i have been with this guy for over 2 yrs he asked me to marry him in italy i said yes..i just found out why he did ask me.....he did not want to loose me after i graduated and all....he has told me he is to young to get married....we planned for aug..sept of 2008 he told me what happened to the person that could drink and party all night till 5 am i told him i have to work now theses days and i have grown up...what should i do.....should i ask him what the ring means to him
2007-02-03 03:33:41 · 12 answers · asked by helpgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So what is the question in this?
2007-02-03 03:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He has told you the reason why he asked you to marry him. It was to hold on to you. But you have grown and he hasn't. So you know what you have to do. He really still wants to be single but have you in just case. You can call off the engagement...so there is not pressure on the both of you and see where your relationship goes from there. To a man a ring is like a lay away plan. He is making a payment but he might not get it out.
2007-02-03 03:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is so much more to living a full life with a life partner then partying.
Your guy does not sound very mature to me and I think you could do much better if you where free of him. What is his life goal ??
Break it off with him, move on to a mature relationship and watch his young playful eyes bulge out.
Ask him anything you want to, he will probally tell you only what he thinks you want to hear.
With a mature mind you can read between the lines.
Good luck with your future life~~~and God Be With You !!
2007-02-03 04:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW... crazy drama! When someone says they love you, it should be just an emotion, just three words, just an excuse to have sex with you, just to see you again. I believe those three words mean a lot in terms of showing you what that looks like. he took the easy way out, said i love you and never was a good husband to you by keeping those words. he should of stood by you, protected you, not blamed you, loved you during the miscarriage, visited you, never sleep with another person, etc. I know your heart is hurting and you want him back, but he has shown no responsiblity to you. I'm really happy that you don't have a child with him because it would of been so much harder. He will never be a good father he will never be a good husband. he is really confused.
2016-03-29 03:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? You? Sounds like he's too immature to get married. He's got to grow up and accept responsibility for himself. I think he sees your acceptance of responsibility as a threat to his fun loving style. Few people really have it together in life, and as another user said, if he were really ready he would enjoy the growth in your life and be happy for you, and want to grow himself.
2007-02-03 03:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by transformerzdealer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not mature enough. Either accept this and let part of your life wash down the drain waiting for him to eventually come around (and HOPE that it will be with you) or move on and find someone who is more similar to you in maturity, priorities, etc. No fun to be in that position. I'm sorry for you, I know it hurts.
2007-02-03 03:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by The Mama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I t sounds like the two of you have two different visions. The thing you should ask your self is, Does this relationship have a chance of becoming anything good for you.
2007-02-03 03:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by russell c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants a drinking buddy not a wife and who proposes as a ploy? I wonder what he will do if you try and dump him know - want a baby?
2007-02-03 03:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by jillmarie2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you might ask him if your plans to marry in 2008 are real or not... just sounds like you are in a dead end relationship
2007-02-03 03:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that is ridiculous! He wants his cake and wants to eat it too. He wants to be able to go out all the time and neglect you, but he doesn't want to give you up. Well, the thing he doesn't know is this little "engagement" is going to cost YOU if he is not careful. You stand your ground, you aren't wrong. Tell him to GROW UP!!!!
2007-02-03 03:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you should realize and accept your growth as positive and his lack of growth a sign for you to move on.
2007-02-03 03:38:12 · answer #11 · answered by punkin 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋