i am really confused...really really confused...i have this friend who is really talented but luck never favored him...the company i work in, is looking for more ppl for my dept....as a friend, i think he deserves the job 200% because all his skills are perfect for this job..he will surely be an great asset to this company...however, if i recommend him, it will be full stop or at least a loss of huge oppurtunity for me as i too had a really hard time to find a job where i can grow...the friend in me says "why r u thinking!!! recommend him" and the career-minded guy in me says "u found this job after sooo much of hard work and now u want to give it away...u r a fool if you do this!!!" i am doing good at this job and can surely grow here and so don't want to loose this oppurtunity...what do i do ??? i am sure many have gone through this...but is there a real answer i can follow which will work in the short term as well as in the long term ???..please help me...asap
2007-02-03 01:58:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
he already knows abt the job (that's because i told him ! the friend in me spoke before i cud think) and is waiting for me to recommend him
2007-02-03 02:01:13 · update #1
"He might be competiton for a higher level in your department, but what would you want him to do if you were in his situation?" Yes, he will be a competetion for me in a higher level of department and will be next to impossible to defeat him since he has great skills and also has some experience unlike me. "I would recommend him, as long as he will do you proud and not be a slacker and then quit and make you look bad." I want to be proud because people recognize my good work and not whom i have recommended !
2007-02-03 02:15:49 · update #2
I guess the question is can you handle it if he gets more recgonition than you, which could happen? (A: Yes, this will happen for sure. I would be happy for him but feel sad for myself for giving away what I think I deserve i.e. oppurtunity to grow) Could you handle it if he got a promotion and you didn't? (I don't think I would because I gave away something I could have earned myself) How would that effect your friendship later on? (I don't know...I wud not feel happy for myself for sure...friendship will last but I will be more careful about everything) Would you be happy for him or feeling that you got the bad end of the stick? (I happy for him for sure but for myself) On the other end what would he do for you? Would he help you out? (Yes, he would but he is not currently in a position to do that So, therorectically possible but not sure when it happens in real) Are you or he the type that are going to stay in the same job forever? (I want to continue in this firm for at least 1 yr
2007-02-03 02:35:03 · update #3
He might be competiton for a higher level in your department, but what would you want him to do if you were in his situation? I would recommend him, as long as he will do you proud and not be a slacker and then quit and make you look bad.
On the other hand, sometimes having a friend work at your job can become a nightmare. Depending on the job, you may not be friends anymore if you work at the same place! Its all relative.
2007-02-03 02:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by BJ tech 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends and work? I don't know, even the best of friends have problems, and especially in a work environment, the stepping on toes thing, your worried about. I guess the question is can you handle it if he gets more recgonition than you, which could happen? Could you handle it if he got a promotion and you didn't? How would that effect your friendship later on? Would you be happy for him or feeling that you got the bad end of the stick? On the other end what would he do for you? Would he help you out? Are you or he the type that are going to stay in the same job forever? If not go for it, especially if this is just a rung towards your ladder to success.
2007-02-03 02:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not lie and say that the job has been filled. Lies come back to haunt you. You can either come clean and tell him what you feel OR you have to follow through and finish what you started by giving him the recommendation that you promised. I can understand your reservations. Unfortunately, at this point, you are too deep in it to stop now. You either have to give the recommendation or confess your feelings. Good luck.
2007-02-11 00:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sabrina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only recommend him if you think he is a hard worker. If he winds up being a bad employee then it will reflect on you. Also, he can apply for the job himself and put you down as a reference, there is no reason you have to do his dirty work.
2007-02-03 02:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by greenhat1981 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already mentioned the job to him. If you feel you need to do more mention it again then drop it. If he wants to apply for it he will need to go there on his own. If it ever pops up later in conversation and he didn't get the job, you "told" him about it.
2007-02-03 02:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you might end up losing, then think of yourself first and dont do anything. Its a dog-eat-dog world out there, and you need to think of yourself first.
If your friend keeps asking, just tell the position has been filled already.
2007-02-03 04:51:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him either A) the position has been filled or
B) you don't think it would be a good idea to work together
2007-02-03 02:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by GD-Fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he should go in and get the job on his own merrit. if he is that good he should not need you to recommend him.
2007-02-03 02:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by catwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋