My husband and i have been friends since babies, and we got together and broke up and got back together... we soon created a pattern. I dont have a doubt in my heart about him loving me... but why does he cheat? Im a good women, a great provider... and sexually OPEN to everything.... HES MY HUSBAND!!!!! But still he cheats... we lived together for years, got married and seperated within the 1st 6 months... tried and tried to get back together... but JUST TO HARD!!!!! Thru out all this, we still slept together... and had our moments! Its been 3 years and we are not living together... and just yesterdy for some odd reason he felt the need to tell me HE HAS NEVER BEEN FAITHFUL... Thru out our dating... our marriage... and us seperated!????? What the F!@# am I to do???? I love this man with all my heart, never cheated because I was afraid of losing him... now I am hurt to know that he knew that I only wanted to get married once... and YET STILL CHEATED????
2007-02-03 03:32:57 · 15 answers · asked by recentful...Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do you or any one love someone who doesn't love them back? I really don't think it's possible because to me love is like a garden and gardens must be tended to with love or the flowers die and I feel that way with love,if I am loving someone and I eventually realize that this person isn't loving me the way I need and his love isn't making me feel good,my feelings will start to wilt and that's a truth.You may want to be in love with the false image you have in your mind but surely ,you don't love such a person.That is not a real man,you have been deceived.Real men know how to treat real women and real women don't forget or confuse forgiveness with acceptance.You can forgive,but never forget or accept.
2007-02-03 03:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You husband sounds like a cheater, through and through. You have to decide if you want to live the rest of your life with someone who is incapable of being faithful.
It's too bad that you love him with all your heart because this is never going to be easy for you and I doubt he will change.
You sound like you have a lot on the ball. Your husband doesn't appreciate the love you've given him. Wouldn't you rather be in a relationship that isn't so painful? Think about it. If you leave it will hurt, but you'll get over it and maybe even find someone who treats you with respect. If you stay, you can expect to spend the rest of your life with a broken heart. Good luck, you're going to need it.
2007-02-03 03:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do! You go to telephone book you look up the name of a lawyer that handles divorce and you get it done! He's know good for you and you are too good for him. There's more to life out there than being hurt; How you two ever became an item I can't understand it seems to me that there would have been signs to let you know about his ways and his fidelity (love is blind). Do not live your life waiting for him to get his sh_t together as he is cr_p. DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH HIM EVER AGAIN! Good luck and may god bless you.
2007-02-03 04:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by beamer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once a dog, always a dog. Dump this loser, he is selfish. You deserve so much better. Why are you still talking with him? You haven't been living together for 3 years, why do you give him continued opportuntities to hurt you? He knows you love him, that he can cheat on you, and you will permit it. Don't continue to accomodate him.
2007-02-03 03:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do... just know his karma will come back to haunt the **** out of him, and you should go on living everyday knowing that god will help you, and show him his true karma... justice for him will be served.. so i would do nothing, it sounds like he has serious self esteem issues to do so much cheating, and just to tell you all like that.. he is an idiot..wether a child hood friend or not, he is a loser!... let him go, look at your hwole life knowing him as one huge lesson and spiritual growth to get over him and realize how toxic he is, dont worry hun, your life is all up hill from here, and his is all **** water.
2007-02-03 03:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as this is going to be, for you own good, you are going to have to stop seeing him and letting him USE you. You have suffered enough at his expense. He must get a thrill out of abusing you. He did it as recent as yesterday. Telling you he always cheated on you served no purpose except to hurt you even more. For your own self-preservation, you have got to muster up the courage to say...."NO MORE! You WILL NEVER hurt me again!!!"....and move on in your life. Good Luck! I KNOW how much it hurts!!
2007-02-03 03:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he has not changed and is continuing to hur and cheat on you repeatedly then let him go and get a divorce. Trust me you will be better off for it... Dont put yourself through this pain and aggravation any more.
2007-02-03 03:41:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun it takes time to get over stuff and mind your heart but you do have to respect yourself..you dint have to forgive anytime soon..that will come after you have forgiven yourself for letting yourself get lost in him..and not giving yourself the respect that you need and not loving yourself....you need to find yourself go for a nice job then treat yourself to a bubble bath..time time for yourself..you have to first think about yourself every now and then
2007-02-03 03:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by helpgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiven
2016-05-23 23:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure that you want to stay with him but honey....some times love just aint enough!!!
yea you might love him but he doesnt respect your love and as much as he has cheated already....he will probably never change...would you rather be with someone you love that cheats on you...or would you rather find someone who loves you enought to respect you-- thats a question you need to answer yourself. try and think with your brain not your heart!! trust me-- you will be better off...
2007-02-03 03:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by a_team_passion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋