I know it is the responsibility of the spouse to say yes or no to an affair but why is it that their lovers encourage the cheating when they know they are still married instead of staying clear of them until they finally separate or divorce
2007-02-03 00:35:23 · 17 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why does the other woman /man encourage the cheating spouse by seducing them and making them feel that they deserve better than their spouse(the one being cheated on) and that they can give them better.Don't they want to know the truth and not just the cheaters side
2007-02-03 08:35:54 · update #1
Perhaps they have a filthy fantasy.
2007-02-03 00:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assume you are talking about a relationship that has broken down? I know that in some "normal" relationships, one or both of the people involved enjoy an "open" relationship, where they can sleep with whom ever they choose, but remain married and in co-habitation with another partner. If you look at it logically, if you are divorcing or seperating, you really don't give a monkey's left b*llock what they do, otherwise you would still be happily together. Some people use the "Go ahead, I don't care!" speech as a trap. The law states that if a partner in an habitual adulterer, then you can file for divorce and have a strong case for upto 6 months after the last case of bed-hopping!
2007-02-03 00:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps to try control that self consuming emotion of jealousy they feel by encouraging this type of behaviour in the other partner is the only way they can control jealousy (themselves) before it destroys each individual and the relationship. To give total freedom to the other (even though it may never be taken) is the purest form of love.
2007-02-03 02:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by ray b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex put it like this:
We all think about members of the opposite sex when we are in a relationship. Cheating crosses our minds every once in a while. His philosophy was that if the other person knew and approved, it was not considered cheating and it helped get the lustfulness out of their system.
It didn't help my heart any, but that was his reasoning.
2007-02-03 04:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 05:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not normal...who will encourage a spouse to cheat... if you in love with someone you dont want to share that persons love with another woman or man!!!
2007-02-03 00:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some people just can't control the area south of the belly button!
2007-02-03 00:46:34 · answer #7 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its because they dont want to wait, bit of selfishness too, if the 3rd party is single, they have little understanding of the committment and difficulties if an affair arises for the married party
2007-02-03 01:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they are so much in love with them and they figure that they can not find another person like them. and depends on what the other person on what they are telling that person, to keep them there.
2007-02-03 01:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it alleviates one of the partners from having to have sex
with the other.
2007-02-03 00:45:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋