We have been together 3 years. Early in our relationship he was talking to his ex behind my back and they were sending naked pictures over the phone back and fourth. When I confronted him then he calls me a psycho and he still does. he denies the whole thing but i have proof. we have broke up and got back together 2 times and now are getting married in June. I think what he did was cheating.
The first time we broke up I wanted revenge because I was hurt so bad so I slept with his friend...I know that is horrible but he broke up with me and it was the only thing I could do to hurt him, he was cruel when he broke up with me. when we got back together he says that was cheating on him! and when I bring up the naked pictures he gets pissed. honestly who is to blame? what he did with his ex, is that cheating?
2007-02-03 03:48:37 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What he did with his ex was in bad taste, very bad taste, but I would not consider it cheating, it's like 1/2 cheating, if he did it again after you talked to him, then it would be cheating.
The problem is, he can't just admit what he did was wrong and apologize.
You screwed his friend, thats REALLY bad too.
Cancel the marriage for now, get a promise ring, and start the hell over.
Right how you'd be building a marriage on lies, deceit, and hurt feelings, and that is just plain foolish. Get things back on track, take your time. If you're going to be together forever really, then you have the rest of your lives!
Think about it this way. You have a problem, the problem is a balloon. Marriage is a pressure, it takes that balloon, and squeezes it until that balloon takes on a whole new shape, looks like something entirely different than it was to begin with.
Just start over you two. Start dating again, stop bringing up the photo's, and demand he stop mentioning you and his friend. Move on or give up.
2007-02-04 06:28:47 · answer #1 · answered by badbadboy6979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you marrying this guy?
You don't trust him. You'd rather hurt him and get back at him than to forgive him for a mistake that he made. He lies to you. You lie to him. You're bickering about what you consider "cheating" -- if you think it's "cheating," then he shouldn't be doing it! You break up, you get back together. He denies things. You keep re-opening the same old scars. He can't admit the truth. He is cruel. You are vengeful.
I'm sorry, what makes you think that this marriage is going to work? Everything you have said here makes me believe that it wouldn't last more than six months!
You really need to re-think this.
2007-02-03 16:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're questioning, it probable is. each and every time you experience an emotional connection with somebody else, any variety of contact that feels intimate - will be only speaking or texting, yet feels close, brings you in the route of that human being - is dishonest. if you're no longer emotionally in touch, then those similar issues are only pleasant. also i'm assuming through kissing you recommend a kiss on the cheek, because on the mouth or deep kissing is definitely via the line.
2016-11-24 21:07:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were straight up until the point you slep with his friend. By doing that all you did was give him ammo and a reason to justify his actions in his mind. I think you should end this relationship as soon as possible and move on with your lives. I think this is the best possible outcome for both of you.
2007-02-05 16:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by cane130 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋