Well, me & my boyfriend have been together for 6months and we're very much in love. We're in a long distance relationship/ but recently he's been acting distant, and barely making any conversation & hasnt been very affectionate. he doesnt know what he feels anymore. i told him i wanted to go on a break and after 2days of thinking he said that he was bored. is there any way we can overcome this as we dont wanna break up...?
any answers are welcome.
2007-02-03 02:55:53 · 7 answers · asked by sazidoll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we see each other every 3weeks...but he does want to break up cos he doesnt think we can stop him being bored but i dont wanna lose him...
2007-02-03 03:09:11 · update #1
Give it up. You said he is bored and doesn't know what he feels anymore? Definitely sounds like he's fallen out of love with you (if he ever was in love with you, more likely he was just infatuated.)
Long distance relationships rarely work out, even when the people are mature enough NOT to get "bored." He basically wants permission to go out with other women. Then he wouldn't be bored, would he?
2007-02-03 03:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Sexi, If you want the brutal & honest truth, read on, otherwise click off now.
Still reading I asume?
You say he doesn't know what he feels anymore. B/S. He's just not telling you what he feels. That I know for sure. Now, you have not provided much detail to go on, so i'll look into my crystal ball & hope for the best, Ready? hear goes!
If he is fighting the good fight in Afghanistan or Iraq or in jail, then he may be depressed and doesn't want you to be dragged down as well. If he is not in these or similar circumstances, then it's fair bet he has lost interest in the relationship. Give him a bit of time & space, but dont under any circumstance be at his beck & call until you know exactly where you stand. And most of all, dont kid yourself, be ready to get over it & move on. Hope it all works out.
2007-02-03 03:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by Hoosyadaddy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have to put star next to your question. Hopefully you will keep it up long enough for good answers to come by before you vote on BA. I have same issue and i go through it as we speak. My relationship is a lil longer but we also kind of apart right now because i am in Iraq and i have to do my remaining few more month out of a year i already did. It kills me because we always online talking, i call him on the phone and we talk a lot, but lately he be very distant and dont reply to me much. It bothers me as if he have too much time on his hands or he is too busy for me and only me at the moment. All these bad things run through my head and i dont want to mess it up by accusing him in cheating or lack of attention, etc. But its hard for me here and all i want is some support and attention. I told him 100 times that his emails and him responding to me is like air here and he faithfully writes me a lot but then on weekeneds he would stop....or he would say like hi sexy what you doing and when i reply he never answers back like he dont even care what is the reply. Its like he did his duty and wrote me one so it should be just fine to let her know i been thinkin about you for 5 min that day. I dont know if you feel the same way but i doubt its really another woman in a picture, but it doenst making it easier for me anyways. Sometimes being faithful is not the most important thing.....sometimes lack of care and attention can kill love too so i dont want for us to break our relationship over something stupid like that because we did go through a lot together and if we can survive this whole Iraq deployment then we go through about anything when i am out of military and with him for good. See how it is with you. Talk to him; ask him questions. Dont break up with him just yet, just see on your own first if its worth or not. Good luck!
2007-02-03 03:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you two were 2 streets down from each other, you wouldnt have had this problem, but long distant relationship are one of the hardest things to get thru...BUT IT CAN BE DONE! i would advise you both to get webcams, that way you can talk on aim and see each other at the same time...thats what my bf and I did when we went off to differnt universities last year... it helped soooo much, and it made a nice way to give him a little tease at times ;) haha. but seeing someone on a day to day bases is key...and make sure your always lookin smokin hot, so he misses what is back home for him...... try it, you will be surprised...
2007-02-03 03:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are very hard. He said that he is bored, with what? The two of you need to talk openly about what you really want. Do you ever get to see eachother?
2007-02-03 03:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by Joan G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is showing signs that he is not going to put forth any effort in your relationship now or in the future. For some guys, it's all in the chase, and then they take you for granted. I wouldn't wait for him to change. Sorry, that's probably not what you want to hear, but I've been there myself. Good Luck to you.
2007-02-03 03:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by 1dayatatime 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
back to basic... remind each other.. why you guys love each other at the 1st place.. most people will melt when you do this.. :)
simple answer.. haha..
G'DAY MaTE!
2007-02-03 03:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tsarey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋