I like this guy, but I don't think he's gay. Although he could be because sometimes he acts gay playfully but sometimes he seems like he is. Anyway, I don't know what to do and I really would like to ask him out for Valentines day but I don't know if or how I should do that. Please help, thank you!
2007-02-02 23:14:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It is unfortunate that we live in a culture where we assume everyone is heterosexual. A guy would not think twice of asking a girl he likes out. Almost 10% of the population is not heterosexual so the chances that your friend might be gay is there.
When you say the guy is playful - exactly what do you mean? Does he flirt with you and ask you out? Or is he just touchy?
My advise would be to ask yourself the following questions:
Does the person seem to like you?
Does the person seem to be friendly?
Does the person like to play pranks on others?
How would you feel if this person turns down your request for the date and told everyone?
Do you feel you could be a physical risk if the person is a homophobic bible thumping maniac?
If you can live with the results of any of these questions, tell the guy that you are gay. If he accepts that or says he is gay as well ask him out. If he freaks when he finds out your gay, let it go and keep looking, eventually you will find Mr. Right.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-02 23:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and tell him you like him.I am assuming that he knows your gay, right?And you said that he playfully acts gay, right?So, there shouldn't be any harm just telling him how you feel.The worst that could happen if he is not gay but a very accepting person is that he will turn you down and tell you he is not gay.Part of asking a guy out is knowing that guy.And so, you should know if he is comfortable with gay people at the very least.And if he is then there is no harm just telling him how you feel.Just understand that even if he is gay he may not share your feelings.
If you are unsure about how he will react then you really don't know him well enough to be expressing your feelings for him.If you think he will react in a bad way then you kind of know what his response will be and probably should just drop it.
2007-02-03 07:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by BuckFush 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a very tough situation! I had been through this last year. I never asked him but later I realized he's straight. :-(
I think you should like...see the direction in which the wind is blowing. He dated a girl before? If he's a friend, ask him if he got a crush? If you're out, try to discuss situations about gays with him and see how he reacts.
But you told that he acts a bit gay sometimes. Right? Maybe, he's not a bigoted guy. You may ask him. The utmost he'll do is to refuse politely... possibly!
The decision is upon you.
2007-02-03 07:43:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ieshwar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I dont think u should. I have had this same problem SOOOOOOOO many times and they always turned out to be straight. You said he playfully act gay. Well a lot of people do that, for some reason people actually find it funny. But I just think u should just try and find someone who u know is gay that way u don't even hafta worry about the "is he or isn't he".
2007-02-03 07:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by Maurice R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think i can help. first find out inside yourself how much you now about him. then if you answer you don't really know do what all ways has worked and will. be honest to him and you.ask him for a soda or coffee you would like to talk to him.then the how is you explain how you feel and why you want to go out and see if there can be a tomorrow . but don't pressure let him have control after that .guys like to be in control,there ego or something like that. but you will have to respect his wishes if he don't see things the way you want them . but have faith god is on our side . good luck you only have 11 more days. call now.
2007-02-03 07:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by JAYHAWKER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore anyone who bashes on you for this. I'm bi and have asked countless guys out, and to say the least, more than one of them have turned out straight. The hardest part is actually doing it. I'd say just walk up and ask. I assume you're not in the closet? If so, think carefully about if you're ready to come out because obviously, if you ask....you're not gonna be in the closet for much longer. Anyways, Good luck!!
2007-02-03 07:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Shaun L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its such a hard things to decide...a) go for it, nothing to lose etc etc or b) play it safe and only ask ppl out u know are definately gay.
sometimes if u dont act u'll regret it later on. so im tempted to say, dont ask him out yet, just tell him ur gay and ask if he is. thats the safest route at the moment to take.
let us know how u go!
2007-02-03 08:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just approach him! Go!
Take risks.. life is too short to waste your time fidgeting and just thinking of what might be.. Godbless!
2007-02-03 08:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by lazy_missy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ever.
2007-02-03 07:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by atomic49er 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋