Nice guys can have the world by the tail in every area other than dating. They give too much power to women, that's for sure. What else do they do wrong?
2007-02-03 01:34:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
The saying goes that "nice goes finish last". But it's not really a nice guy per se, but guys who don't get girls or keep their interest are too nice. What this means is that they are so courteous or timid, or nice that they lack any zest or personality and can be quite boring. Therefore, women will lose interest in this type of guy. Another reason is, because they get too infatuated with the lady that they basically kiss her ***, and are pretty much a doormat. Ladies don't want a guy that falls all over them and is a pushover. They want a guy that is kind, but stand up for himself as well and doesn't let her hotness turn him into a needy, smothering, mat to walk all over. So basically, there;s nothing wrong with being a nice guy, it's just being too nice that it causes these things that make women lose interest in a guy. I think you can be with a lot of women if you are a nice guy, but have respect for yourself, and have a personality.
I am a nice guy, but I have been with girls and have not lost their interest because I have an "edge" to me as well,and even though I am nice, I don't let anyone walk all over me. When I mean edge, I mean that many people find me funny, because of my original sense of humor, and the wiseass in me, that is in a playfu manner, but not mean, which is a big difference.
2007-02-03 08:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Brennan Huff 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, nice guys tend not to express preferences, and leave all the decision-making up to the woman in a relationship. I don't want a guy I have to baby-sit - I had a child, and I don't need another at this point in time. A man can still be a good, decent person and express his preferences, make plans, even argue - it's all about self-confidence, as long as it's NOT about arrogance.
2007-02-03 01:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend, I don't think there is any thing like ''nice guys'' because what is nice to you is not nice to someone, and what you hate some one likes it! But what I think is that no body is good but if you know how to handle him/her they become good and every body is good but if you do not know how to handle her/him they are not good.
Therefore, looking for a shortcomings of a "nice guy'' is like looking to your heart, you are good at some point and you are not good at other point.
2007-02-03 01:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by wisdom2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nichi wa tanoshii ga atte kudasai is better of literal translation, like "a delightful please have one." it really is not reported, if it truly is what you mean. per chance if someone reported it they could be at a loss for words, or they were messing round. I regarded at your profile, and also you particular ask quite a number of questions like this yet you have not any solutions. it type of feels once you've awareness of eastern per chance you would answer some.
2016-12-03 09:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
`Cause of so many S.O.B.'s. It's hard to get Women to think of us as trustworthy. Once you get past that mistake. You'll see that we're not all that bad of a choice. Godd Luck!
2007-02-03 02:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by Goggles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well nice guys are usually the ones that "smoother you"
a women needs her space..
they are usually the ones Who get jealous easily..since they are the Nice guys..they think that they are always right..and since they are nice guys..they don't allow you to have fun because they always want you to spend time with them..
and they are the ones when you break up with them..cry and try to win you back ..when you want nothing to do with them
2007-02-03 01:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by exotic_island_beauty 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Excellent question!! My boyfriend & I were discussing this topic just last night and here's what we came up with:
He is a self admitted "nice guy". And as you stated, has had a great life except for in the dating world. We discussed his past relationships in great detail, and picked them apart, and here were the problems.
1. Being overly available. Being there for a woman, when they need it or ask, is appropriate. But "nice guys" are there for absolutely everything!! From opening car doors, carrying heavy packages, babysitting the womans kids, etc. And doing this with little to nothing more than a thank-you. And a lot of times there were luck to get that.
2. Letting women walk all over them. "Nice guys" have a tendency to attract some pretty mean chicks! They are the ones that take advantage of these beautiful souls and use & abuse them. But a mean girl can smell a nice guy a mile away. Just go into a bar and see for yourself! These girls spot them and get them to buy them AND their girlfriends drinks all night long! Again, with little to no recipracation. If all your doing is giving and your not doing any getting, then your going to fall victim.
3. Avoiding confrentation at ALL costs. We thought that maybe it was because he was a Libra, but it more came down to the fact that he is a "nice guy". They just go with the flow. They just don't want to rock the boat! Us women NEED our boat rocked from time to time! We don't want jerky, mean, conversation just to be objective or defiant, but we want stimulating conversation. Test us from time to time! Make us prove our point and stick to yours. But "nice guys" often look at being objective as being disrespectful or rude to their women. Maintaining peace and order is safe for them.
4. Sitting on concerns. That kinda goes along with avoiding confrentation, but we felt it important enough to give it it's own number! Because there were lots of concerns that he had with past girlfriends that he just stuffed and didn't discuss. He just overlooked them and she knew that he would do that and took full advantage of this. I guess overlook is the wrong choice of words, it was just sitting on them. Why? To avoid confrentation. He is an extremely intelligent man, and has excellent ideas and points! But women to the average "nice guy" is something to be cherished and honored. To budge or disrespect that, would be considered "rude" in their eyes. ("Nice guys" are so precious! Sorry, I'm biased.)
5. "Nice guys" can't say NO. Whatever their women want, their women get. AND SOME!! And we don't even have to sleep with them afterward! They just do things to do them! Mean girls LOVE this about them. But whats wrong with all these qualities? All these things mentioned are very good. It's all about doing things in extremes & excess.
Women want love, just not TOO much. We want tenderness, but not ALL the time. Wanting support, just don't do it for us. Agree with us ONLY if you really do. Stand up for yourselves, and don't take our s**t! Be yourselves and who you are, just add some balls now and then, and you'll have it!
I, myself, absolutely ADORE my "nice guy". The 5 things that I mentioned above, are all the very things that attracted me to him in the first place! I guess I'm just not a dimwitted, shallow, mean girl! Nor would I take advantage of him for possessing these amazing qualities that I love about him! I thank God everyday for "nice guys" and just wish that more of the "nice girls" would hook up with them! They are a dying breed, I suggest grab one while you can and just appreciate him for who and what he is!!
2007-02-03 02:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by frigidx 4 · 11⤊ 1⤋
i like genuinly kind men. i hate really sensitive clingy guys. the term 'nice guy' sort of covers both.
2007-02-03 02:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by dasistgut_15 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Women say they are looking for a nice guy, but they truly want a "Bad Boy". They are hotter and sexier and do things "Nice Boys" don't.
2007-02-03 02:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by justice2842 2 · 2⤊ 6⤋
Only immature women go for the dickheads.
Grown up women know what's best for them.
(It's getting harder and harder to say that and believe it)
2007-02-03 09:15:24 · answer #10 · answered by I'm Still Here 5 · 7⤊ 2⤋