I have known this guy for 9 years & he has always made it known to his family, friends, etc. that he is n love with me & wants 2 marry me. Up until that point we have never been intimate or anything. It has been strictly friendship. He never dealt with any other women and had abstained from sex. About a year ago I moved 2 minutes from him and we got closer & we started dating. However the relationship was strange to me. He lived with his family but he never wanted to spend time with me alone. He never wanted to stay the night at my apartment. I always had to pack my clothes up on the weekend and stay with him and his family. We had very little sex but during the course of our intimacy I got pregnant. I thought his behavior was because of his culture "Hispanic" (real family oriented) or because he had an extremely small package or he was a chronic mama's boy. Now I have a 2 month son and I am trying to figure out what's his deal? Is he trying to suppress some homosexual desires?
2007-02-03 01:06:30 · 10 answers · asked by Jade 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
We are both 26 years old and I have never confronted him about it.
2007-02-03 01:13:38 · update #1
His sexual orientation might be more directed toward men, but who knows... how old is this guy. It certainly sounds like he has issues. Take your child, raise him well, and find someone new.
2007-02-03 01:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by jh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey Jade. Why don't you just come straight out and ask him. To me, it does sound suspicous that a 26 yr old man would act this way. Most men can't wait to get you alone and jump your bones. Especially if he is in love with you. He shouldn't be able to keep his hands off you. You two have been friends for a long time, so you should be able to ask him anything. Who knows-if its true that he is gay, he might be relieved that you asked him about it. NO matter what the outcome is, remember that the two of you are parents now, and your child should come first. Best luck to you all.....
2007-02-03 09:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Poetess_4U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know alot of hispanics and they are very family oriented. But I know few mothers who would allow their son's girlfriend to spend the night regularly especially if she lives down the street. Maybe out of town and she could spend the nght in Grandma's room. The whole family's kinda strange if you ask me. He might not be gay but he is weird ... does he still love you and want to marry you or is your relationship strictly about your child now?
2007-02-03 09:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by lady blue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its sad knowing that today some parents still inflict their child to homophobic opinions that result in that child in his youth seeking personal approval by getting involved in relationships similar to the one you describe.
I personally know three guys and two young women who do/did exactly this.
It often takes a lifetime before these person come to realise that they cant live life to please others. (family and friends)
That’s not to say your guy is doing the same. Maybe he is or maybe he is just not sexually very active. (and pigs will fly)
Watch the DVD Brokeback Mountain.
Its not a gay movie.
Its very much about people who have something to hide.
Share it with him as maybe it will show him you are understanding.
2007-02-03 09:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by xxx000au 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That isn't really a sign that he's gay. He could just not be too comfortable with having sex or is very insecure about himself and his home is like his safety blanket.
You've already had a child by this guy, I think it's a little too late to be asking questions now.
2007-02-03 10:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person that can answer that is him or a guy that has had sex with him. Most people have some sort of sexual issues that we choose not to deal with, gay or straight.
2007-02-03 09:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO idea. Ask him. Maybe he just believes in no premarital relationships. I doubt a gay guy would stooop you.
YOu should say, I feel bad that you don't like to make love to me. that you want him and it makes you feel good when you make love. See how that goes as he might nee dhis ego strked and also to let him know it is okay and you want htat.
2007-02-03 09:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by Cy Gold 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not necessarily that he's gay, he could have some kind of issue with sex in general.
2007-02-03 10:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say there is a distinct possibility he is homosexual, yes. Have you considered confronting him about it? Perhaps you could convince him to get help.
2007-02-03 09:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. A Elashi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. It sounds to me like he's addicted to pornography and can only be stimulated by that.
2007-02-03 09:12:37 · answer #10 · answered by John P 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋