2007-02-03 00:27:23 · 17 answers · asked by trojanfan85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have to work, you have to work. That is the way life is. What you need to do is make sure the time you spend together is very special. It is a matter of quality, not quantity.
People that say work can easily destroy a marriage are correct. But, it shouldn't. A person's career is their career. If you are working hard to provide a good life for your family, you should be admired. There are many out there who do not put forth the effort, and either wait for handouts or complain they don't have enough.
Keep working hard. Just remember to make the time you spend together more than sitting on the couch and watching TV.
Cowboy is correct as well. I have friends that work on oil rigs, and they work some serious hours. Somtimes you will be tired, and you just have to suck it up and make the effort.
Are you two young? Young people sometimes get this way, but then mature a little more, and realize that working hard to better the family's life is a way of showing love. It is a very big committment to work long hours, day in and day out, and basically give your check to the family for its needs and wants.
2007-02-03 03:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you working so many hours ... Can you cut back some on your hours so that you can spend more time with her? Have her meet you somewhere on lunch breaks... Call her while you are at work just to ask how her day is going and that you are thinking of her and missing her and to tell her that you love her. When you have a day or so off take her out on a date and spend that who day with just her!!! Just some suggestions and thoughts. Remember to put your marriage above your work and not the other way around. Hope this helps some and i hope that things get better for the both of you soon.
2007-02-03 09:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have to ask yourself if you have been using work to put some space between you and your wife, its not unusual for all that togetherness to be a bit unnerving to a man. Men aren't given specific roles in marriage and so they don't know what to do. When you are home, snuggle with her, don't veg out, and while you are working so hard, no nights out with the boys or beers after work, shes going to want your free time spent with her. When work eases off, that's when you have extra time to spend with the guys,
BTW, nowadays most women help to put that roof over their heads and she still cooks the food that they both work to put on the table.
2007-02-03 08:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend time with her even if its out to dinner or holding her while watching movies or taking her out for a couple of drinks or romantic at home . my wife left me because she was lonely i work very long hours in the oil field service and started coming home extremely tired and didn't give her any real attention she thought i didn't love her no more i no its hard but she will become lonely if you don't keep her happy and give her some attention she may even think you regret marring her don't let work ruin what really matters
2007-02-03 09:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by cowboy5762004 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a few days off.
Friday-Sunday or something like that.
Rent her favorite movie and grab a blanket and watch it or cook for her and do the dishes and perhaps give her a back rub. I would love for a guy to do something like that randomly for me.
I want a guy who will sing me to sleep, kiss my forehead when i am drifting off and whisper I love you in my ear when I have finally drifted. I want a guy who leave little notes around the house for me to find when I am cleaning or cooking so I know he still thinks of me. I want a guy who will call me on his break to hear my voice and tell me how his day is going so far but then again I try not to be unrealistic with my ideals.
2007-02-03 08:34:19 · answer #5 · answered by Yelsha!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever seen the movie click. the women leaves him because hes always working and never spending time with her. and it was a dream so he forgets his job and pays more attention to his wife. i think yoou should spend more time with her. surprise her. take her out to a reallly nice fancy place. not to expensive, but tell her to get ready and come and pick her up. just to show her you care. im not saying leve your job but if you dont pay more attention to your wife it could cause devorce.
2007-02-03 08:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by ally i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife needs to grow up, it's all a part of being married
2007-02-03 09:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by ladyluc39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend time with her during the evenings and in your off days!!!!!!!! All of us need to work but its the balance that counts... Find the balance and i think she should be considerate that yes you are working so you will have to find the balance together!!! Send her a sms if you at work during your break just to let her know that hey, im thinking of you... im sure that will pull you closer 2!!!!!!!!!!
goodluck and show her you love her despite the work committments..
2007-02-03 08:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan something special with her on your next day off. Dont let her know, let it be a suprise. Then let her know that you want to spend time with her and hope to be doing this more often. Then give it to her good :)
2007-02-03 08:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she likes the money thats coming in and does she like a roof over her head. yeah there will be a time for us to be together later on but right now i am working for the 2 of us and i will make it up to you later. stuff like that good luck.
2007-02-03 08:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋