I don’t trust God, I want to but I don’t. I am back into fasting 1 meal a day, (breakfast). I am praying and asking everyday for a godly husband, a godly father for my children, (I am married) to a faithless, spiritless, foul mouthed, abusive, addicted, to cars, lazy and always unemployed, man.
We must move from the house we live in, (it is not right that my 13yr old son and 9yr old daughter are sleeping in the same bedroom). We are in debt and my husband wants me to go out to work, and do all the home duties and care for my children, while he does nothing! My children go to public school, which I am heart broken about. I have been asking God for years to change my situation in above matters, and I can see clearly that my life is running parallel to my mother’s life. Additionally my husband is drawing my sons (especially my eldest) towards his addiction to the world of cars…pleas help me!!
2007-02-02 23:54:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whyd does she feel that she can not trust God??? If he is abusive to her why is she still with him? She needs to take the Children and leave... She really needs to try some kind of work even if it is only part time for now. You need to go to Christian counseling and help for what she is feeling and her kids will need help and therapy as well.... Please have her buy the books the power of a praying woman and the power of a praying parent... This is a really tough situation and she is gonna need help and support from you to get through this and the Help and guidance from God above as well.. However since he is abusive she really needs to get out now bevore it gets worse.... Does she have a church she attends regurally??? She needs to call them and let them know what is going on and see what they can offer or help with too. I am here if she needs someone to talk to and she will be in my thoughts and prayers today:) Have her to to http://www.marriagetoday.org and email Jimmy and Karen Evans from there and see what kind of advice and help they can offer to and for her during this time. My heart really goes out to her and i can feel her pain! I have been there in my first marriage and i know how she feels and the desperation as well... Here comes lots of hugs for her today. I Pray that God will lift her up in His loving arms today and hold her close and give her the strenght to get through to day and each day with His help!
2007-02-03 01:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are a couple of ways that this situation could be handled. You say that your husband doesn't do anything around the house and is only interested in his cars. Well, if this is the case, tell him that he will get to come back into the house after he can show you that he is worthy of you and your family. I know that you said he is abusive as well, just inform him that if he abuses you or your family in any way any more that you will not only put him in jail for abuse but you would also take out a restraining order that would prevent him from re-entering YOUR house.
Another thing is just pack up all your belongings and your kids belongings, and leave him in the lurch. Make it mandatory that he either gets off his big old butt and does something or you will divorce him and then take out a restraining order to prevent him from contacting you or having someone contact you on his behalf to try to get you back and thus break your own restraining order.
2007-02-03 08:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Double J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can change the situation you are in. You are scared to be on your own obviously otherwise you would have left by now. Let him by unhappy but let him do it alone. You are a mother take care of them first, which means leaving and yeah get yourself a job, go back to school do it for yourself, you should not depend on anyone else to make you happy or change your life. If you need help, to get out find it. I left an abusive relationship because I thought about my daughter not her dad or me, just her. Now I am going to be getting married to a man that loves us both and wants nothing more then to be with us. There is hope for you and someone who is looking for your love out there waiting, believe me I thought my life was hopeless but I was wrong. Things will get better but only if you make them. You have to leave!
2007-02-03 10:14:18 · answer #3 · answered by tralw2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should trust God no matter how mad your life may get. There is a reason for it and you may never know the reason but God has a plan for you. The plan may be to make you a stronger woman. You should leave your husband. He will just teach your children the things he does..and your children deserve better. You need to think about the sake of your children..and make the right decision. May god be with you and your children in helping you make the right decision.
2007-02-03 08:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by MB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to trust in God he will answer your prayers when you have done something for yourself. If leaving is what you want to do then make arrangements and do it god will help but he walks with you not for you sometimes you have to do your part for your blessing to come through. So get out and make a new home for your children and you and who know it may be what helps god work with you. You already take care of everything so it won't be hard and find yourself in you and with god in your life before god can send you the person you need to complete you. Good luck and god bless
2007-02-03 08:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is not going to help you on this one.
You are going to have to take charge of your life & the lives of your children & get out if you can. If you can't then then do go out and get a job but do not under any circumstances hand over your pay cheque to that lazy lout. Your children will think more of you for trying to better your situation than they will of their father.
I don't know where you live and what kind of help there is for women in your situation, but phone social services or a womens shelter and see if they can guide you.
2007-02-03 08:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lucy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to like my answer ma'am. It's not God but you. I've put faith in God all my life, from the jungles of Viet Nam and two years of getting shot at, to 68 years of living with a bone disease and pain that I wouldn't wish on my enemies.
You make your own life, God con only give you the faith you need, if you've relinquished that faith and have nothing left, what would you expect God to do?
I would go to work, but find another place to live and take my kids with me. Leave that bum sit where he is and languish in his own squalor. If he wants to live in debt, without food, without friends, and owing everyone, let him.
Find a job, don't tell him. Or. Move to a shelter, take the kids with, it's not forever, get out of there.
2007-02-03 08:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have found myself in a similar situation years ago.
I decided it was not going to help to just pray and hope for a change. I had to become aggressive towards my situation and change things myself.
I left my husband of 10 years and divorced him.
I have never been more happy, it was scary at first and challenging. Now 7 years have gone by and I often wonder why I didn't divorce him earlier.
Good Luck.
2007-02-03 08:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God helps those who help themselves, if you don't decide and do things that are right in your life, he's not going to put in anything either. Make a checklist and go though it, make a difference in your life, take control and change the situation. If you don't you will only be taken down by this guy further. Sounds like he's lazy and doesn't care, change it!
2007-02-03 08:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by fman440 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting your soms involved in cars is not a bad thingm sleeping in the same room is better than no room. But if your that unhappy you need to do whatever it tkes to be happy . Wea ll only have 1 life and limited time on this planet alive, Call a lawyer and he'll help you see your path to a better life if thats what you truley want!
2007-02-03 08:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by dan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋