My bestfriends parents dont treat her well. My bestfriend is a straight-A student, is on highest honors, and the track and volleyball teams. But she is always, and I mean ALWAYS grounded. I think the last time we did something together was Halloween, yeah sad I know. She has even said her parents slap her. I confronted her about it and she said they dont do it often and they dont do it hard, and that she has even wondered if it was abuse, but she said it wasnt. What should I do? Confront her parents? Call DCFS or Supernanny? Stay quiet and let her parent turn this kid into a rebel? HELP!!
2007-02-03 01:47:22 · 15 answers · asked by =] 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
stay her bff and let her know you are ther if, and when she needs you.
She is too big to spank , and her parents are probably so terrified she may get into trouble they my overact.,trying to control the sitiuation.
If she has said no abuse, then support her decision.
If you call dcfs or anyone else, then she will probably resent you and it will end your freindship.
2007-02-03 01:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by noblelady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There may be more to it than you know.
If you think that her parents are abusive to her, than you should tell her that she should let you talk to someone about it. It could be that she is afraid of what her parents will do to her if they find out. However, if she says no, than you should just be her friend and support her decision; unless she shows up with bruises, then contact someone right away.
Tell her that it is against the law for her parents to beat her, especially if she really is a good person. As a teacher, I see this all too often. And when I do, I confront the parents. I will not allow my students to become victims.
2007-02-03 02:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you are, but I'm pretty sure that any hitting apart from spanking as a young child is abuse. Lots of children only realise that is "abuse" they went through once they grow up. (Personal experience, I should've told someone.)
I wouldn't confront her parents. Having them Deny it or using "it's for her own good" will get you no where if you were to tell someone else.
She's above 12 by the sounds of it, so I'd take initiative and tell someone about this, even if it's one of your teachers. They'll know what to do about it.
Good luck! :)
2007-02-03 02:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by RSJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont interfere on a personal level.....get your parents to invite them over for a few dinners, bbq's etc...you and your parents (who are the best people to assess the situation)...will then be able to deal with it....you, on the other hand, should always be there for your friend for support...that's what friends are for !!....
If there is any question of abuse your parents will know what to do....(after all, they wouldnt want to know that their child was also being put in harms way while visiting a friend)......good luck to all of you, hope it can be worked out real soon.....
2007-02-03 01:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by ozzy chik... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents have reasons for what they do. Parents are suppose to smack their kids sometimes ("Spare the rod, spoil the child.") and if they don't do it hard and often, there is no way it's abuse. I think that if what her parents do to her starts effecting her daily life (depression, extreme apathy, bad grades, etc) then you should "step in." But it all depends on what "stepping in" means. For now, just be there. Be her friend. Be the playfulness she doesn't get at home.
2007-02-03 02:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off, what a good friend you sound like, but Super nanny come on. i would tell her that you care and that you are her bestbestbest friend. if her parents do it again. i would recommend you tell a teacher or someone but make sure it is okay with your friend because if she gets seperated from her parents, you don't want a guilty shoulder. but i would be calm about it because some parents don't know how to show they care and love their kids and want the best for them.
-god bless
2007-02-03 11:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by madina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's sad. it doesn't sound like she is being abused so much that anything will be done even if you do call someone in on it. I have seen severely abusive parents whom have had their kids taken and then right away they got them back and it was sick. very sick. so just use your instincts do the best you can do and that's all you can do.
2007-02-03 01:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
be there for your best friend, becuase if she needs to rely on you she can. i would stay out of it though. if something really bad happens and she brings that to you, then maybe you could tell someone for help. good luck, bestfriends are great to have. just make sure she can trust you.
2007-02-03 01:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your guidance counselor about it. she should be able to tell you what you can do. do not mention her name though because then the counselor will take action against her family. if this is necessary then do it but just get advice first. just be there to support your friend. talk to you parents too. they may be able to help you out with this too. tell your friend to hang in there. things will improve eventually. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-03 14:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom about it. They may just be really strict, and that is not abuse. They are obviously doing something right if she has strait As and plays sports
2007-02-03 05:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by little lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋