This past two weeks have been quite problematic for my boyfriend and I. It all started since the time, he has been told that he won't get promoted by his boss. He told he had a fight with his boss about it and is really not happy with it. He has been very strange since! He has been distancing himself. I took it personallyHe told me that he is sorry for neglecting me but he needs to distance himself. He said he needs to look for a new job. I find it very hard though that he has been so distant with me? I even accused him of seeing someone else as he told me he needs to be alone. Last night he called me and he told me that I only bring him more troubles and more worries. He said I don't support him. He said that these kind of troubles have been happening too often and he is tired of this. He said that he does not think I am the right girl for him? I asked him if he wants to continue, he said yes but he said something has to change really fast as I cannot suffer this way. What should I do
2007-02-02 23:42:19 · 7 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
speak to him and reassure him that you love him despite this issues... he is going through a rough patch so try and be more supportive and tell him you can only help if he does not distance himself from you... you have to stick together and be there for each other.... this is not the time to be distant... your love must carry you through and it will be tested during this time...
goodluck and call him right now to tell him that you are there for him!
2007-02-02 23:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take some time and LISTEN to him. Here he is looking forward to a possible promotion . . . he doesn't get it . . . he gets in a fight with his boss. . . not the best thing if he were planning on any other chance of promotion . . . Now he's feeling really down. What's he going to do with his life? What type of job should he look for? Think of the questions going through this guy's head. No wonder he needed some tme to think it through. You choose this time to accuse him of cheating. Not very supportive. Be helpful or just let him know you are there when he needs to talk. Invite him over. The "well I know you need to eat. why not have dinner at my place" invitation, could work.
2007-02-02 23:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by paull1956 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He had a fight with his boss, no one like to have a fight with their boss. It is not a good feeling to fight with any one especially with the boss. He needed your support and he stated it out loud that he didn't get it from you. Do you nag at him about relationship that he distancing himself instead of tell him you are sorry that happened to him? Sometime a man needs to think over and what to do next. He might need a clear though alone for awhile by himself.
2007-02-02 23:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
His reaction is very natural. He has lost confidence in himself. You need to give him the space because he cannot do what he is supposed to do within a relationship at this stage. Of cause he will outgrow the feeling of wanting to be alone when he has a problem. But then you need to be supportive. Do not keep nagging him and asking him whether he would like to continue and such like questions because that to him shows you are not being sensitive to his plight. It does not mean you are insensitive when you give him space. Do not worry about him seeing somebody else. Remember, if he wants to do so he will do it whether you like it or not. But this is you just suspecting. He is most likely not
2007-02-02 23:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by 1967 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him have his space. He is obviously going through a rough time with his work worries but there is no need to take it out on you. Do you feel like you support him? Are you happy with the relationship? It sounds like he is calling the shots, you obviously feel like he needs to include you more with how he is feeling and he feels that you should support him more. You need to reach a compromise. If either of you are unwilling to do that then you really should have a break. He may come round when you are not there anymore, you know the old sayings "You don't know what you've got til its gone" and "absence makes the heart grow fonder". If its meant to be you will be together. There's also another saying that I love "... if you love someone set them free, if they come back they are yours forever if they dont it wasnt meant to be." Wise words! Good luck!!
2007-02-02 23:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by deelightuk2004 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but you gotta dump him, my previous boyfriend who I had been totally supportive of while he was trying to sort himself out mentally did this to me too. He is keeping you hanging on because he needs an emotional crutch, you are being used and manipulated. You will never be good enough, he will always find some way of blaming his problems on you. Best of luck, I hope you find someone who truly appreciates you.
2007-02-06 08:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by Dimples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. It sounds like hes looking for someone to take the blame for things not going right for him and because youre the closest to him, youre the one whos getting it in the neck. Why should you have to change just to please him? It doesnt sound like he wants to be with you and is just using the whole 'things need to change' line as an excuse to do it. So do it for him and walk away with your pride intact
2007-02-03 05:02:55 · answer #7 · answered by fallenangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋