already have the baby of someone else to take care of
3) you have a creep of a boy friend if he keeps cheating on you
4) will your creep of a bf be a good influence on the baby, it he sticks around and stops cheating
5) ARE YOU MARRIED? You may not think that's important but it is

MAKE SURE YOU USE LOTS OF BIRTH CONTROL. This is not 100% though.

Answer 10

it sounds like you have your priorities straght, you should concentrate on finishing them and getting a better education for you and your future baby, if you think he wont leave you then whats the rush? you are very young and you should enjoy life to the fullest you know? like go out and party and travel and whatever else you want to do, i'm sure that you already see how much resaponsability rasing a child is, talk about it with your bf and hope you make the right decision.