G/F makes me out to be horrible, why does she do this?

Question

My g/f tells everyone all these things about me, like she loves to embarrase me. She tells people I still want my ex. Very untrue, I used to be close to my ex after out divorce, (we have 3 kids) My new g/f at the time said it made her uncomf, so my ex and I backed off, yet she talks with her ex several times a day, it's the "differant" thing that gets me. Tells everyone its her house, and they say kick me out. She fails to mention I have made every payment on this house from day 1! Makes them think Im a freeloader. she dont work! I make the $404 car payment that she drives, I make the boat payment that she plays with, she has a hard time just paying utilities and gets mad if I say I dont want to help with them. My finances have fallen apart, but hers has risin to the top, ty to me! but all I get is how I lie to her, "never have" How I dont come home from work and just want to b all over her every free min. How im stressin over work and thats enough, just workin myself up. sorry, but ty

To add to this, I am a great Father, not blowing smoke, my 3 kids and I have a wonderful relationship, they also like my g/f. I put my kids first on any list and that was told to my g/f at day 1. She knows this and also feels the same about hers. no conflict there. We did go to therapy, she embarresed me so much I had to walk out, I couldnt get a word in edge wise, the Dr. told her she was too controlling as some of you have said. But after reading some of her questions on here, I can say I had enough, she says I dont know how good I got it, well lets see how the shoe fits the other foot. All of her 3 xhusbands were supposed abusers, she got me and I have never raised a hand to any woman, she accused me once becaused I pulled her into a room so as to not let the kids hear our argueing, and as soon as that happened she went off saying I was just like the others. I wonder why they all seemed to be that way, is what I told her.

Answer 1

Please leave her. Do yourself a huge favor. She is using you for money. Take her car away and her play boat away and see how she keep yapping about help and how bad and horrible you are. Make sure before you kick her a** out of the house you embarrass her in from of some people too by sayin everything you just typed up to show what is really up. Defend yourself. Relationship is pretty much over anyways so you might as well get sweet revenge and get yourself out of debt and worthless golddigger. You sound like a nice guy who take a lot of responsibility but you dont want to be used either so please do not let noone use you for your money.....Make that decision and find yourself someone who would stay with you and love you for who you are not for what you get her and what you buy her. Stop spoiling that brat; kick her out. You deserve better woman who appreciates and helps you out, who can keep your finances going up and falling apart and go downhill.

Answer 2

The question is not why does the do this?, the question is why do you put up with this from her. Sounds like she has you wrapped around her finger. She walks all over you and you are submissive to her. She has a very low esteem, and is very controling. Why she does it is because you are not man enough to stand up for yourself. That is why she does it. Look, divorce is rough enough once but twice? I hope you didn't leave your ex wife for her. So take controll of your life. Sit her down, and explain the facts of financial life to her. Tell her how you feel, go to marriage counseling, get help for your marriage. Keep your relationship with your wife and kids. If you are not willing to do these things then you better off with out her.

Answer 3

Many people hear how men abuse women but the reverse can occur as well. She is abusive due to some insecurities or past things in her life. She may need counseling. She still may be very immature and selfish and needs to grow up. Adults use to be mentally mature at 18 or 20. Today I've heard that statstic is now like 28. You may need to see a counselor to deal with the situation as it can be most difficult. I wish you the best

Answer 4

shes probably feeling insecure about herself thats why she is feeling a little jealous towards the ex. Not to mention you have 3 kids with her so naturally you will have a life long bond. This sounds a little childish. Her driving a pimped out car and boating while your working!!! Come on seriously!! You need to tell her how your feeling asap, and if she dont like it maybe its time to move seperate ways. You can always call me im single and work and pay my own bills :) j/k

Answer 5

Sounds like a gold digger my friend. Do you have any feelings for her at all? Does she for you? If you can't answer yes to both of these questions, leave her lazy *** & let her make all the payments. You were not put on this earth to work hard to pay her bills.

Answer 6

Dude she must think your her father or something. Your very nice and all for what you do, but by doing it your just feeding into it man. Put your foot down, be assertive. You know how many chicks would dig you? She points out all her cons on you. Set the tone or let her go.

Answer 7

The fact that she speaks of you in a negative way is bad enough! It's even worse when she gossips about you to others!!!

She doesn't love you, guy; she loves your paycheck!

She'll spead her misery to the rest of your family as well (as they say, misery does indeed love company) and eventually start finding fault (real or not) with your kids as well.

Time for her to hit the road and all of you move on with your lives!

Answer 8

Walk away. You seem a very decent man you don't need this aggravation in your life. Just think of the money you will save. I know you will have to cut your losses but it may be worth it in the long run.

Answer 9

I didn't even read the whole thing before I realized you need to grow up and don't be a door mat also you should be concentrating on being a good dad not a good boyfriend!

Answer 10

1st of all, don't be blinded by luv! Think bout it, she doesn't keep ur secrets. Lovers suppouse to support each other in so many ways. Instead she make up a romour out of u. It's obvious dat she is a not da one for u.