if a man is shy to have sex after marriage then how should he do or should he not do any thing.?

Question

women and girls pls answer. if i feel bad to do after marriage then how should i remove this problem?

Answer 1

Maybe talk to one another? May take weeks of talking but let him feel relaxed with the fact he has now a wife, lover and sole mate.

A marriage is not all about sex. After all we would not tell the man the same answer if he was to ask this question.

Just be there for him, as a loving wife, friend and sole mate should be.

Give it time. If hasn't changed in a concerned time frame then maybe seek high help from professional /s.
Good luck

Answer 2

I don't think it has to do with his cultural background, and even shy people enjoy sex! I think he is uncomfortable with his bod and yours. Maybe do activities where you're together but not having sex. Dancing, working out. Maybe he's inexperienced as well, and he needs extra encouragement and practice. I'm sure he wants to please you. You should let him be on top sometimes. Otherwise it just reinforces that he is bad at sex, which probably makes him even more self-conscious. When on top, tell him how you much you love his bod and you would like it more if he, etc. As part of foreplay, tell him how you want him to give you oral, etc. Say, I can't wait for you to do this, and this to me. He'll get it. Reinforce any good behavior! Movies might be instructional too. Good luck!

Answer 3

Its quite natural to feel shy. And by your question i feel you will have an arranged marriage.In an arranged marriage even the girl won't be knowing you well.So its much better to connect to each other talk and get to know each other, in this way you can become more confident in front of her and slowly the shyness goes.Its not necessary to have sex on the first night. There are many other night y\to come.Also the initial slight touching carressing and kissing works wonders to over come shyness.Go ahead trust yourself.

Answer 4

bein shy is always a natural instinct, but like everything else in life we get over it & then just like a normal everyday thing, sex can be great in marriage I feel better than when single, you get to know your partner & can experiance new things together when feel , dont read too much into it & relax, less thaught of the better , good luck & hope you find all the feelings you hoped to!!!

Answer 5

Tell the wife that you feel shy being intimate and talking with her over the issue will help the man to overcome the shyness really fast.

Answer 6

It is natural to some people in the beginning and it should be alright in the course of time. If it continues it could be that he is having some guilt feeling on certain action of his in the past. Then he needs professional help immediately before it becomes complicated and starts affecting the relationship itself.

Answer 7

SHow him you care a lot. Practise what you know about foreplay and get him excited. At least you are lucky he was not doing it before marriage and you can make it his wonderful experience (of cause if you know how to do it). Give him confidence, complement him etc and you will see some improvement. Good luck

Answer 8

i think yes, they get shy and nervous.. and that ends up with no erection!! lol so.. i dont know maybe u should date and have fun for a time.. get use to the idea that u are single and looking for love

Answer 9

u have to gove him some tips of replation ship u have to message and make him hot then u can able to share the sex.

Answer 10

i dont know my husband was shy the first time we tried but he got over it really fast