so i told my friend who I'm secretly in love with that i have this movie loving anabelle. she asked me what it's about. I told her and i said it was dumb because I didn't want her to know I'm a lesbian. But even after that, she said she wanted to watch it. then at the store last night we were trying on lotion. i got extra and so i offered it to her. her hands were full so I swiped my finger on her hand. i wanted to rub it in but was too nervous. she laughed and said I held her hand like it was a chicken leg. and then rubbed it in herself. In the car we were talking about how these days you don't have to work hard for a first kiss anymore. people give it up too easily and sleep together right away. she said, for christians no sex before marriage. I said your not supposed to, she said her church is pretty strict on that. but she didn't say she's strict. so i'm wondering, what is your take on her? Is she trying to tell me something. why is she always mentioning this stuff to me?
2007-02-03 02:51:01 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
she doesn't know I'm gay and i don't know if she is. but like last night she was talking about her cuz and her marriage. and she said she wants someone to take care of her. i already do. I take care of her more than anyone.
2007-02-03 02:52:37 · update #1
Invite her to a sleep over and watch the movie together. Discuss it afterwards and judge her reactions. Be open and honest if you feel you are getting the same from her. Friendship is a strong emotion for females and many can come close to sexual without crossing the line. Females can feel safe in close intimacy with each other; we are familiar with our affections, bodies and have no stigma to touches, hugs, kisses that male/male friends cannot enjoy. Be certain that you are reading her well before disclosing your sexual orientation. Trust is important and I strongly suggest being friends a long time before approaching anything hinting more. Other words, keep it casual. If it becomes more, let it progress slowly, naturally, without force/coercion. Good luck.
2007-02-03 09:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young. Just give her time, don't rush her into anything. If she's really your friend, you should tell her that you're les and she will accept you the way you are. But, don't tell her you like her just yet. First see how she reacts. My first lesbian relationship was with my best friend from high school...we were already in college when we hooked up, but she was my best friend first.
So good luck girl...don't be scared.
2007-02-03 04:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she keeps starting all these conversations, she may be dropping hints. It's hard to tell if she is or not.
2007-02-03 04:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋