Please help me !?

Question

At first i have to say My English is bad and i cant speak it or write it correctly , and about my problem , 2 or 3 year ago i was very sensitive and anything can make me happy or sad for example when i was listening to music , the music could make me sick (sad music) or active (energetic music) and i felt into the deep feeling another example is when i watch a paint or photography i could enjoy with it more than from this time every thing was new for me like an alien in earth every thing was wonderful , i loved arts , and there were a lot of thing in my brain about myself living world , i paint a lot and i read a lot of books and i write poets ... , but now i am so stupid and the musics or another arts can not make me sad or another feeling i don't love art , and i dont think about anything in the world and things are not wonderful for me !! and there is nothing to paint or write ! i don't have any feel

At first i have to say My English is bad and i cant speak it or write it correctly
, and about my problem , 2 or 3 year ago i was very sensitive and anything can make
me happy or sad for example when i was listening to music , the music could make
me sick (sad music) or active (energetic music) and i felt into the deep feeling
another example is when i watch a paint or photography i could enjoy with it
more than from this time every thing was new for me like an alien in earth every
thing was wonderful , i loved arts , and there were a lot of thing in my brain
about myself living world , but now i am so stupid and the musics or another
arts can not make me sad or another feeling i don't love art , and i dont think
about anything world and things are not wonderful for me !! i add this detail for explain my problem < i think there is a lot of pain and bad things in my life , so why i am emotionless
and i don't think about them ! >

i add this details for explain one of my problems ?
< i think there is a lot of pain and bad things in my life , so why i am emotionless
and i don't think about them ! and it's my need ! i can't live with no depression >

Answer 1

You say your don't have any feeling and that there is nothing for you to paint or write about. You also say that 2 to 3 years ago things were "new" to you as if "you were an alien in earth and everything was wonderful."


So, first there were feelings stemming from novelty or newness as you describe it. Then what happened?

It sounds like you may have become accustomed to the "things" around you, such that with time, your feelings went from sad and energetic to "nothing". What is "nothing"?

Technically nothing is the opposite of something.

What is the something? Feelings? Understand that feelings include joy, sadness, anger, anxiety, fear, despair. Perhaps now what you "feel" is fear and despair because you lost the joy and sadness you once experienced.

You may also be experiencing what therapists call "emotional dysregulation" since you are getting worried about your "lack of emotions." However, you need to understand that it is normal to feel emotions. Emotions are not the enemy. Instead, labeling the emotions as "bad" is the enemy or what you don't want to get in the habit of doing.

Try to let yourself feel the fear and despair. Tell yourself, I am feeling fear. I am feeling despair. And these feelings are normal. I am okay. The feelings are just feelings.

Then if you want to, soothe the feelings. Allow yourself to paint or write about fear and despair. DESCRIBE the feelings or illustrate the feelings. Meditate on them without fear.

And then when you are ready to, you can let them go.

Remember that feelings come and go. Naturally. Be patient and other feelings will come to you in time.

Just change your environment. If you are afraid, play music that is soft and quiet, music that is happy to you. Change the emotion also by reading something intellectually challenging. if you make your brain work on something like math or science, you can distract from your feelings.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Well, I'm not going to kick you while you're down like so many take pleasure in (personal experience). I want to help lift your spirit.
First of all, my English isn't that great either, I don't speak or write as impressive as before completing college, so don't feel bad.

For an artist, I'm really surprised that you lack creativity at this low point? Most artist have a variety of ways they express what they feel. MOST artists' speak through their work and you need to explore different medium such as sculpture or music if writing or painting isn't working out. EXPLORE ALL of your possibilities.

The best thing to do is attack your fears and your desires with a vengeance. YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG! No one will care for your feelings if you don't. Trust me people are cruel you you are your own worst enemy! I'm only telling you this because I'm going through a similar situation.

Stop calling yourself stupid. Stop belittling yourself, others will go far from you and stop thinking you have NO feel. You are the exact opposite of the meaning; you feel too much. Take what you feel and make something positive happen with it. Good luck and peace.

Answer 3

Has something major happened that would cause you to turn off / ignore your feelings? A death in the family, homesickness, depression, lose a pet or something similar? When did you 1st notice it and was it after something like the above happened? Most important is how long have you felt like this? If more than six weeks or so it could be depression and they have medicine to help you deal with it. If you don't think that's it or you can't figure it out try talking it over with someone you trust and who will not judge you. You are truly the only person who can answer this question. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 4

Farzad,
You DO have feelings. The way you're currently expressing yourself is proof of this. You just have the "BLUES" right now. This is normal. We go through periods in our lives when nothing seems to make us happy. Since there is so much sadness and misery in the world, it is only natural for us to experience these feelings from time to time. That's part of what makes us human. As for you, you sound like an extremely sensitive individual, someone who is deeply "in-tune" with his feelings and emotions. If your English is bad, you can work on that, but understand that you have a variety of ways in which to express yourself. You've already outlined most of them in your posting. So, take some time to think and reflect on your life. Allow your creativity and sensitivity to surface once more. These qualities are what makes you special. Believe in yourself and believe in the Almighty. And remember... this too, shall pass. Best wishes to you. I know that you can beat this! God bless you!
Peace

Answer 5

Have you had something traumatic happen in your life? Have you had a drastic change? Major changes can change how a person thinks and what kinds of things you enjoy. Not being able to enjoy things you used to enjoy can also be a sign of depression.

You may want to see a psychologist to make sure that you are not depressed. A psychologist can help you find outwhat the problem is and help you enjoy the things you used to.

Answer 6

there must be something bothering you, i love art too, i draw and do artistic things aswell, i read too, but im not very poetic... my poems comes once ina blue moon... i love music... but usually when something disturbs me... i draw it out.. or find a song that suits my mood. You need some inspiration... Go to some quite spot.. a beautiful scene... like trees, lakes, sunset or sunrise... clear ur mind out.. relax! hope this helps

Answer 7

Being sensitive is different than being sentimental


How can I know my mind?
An alert mind is not a problem; an unaware mind is. The mind projects the future to be fulfilling but misses the beauty of the present. If you are rich, you want to be richer; if you are strong, you want to be stronger; if you are beautiful, you want to be more beautiful. Such a mind does not make you live life but leave life.

Such a mind creates false prayers. You make a ritual out of prayer and pretend to pray. Such prayer becomes an empty gesture.

Why am I so greedy?
There is a visible world and there is an invisible world. There is a visible self and an invisible self. The visible world is a world of diversity and the invisible world is a world of oneness.

If we live on the periphery we will feel incomplete but completeness is one’s nature. This incompleteness wants us to be a complete person. But the only track it knows is greed, wanting more. The enlightened masters give us not a dogma but a device to reach this state of completeness.

We should stop fooling around with life. Just thinking to be happy is not enough; just thinking to be wise is not enough. It is a luxury to think but it is wisdom to live. Ask yourself: Are you concerned with reality or fantasy?

There are two ways to know reality. If you want to know objective reality, then science is the way out. If you want to know subjective reality, turn to spirituality.

Why does one worry in life ?
Worry has become a habit for many. An inner energy that is not creative goes around in circles of worry. A creative person is one who, when he encounters a problem, is focused on the solution and is not a victim to the problem. Convert the problem into a springboard for possibilities.

A doctor does not cure illness but allows the healing process within to surface by giving it the right condition. So, too, the true healer exists within you. But you have to create the right condition. By looking at the mountain you can’t climb the mountain, you should will yourself to climb the mountain. Optimise this will for you to be above worry.

What should one do to be successful in life?
Ultimately what you need is self-confidence, mental toughness, commitment to excel and the ability to use the power of imagination.

What do you mean by self-confidence?
There are three pillars of self-confidence: Feeling good, taking responsibility and developing skills. There are both healthy ways and unhealthy ways of feeling good. You should develop the discipline to feel good in a healthy way. The quality of one’s life is the quality of one’s consistent feeling. There are techniques that are taught how to hold and maintain consistent feelings of empowerment within you.

How does one acquire clarity?
Clarity is acquired not by knowledge but by knowing. It is not a belief system; it is intelligence operating in the domain of freedom. The true meaning of renunciation is not renouncing the world but renouncing bondage. When bondage is renounced there is freedom, the most important thing. In freedom lies intelligence. It is not just discipline but true freedom. Freedom is not something devoid of order; it is a flowering of order.

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.