Are woman jealous of their mother-in-law's relationship with their husband?

Question

My daughter-in-law only likes me coming over to babysit.

Answer 1

I think that sounds ridiculous! No she should not be JEALOUS of that relationship. That's just obsurd!

Answer 2

I have the same relationship with my mother-in-law. It's a shame not how I'd have wanted it but a few things hve happened between us which unfortunately have been her doing but cannot open her eyes to see the bigger picture. She is also I feel useless with the kids. Recently we came back from a wedding having told her we would be back mid afternoon. We got back and the boys started saying that they were hungry. It was 2pm when we got back earlier than expected. Then my MIL told me that they had told her they were hungry at about 12 and she fed them a pack of crisps?!!! You tell me if I am being unreasonable? I never made anything of it I just went straight into the kitchen and made everyone lunch In Laws included!!!

Doesn't fill me with the confidence I should with my kids grand parents!

You are lucky she wants you to babysit. Try asking if she would like to go shopping or ask when your over to babysit if she would like to go out for a walk together.

My Mil could have a better existance if she made a little more effort and not constantly thinking of herself.

Sometime I am sure you will remember that having kids your mind is always on other things and sometimes nice to be asked! Doesn't mean she doesn't want anything to do with you just perhaps shes so caught up with everything else!

Hope this helps if not leave another note and I'll email you if you want a chat. Good luck xx

Answer 3

Jealous no, but there is a fine line between love and hate. My problem with my mother in law is that she thinks that she is still the top female in my husband' life. That simply cannot be anymore. Perhaps your daughter in law just feels like you are too controlling over your son's life.

Answer 4

at first, i might pass calling him a "mommy's boy". in actual fact your husband has a mom and she or he has a son and it relatively is not healthful to make your husband experience like airborne dirt and dirt simply by fact he has a mom. it relatively is not stable to do to him or is it healthful for the marriage. it relatively is a distinctive courting than husband and spouse. it relatively is a kin courting nonetheless additionally. Secondly, is she unwell or an elderly lady? Is she widowed? Can she make a catalogue if so and you may desire to the two help her for an hour each week or what ever. those issues may be a controversy whilst pondering a sort answer. If she's able than think of approximately what it relatively is that she is inquiring for help with. meaning do no longer assume she would be able to enhance furnishings via herself if she's frail. Or, is she invited to any kin activities? perchance she lonely and desire's to spend a while with kin. whilst traveling "what have you ever been as much as these days, something exciting?". there is not any longer something to be worried approximately he can no longer divorce you and marry his mom.

Answer 5

My mother-in-law is an interesting woman. She is over barring, judge mental and a know it all. In spite all this and years of struggling to let her know that I know what I'm doing when it comes to my household and children, I love her and respect her. She has come to accept that I am what is best for her son and she is very supportive now that we have iron all our differences.
I have never been jealous of my husband's relationship with her. If anything I encourage him to call her and keep communication open with her.

Answer 6

I don't think we are jealous but I would suggest you really sit back and look at how you two really get along. My MIL was really nasty to me for years and it didn't make it much fun to have her around. Are you loving towards her or do you always criticize? Have you actually accepted her as your son's wife? Do you meddle in their business? Are you able to live the the fact that you are not the top female in his life now? (or shouldn't be) I wish I had ad a closer relationship with my MIL but she would never allow that to happen so I lived with it and it make me resent her as the years went on.

Answer 7

If you have a relationship with your son that makes his wife jealous -- then he shouldn't be married.
No, I'm not jealous of my mother-in-law. But she is a pain in the neck in that overbearing, judgmental way that people have come to expect.
I love her, and think she is a wonderful grandmother, but in general, I do not enjoy her company.

Answer 8

there is no jealousy. i felt that when i married my husbans that i was also becoming a big part in a new family and thatif that were to be a great experience for me, my husband and our future children then i have to accept all that comes along with my husbands family....i love them all and my mother in law is a lovely, sweet person....i am lucky and i also feel that you have to accept that everyone is differnet, every family does things differently and you need to be open to the new experiences that brings into your life and you have to go with the flow!!! acceptance is a great quality in life and especially in married life!!

Answer 9

sometimes yes other times mother-in-laws dont have a very close relationship it depends?

Answer 10

Nope not at all I am glad he is close to him mom and has a good relationship with her..... I get along good with him mom too she is like a second mom to me!