When we started he don't use to condem me but now he use to condem me complain of irealivant things like he say something i did not hear i will ask him to repeat it he will start complaining that i pretent not to hear, if i wash his cloths he will say the odour of the soap i use did not come smell out, if i cook sometime he will say that is not what he like to eat, sometimes he says i waste money for food, different unnecersary complains like that. But some days he will say i should not mind the way he is talking or complaining.
when he want to correct me on something he shout at me as if i have done the wast thing on earth.
so what you see to all this.
2007-02-03 03:47:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think that this has anything to do with love acctually. I think that there is something bothering him and he needs to get it out and talk to you about it, without criticism. Be a good listener that is probably all he needs, ask him if something is wrong and would he like to talk about it. As for laundry add 1/3 of a cup of vinigar to a full load of laundry, it sofens the water and gets rid of any smells. As for the cooking, ask him if there is something that he would enjoy more for supper or invite him to help you cook one night and watch how he spices his own supper. He could also be a bit depressed, so I would try to cheer him up or ask him what he would like to do that is really fun for him. I hope this helps. Take Care Heather
2007-02-03 03:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, please dont think he is having an affair right off the bat.
ALot of men and marriages go through rough times, and Stress can cause a man to act like this...
Does he work hard everyday, long hours?
The key to marriage is to communicate, if you can sit him down and talk to him, tell him how much you love and care for him, and how you love being married to him..BUT, let him know that the way he condems you, really hurts you, ask him to explain to you nicely how you can do things different.
Cook him his favorite meal, one that you know that he will like..
It sounds to me, like if he is complaining over the clothes smelling after you wash them, that he is just terribly stressed out by life.
Communication is the only way to work through this...
I really wouldnt think he is seeing someone else because of this..Just talk to him about it..See if he changes after the talk..Be sure and let him know it hurts you.
If it doesnt get better after that, maybe seek some counseling, or ask him, if he wants to seperate..maybe then he can see and realize what all you do for him..
I believe its just the stresses of everyday life...it probably has nothing to do with you, or how you do things. You stay positive and keep your chin up, dont let this get you down..Sometimes men just react this way, when they dont handle stress well. Although its wrong and hurtful, it is the way they do things..
Hope this helps some..
2007-02-03 11:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by ~Annette~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on staying in this relationship, you'd better put your foot down and let him know you expect to be treated with respect. He's WRONG if he thinks you shouldn't mind the way he talks to you.
Go on strike. Let him take care of himself. Wash only your clothes. Cook only your food. Let him see how much better he can do. This man doesn't appreciate you one bit, even though you have tried hard to do what he wants.
If you can't stand his complaining, you may have to leave. Listening to his pissin and moanin for the rest of your life doesn't sound like a good option. Good luck!
2007-02-03 11:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not like the smell of the clothes tell him to buy you better smelling laundry soap.... If he does not like what you cook then have him get up and make himself something to eat that he does like.... Waste money for food??? No such thing.. Tell him to go grocery shopping with you then... Seek help and counseling for this marriage and you also need to sit down and talk with him and tell him how you feel and why... If he does not like how you do something have him start doing it for himself then.
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2007-02-03 11:54:19 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds highly irritable but there is a chance he loves you.
Why don't you ask him? He might need some anger management counseling because he sounds like a huge baby. In order for your marriage to work you have to both respect each other and he must stop throwing temper tantrums over petty issues.
2007-02-03 11:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Dana Katherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is putting you down for the simple reason that he is unhappy and wants to blame some body other than himself for it. I agree that he maybe seeking a romantic relationship outside of your marriage. Confront him, ask straight out what is going on to make him so miserable and let him know that you do not deserve this awful treatment. Don't let it go on like this because it is not good for you.
2007-02-03 12:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be a pickering type. Psychologically speaking, there is incompatability in your sex life. Sex is the most powerful thing ( but hidden) in one's life that elevates you if properly enjoyed. Otherwise similar to what said will happen. The best relationship among married people mostly happens if they have good and satisfying sex life. Researchers in this field have told humteen no of times.
2007-02-03 11:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by Marks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not put up with that. Tell him if he knows better, he can do it himself. Life is no fun when you are being yelled at. Put a stop to it now. He may have stress or something that he takes out on you, making you feel bad makes him feel better. Stand up for yourself, and use your brain. Don't yell back, just make your demands in a firm tone.
2007-02-03 11:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your marriage is in trouble,u should tell him u r leaving him,if that does not bring him back around,have an affair with someone he knows,you will 4 surely then know his feelings 4 u,he is taking u 4 granted,make him realize what he is losing,offer him oral sex if he refuses HE HATES YOU,and has a girl on the side,
2007-02-03 11:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by creekfreek1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To your question...No. And I don't think he ever did. Stop playing victim here. Take responsibility that you allowed him to treat you this way. The faster YOU recognize that the quicker you will realize who actually have the power...YOU. Stop waiting for him to change. You need to make the change. Either accept this behavior, or make the decision to change it. It is entirely up to you.
2007-02-03 11:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋