my mom know that im bi i think cuz she keeps saying stuff thathas to do with it and i dont know how to just tell her like i keep denying it but i dont know how to come out to her im 13 plz help
2007-02-03 03:26:29 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Believe it or not your mom knows. She may not come out and say it but even if she does not she at least suspects. Moms have a way of knowing these things. You are still young and I know this is hard to believe but you may not be gay. Give it some more time before you decide if you are truly gay. Say 16? If at that time you still think you are you will need to sit your parents down and explain it to them. They may embrace and accept you or they may not. Either way you will need to know the truth. Best of luck and if it helps, every one who is gay went through exactly what you are feeling right now.
2007-02-03 03:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Joel F 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Please contact PFLAG.ORG-- it's a wonderful supportive, educational group all over the US. It was founded by parents of gay people to help other parents deal with the news. Now it's for the friends & families and the LGBT community. They will help you find someone to talk to. You need some adults in YOUR corner as you go thru this. Don't try to do it on your own-- you're too young. Ask for help when you want to come out to your mom. Also check out the gay center. Maybe you'll find some gay teen groups or clubs in the area. Also see if there are any school gay/straight alliances in the high schools around your area. Good luck. HUGS!!! I admire you for being strong and knowing your feelings already. I was 27 and married before I realized I was a lesbian. ooh boy!!
2007-02-10 10:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by reme_1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could start by leaving things like phamplets or other explict materials about Lesbians/Gays where she can see them--like in your room, or in a folder "accidently" left out on the coffee table or by the couch etc...
Dropping her hints or making a collage of cut-outs from a magazine where you have just words of things that say "I LOVE Girls" or "Gay and Proud" or "Guy To Guy" etc... then hanging it up in your room so she can "accidently" see it when she walks in.
These things should open the door for discussions and then once she has worked up the courage to ask [and trust me, it IS courage] then be honest and upfront with her and say "I know that you may not approve, but I can't help the way I feel--I do like girls/guys and I'm in hopes that you will still see me as your child and love me for who I am, and not for what you want me to be."
Then don't get angry or upset at her reaction, simply keep quiet and let her adjust to what she has heard or seen, then hopefully later after she has thought it through, she will come to terms with what you have told her--good luck.
2007-02-10 20:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Bat Cave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart...believe it or not, you are too young to really know what lies down the road for you. ALL teens experiment, fall in love with those of the same sex...in most, it passes. In some, it doesn't. Lay low, stop making this an issue and wait and see what happens. IF you were to "come out" to your mother today, you just might be lying to her, for at your age, you really do not know what is going on. IT may be you are gay, it may mean you are bi, it may mean nothing. At your age, waiting is the hardest thing to do, but try it...time passes so quickly.
2007-02-03 04:55:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Play confused ask her whats going on with me? Why am I attracted to the both female and male? Tell her you can't control your feelings and they are just there and apart of you. Confide in her and ask for her help in understanding your situation. Like do research together on the subject and in the process try to get her to understand. She may not understand at first but asking for help is the best way to go. In the long run I believe she will accept it more, than just coming out and telling her I'm bi so deal with it. Hope this helps
2007-02-03 03:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by jes_e_lou 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How is she talking about it? If she's being positive, or at least neutral, she's probably trying to say that she is guessing it, and it's okay to come out if you want. In that case, maybe you should say, "Mom, I need to tell you something..." and have a talk. It would be great if she could be supportive! If she's being negative, she may still be guessing and wanting you to come out so she can get you "fixed" before you get into relationships. In that case, don't come out until you're old enough to be on your own.
2007-02-03 03:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to someone you trust about this... possibly someone older and whom you feel will be trustworthy with your secret. Coming out is a very difficult thing especially to parents, and your mom sounds like she doesn't understand that you were born a bisexual and not that you just woke up one day and became one. There's a lot of misconceptions that parents have been taught by their own parents and by conservative christian evangelicals.
2007-02-10 21:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by xander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww ur not bi. you think u r now, but in 6 or 7 years u will grow out of it when the guys start to mature and stop being such horny playas...well not all of them but u can find alot more betta ones...but as for tellin ur mom just sit down in ur room and tell her, she knows its a phase and will b aight wit it
2007-02-09 15:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by borred223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight forward and honest are the best way to go. The faster you tell her the sooner you will have that pressure off your back. Good Luck.
2007-02-09 01:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her she may hate you for a while but 1 day she will wake up and realise that her daughter is bi
2007-02-07 08:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋