I don't really know if I should or not. Last night I was at this dance/fundraiser thing the high schoolers put on for the middle schoolers. I have social anxiety disorder, and I knew tonight it was really going to be bad and wasn't sure if I should go. But I went because I knew it would probably be one of my last chances to do anything like this. But it was worse than it has ever been. I was visibly distressed, and people noticed and were asking if I was okay. The thing is these two girls who are my friends were so nice to me and I was nice but just couldn't talk to anybody last night. They know me pretty well and understand I have some kind of problem but the thing is they're so outgoing it might be hard for them to understand me. I don't know if I should apologize and explain that I have social anxiety disorder. I don't care if they know honestly but I don't know if that's telling them too much. I just want them to understand and know I like them.
2007-02-03 02:41:28 · 6 answers · asked by leena 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You shouldnt have to apologize, but just explain to them that you didnt feel very comfortable, and that you hope you didnt make their evening less than what they wanted it to be. It will be ok, if they really are your friends, they will understand.
2007-02-03 02:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by Chevy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As any one would tell you, if you go into to anything with a negative frame of mind then it will turn out bad, Try putting yourself in a positive frame of mind next time and see how things work out. Also, in future, you should explain to other people you care about that you have a condition so that if they really care about you, they will take appropriate steps to ensure you have a good time. Yes, you should tell them but not as an excuse but rather the reason and only apologize for not telling them before hand. Dont beat yourself up over it, afford yourself a little grin that you went in the first place. Lots of luck.
2007-02-03 10:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by Hoosyadaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are stressing way too much over this. You said that you talked to your friends and they were really nice to you. If you feel like you need to, then tell them that you just weren't feeling too good last night and hope they understand that it had nothing to do with them. Telling them about your anxiety is fine if you feel like these are true friends that you can trust. It is nothing to be embarrassed about and maybe telling them would take a load off of your mind and help them to understand you better. Good luck.
2007-02-03 10:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they ask apologize other wise you worry to much. The world is not centered on you and anyone can have a bad day. Most people understand that. At east you didn't mention a big scene?
2007-02-03 11:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey just tell thanks for helping you and that sometimes you just have some problems with social situations. Maybe hanging out with girls who are more social you can slowly rid yourself of the anxiety after all hon whats really gonna happen to you? Is it fear of embarrassment? These are your friends obviously enjoy your time with them.
2007-02-03 10:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel...i feel as though sometimes i have social anxiety disorder (I've never been diagnosed with it, but I feel that way at times)...I'd suggest telling your friends that you appreciated them being with you last night and being so understanding...and if you feel comfortable enough to tell them...tell them whats up (with the s.a.d.) if they are your true friends they'll understand
2007-02-03 10:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by icingonthekake99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋