2007-02-03 00:15:00 · 45 answers · asked by tupelohoney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no it is your choice but if it is a close family member or a close friend then people will talk but hey it will be a 7 day wonder then they will find something else to talk about, do what you feel is best for you and good luck xx
2007-02-03 04:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by MAD FEMALE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That isn't much information. If its a close family member you will be expected to attend if you live in the local area But you could offer to stay with the smaller kids while others attended the funeral. If you live out of town or have work that would keep you from going that is a financial hardship and nobody would expect you to attend.. I never went to my grandmother's funeral because we lived 3000 miles away when both of them died and we just didn't have the money.
2007-02-03 00:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not. If the person was not someone close to you then you should not go. I have declined many a funeral and sent my condolensces. I know that it is seen as a sign of respect however usually it's the fact that you have thought of that person's family. I would send a card or flower's and skip the dreaded funeral if you are not comfortable. You don't have to give a reason either. When my partner died of suicide 8 years ago it took me about five years before I would attend a funeral. It was overwhelming and heartbreaking. So I would send cards.
Don't go.
Good Luck!
P.S. If anyone has a problem with you not attending then it is their problem and not yours.
'-)
2007-02-03 00:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently attended a funeral that I had no wish to. I was so glad I did - not for me, but there was a only a tiny number of people at it, for complicated reasons, and everything that could have gone wrong did go wrong. It was a pitiful affair, and I was so thankful that I made the effort to go. It made me resolve to be a little less selfish about these things in future.
2007-02-03 00:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by RM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This depends on how close you are to the person who has passed away. You also need to ask yourself why you don't want to go? Is it because your not accepting that this person as gone from your life or your worried about how you will react to the funeral on the present day? And yes it is alright after asking yourself these questions if you do not want to go. After all the person or people should and will not prejudge of your decision, because that is your sole decision. After-all you can remember that person who is now not living; how they were in your own way on the day. You do not have to be actually at the funeral to pay your respects.
potter!
2007-02-03 02:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by potter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal view of funerals are you should only go if you feel the like you have to. i feel that everyone has the right to express there own emotions at there own time and in a place of the chioce. For example there is nothing wrong with giong to the grave at a later date to say your goodbye's.
Some people prefer this as you are able to say what you feel is adequate i hope this bit of advice is helpfull
good luck in what ever you decide.
2007-02-03 01:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go to a funeral you are showing respect to the family. but if you don't like to attend a funeral you can show your respect by either visiting them at their home or call them before the funeral to give your condolences.
2007-02-03 00:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by grae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who's funeral it is...
Close family and friends, it's kinda "compulsory"... I think those grieving would actually be offended at your absence
But I for one don't like funerals, and if I don't wish to go, then I won't...
But bear in mind... Think ahead... Will those family's attend your's???
2007-02-03 00:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by *Flutter* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on where you live and what your relationship with the deceased was.
In many areas it's a mark of belonging to the community that you go to the funeral -- if you decline to go, it's like announcing "I don't want to be part of this community." And no, flowers don't make up for it. Nor do condolences. If it's possible for you to be there but you don't go, then people will notice and will comment.
2007-02-03 01:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on why you don't want to.
everyone grieves in different ways. you just may feel like you need to grieve alone, where as others like to have other people around for support.
you may be suprised at how beneficial it is to share your grief with others who are feeling the same way about losing someone they cared for.
i don't think you should HAVE to if you don't want. perhaps just send some flowers for the funeral instead.
do speak to someone if you are having difficulty dealing with this person's passing.
all the best.
2007-02-03 00:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If I don't want to attend a funeral, I don't.
2007-02-03 00:43:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋