can someone help me?

Question

i alraedy posted this question but i didn't get enough answers 2 make a valid decision, so here it goes:

i need help. i'm 15 and an out and proud gay male. i have a crush on this guy at skool who i (as well as many other ppl) have suspected 2 be gay as well or at least bi. he has so many feminine qualities yet he likes girls. i've also noticed out of the corner of my eye that he stares at me in classes (i'm not much of a looker but i'm the only out gay guy at my skool). and 2 day, i put on eye liner and some nail polish (just 4 fun) and i have never done it b4. this morning, when he saw me, he had this look on his face: it was a mixture of shock and something else. something that looked like interest or even curiosity. idk wat 2 do anymore. should i go up and ask him out, or wait 4 him 2 come 2 me if i am right (i could b wrong).

presleygirl, i AM the man god made me 2 be, no more no less.

goldwing110083, i brought a purse 2 skool 4 a week last year, and he still seemed interested after that. even when i ack completely feminine, i am still the most popular guy in skool cuz ppl like me 4 me despite wat i where. next time u post an answer, make sure it answers the question.

toujours, wat r u talking about?

toujours, i don't believe in coincidences. e-mail me. my name is also my yahoo ID

Answer 1

Wow, you must go to one very open minded school and I admire your strength and ability to be able to be all that you can be with out the fear of repercussions. How refreshing that sounds and hopeful for some. Now to your question, it's been a very long time since I was in high school, but I would still tend to take the safer road and as the answer above me stated, ask him out for a burger and shake or to a movie, something that is off school grounds. Ask him, in private, and you should be able to instant tell if he wants to hang with you, even on a friend basis. If he says yes, then let it slowly develop from there. Not everyone has your confidence in themselves and protect his as if it was yours. Reputations mean everything in school and if he should say no, forget it and move on, making no mention that an exchange like that ever happened. Good luck.

Answer 2

wow, u sound like someone i know, and are talkin about me, and the circumstances are really similar, (except he only put eyeliner on, i dont think he put on nail polish, and he did it at a party, not school), and also he is bi, not gay, wierd :S unless you are actually him, and the chances of me finding you are even wierder even the age is right. But this would explain alot...

I mean this situation sounds like one that I am going through, except the other way round, It sounds like you could be the person i know if you understand now, even though it is probably coincidence

Answer 3

that is a hard question. could you give him some signals maybe wink at him the next time you catch him staring at you. or maybe have a girl friend talk to him first for you. he may not be ready to come out yet even if he is gay so he still might not want to date you. good luck.

Answer 4

You are not going to like this answer, but here goes. YOU have crossed over a line at your school. IT is one thing to be gay...no big deal, but you are flaunting it to everyone, and in schools, most guys are not going to want to be associated with an obviously gay guy for fear they will be identified as gay. You should have stayed cool and low key where few, if any, have a problem. NOW, you have created a problem with any guy being seen with you. Take off the crap, butch it up, and be as "normal" as you can be...that does NOT mean play like you are straight, but it does mean to stop acting like a girl. You are NOT a girl, you are a gay man. leave it at that. IT will take some time for your class mates to forget this. You have made a mess, and now you must take the consequences of your actions. I am sorry that so many judge us by our actions, no matter how mundane they are, but you have set up a situation that this guy, even if he had been interested, cannot be seen with you IF he has any fear of being outted. Good luck

Answer 5

You sound like a very well-rounded guy. I like how you responded to many of the answers.
But on topic: I would definitely ask him out. Good luck!

Answer 6

This is tough, but why dont you just try and be a friend to him and others first. My best advice is to just be who you are, people will either accept you for you, or shy away. I guess it does not appear to me he has done that. If you are from a small rural area , like I am guessing.I would just be yourself, and know people will respect you for that. There will be many who condemn, but you will earn respect for staying true to who you are, no matter how hard that is.

Answer 7

Just leave a note of a man interested in another and pick a meeting place be there but, in the back ground and see if he shows up.... if he doesn't then, you need not be afraid of him knowing who sent to note and if he does show up then you will know, but ... sit in the back ground ........... just in case he brings friends to give whom ever sent the note a blanket party if you get my drift! Safest way I know of!

Answer 8

Go for it. Ask him for a date. Why not? The most he can do is say no, right? No diffierent than if you wasn't gay, and asked a girl out, and she was to say no. Good luck!

Answer 9

my advise to you, ask him out for a burger and shake....not a date, but two friends going out and see where to goes from there.

Answer 10

I would ask him out