i turned 26 today. and yes, i know what you're going to say, 'happy birthday'. however, the day has not gone well for me so far. up until this point, i got an email from one of my mates at uni during the week telling me that our dinner plans which coincide to celebrate my birthday have been cancelled and re- arranged for next saturday. now, i tried calling my other friends to find out from them whether they were free on saturday because i made plans with them as well. instead, there was no reply from them and i left a message on their answering machines. i doubt they'd ring back. so far, i feel dissapointed because i was looking forward to this occassion. but instead, i am in a way disheartened that things haven't gone to plan. am i right to feel this way? serious answers only please
2007-02-02 23:09:05 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
to bloo ballz- why are you answering this question? if you don't have anything relevant to say, then don't mention it
2007-02-03 00:00:47 · update #1
to chris and starlet10- you made a good point
2007-02-03 00:01:48 · update #2
i never even had proper birthday parties when i was a kid. likewise when i was 3 up until i was 18, i never had a birthday party, not have people bought me presents. i guess, most of you are right: as i get older, perhaps it's not that much of a big deal
2007-02-03 00:06:31 · update #3
pardon my grammar, should have said 'nor have' instead
2007-02-03 00:08:01 · update #4
btw, i didn't mean to offend them. and the person who e-mailed me explained that she was going to be busy typing up her dissertation, so i'd say she did have a valid reason. and it was her who initially came up with the idea of us having a birthday dinner. but hopefully, she and the rest of my mates will make up for it next week
2007-02-03 03:12:01 · update #5
to derek: happy birthday mate!
2007-02-03 04:52:15 · update #6
I gotta say that once past 21 yrs of age I don't see the need to have these big birthday celebrations any more. Its just another day - okay the day you were born but celebrations etc should be with your family if at all. Looks like your friends think the same as me. Celebrate on your own if you want to mark the day as special. Personally I like to not be reminded that I'm another year older. So long as I get a card from hubby and the kids thats fine by me xxxxxxxxxxxx
2007-02-02 23:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel the way you do about birthday's, I haven't had a birthday party since I was 12 years old, I am now 24, not even for the milestone ages like 16, 18, 21. My brother who is a year older always got birthday parties but never me. I just learned to accept birthdays as any other day of the week. It seemed like everybody else got birthday parties thrown for them but not me, not once did my friends or family do party for me, last year my parents forgot my birthday. One year I thought you know what? I will arrange it myself but you know not one person showed up! people were backing out left right and centre banking on the fact that others would turn up but everybody did the same thing and I ended up sharing a bottle of wine and crab cakes with my cat! I can't understand why family and friends don't care for me much, I am polite and helpful and try to be friendly and I don't gossip or bit ch, I am just normal! Maybe that just means I am boring? Oh well, just see your birthday as any other day and don't make a big deal of it that way when no body else does it won't hurt so much. I am sorry, I feel for you.
2007-02-03 01:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by Smoochy Poochy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if i was you i would probably also feel a little bit gutted but then what can you do? Why dont you have a nice hot bubble bath, light some candles and relax. Then get all dressed up, ring every single person in your phone book that always cheers you up and makes you laugh, tell them to come over to your house by a certain time and to bring their happiness along with them. If they dont pick up, simply leave them a message and they'll get it sooner or later. If it happens to be later then they will have missed out on a great time! Then pick out a great cd, stick it in your cd player and blast it as loud as it will go! Then if you get bored at your house go out on the town to a few couple of pubs or clubs, whatever you're into and just have fun. You're bound to feel better after seeing all your mates and having a good time! Oh and by the way, happy birthday and hope you have a great time.
2007-02-03 01:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure you have every right to feel the way that you do. Yeah just because you are 26 doesn't mean you don't deserve to have a day that's special for you. I mean its one day, and it's always disappointing when things that you look forward to don't go as planned or don't happen. I think that what you should do is try to make the special for yourself anyway. Treat yourself to a massage or a manicure/pedicure, or just get dressed up nice and go out and have a good time in light of things not going as planned. I don't know if any of this was helpful to you but, I hope you have a good day and are able to do something special for yourself. You deserve it! Happy Birthday and try not to feel so disheartened. :)
2007-02-03 00:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by tears fall softly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you've been disappointed. You'll have a good night next weekend, but in the meantime, you have all day to celebrate your actual birthday. So it'll be like having two birthdays!
Today should be your day, YOU should celebrate your birthday. Take out all your old photo albums and bits and pieces for a while and browse through them, to remind yourself of who you are and where you came from. Have a long leisurely shower/bath, put on a facemask, do your nails, your eyebrows, get really glammed up and treat yourself to a long lovely lunch. Then go for a long walk or maybe a bit of shopping (for a birthday treat!), then go home and watch your favourite movie and have a lovely evening.
Enjoy the day, and yes.... HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
2007-02-02 23:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by RM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HAPPY BIRTHDAY !!! Ok so as we get older people don't always make so much of an effort, but how hard is it to send a card, or answer/return a call.
On my 21st (sometimes considered a landmark-i'm now 27) all but 1 of my friends forgot. Last year a bestfriend didnt send me a card we have the same birthday so she had no excuse.
Fingers crossed they are planning a surprise for you on Saturday, still any good friend should have called you.
Best wishes x
2007-02-03 01:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by truth_and_time_tells_all 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never wish anyone a happy birthday.. I don't see why people should put so much emphasis onto one day. Really you should try to attain a standard whereby you can feel contented most of the time whatever day it is. You are trying to force your plans into happening. Just step back and let it flow into place. You are going out next week and it sounds like you have quite an active social life. What more do you want.
2007-02-02 23:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by breezinabout 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are not right. Not because you don't have the right but because you should be happy about yourself. Your b/day only comes once a year and at least the mate rang up to re arrange it instead of saying he/she couldnt make it. That's something to look forward to. Any maybe none of your friends has gotten the msg yet. Be happy about it. I didn't celebrate my bday properly until 2 weeks after it on my 17th due to complications etc. Just be happy about it and things will sort themselves out. Oh and i know you said not to say it but i have to.."happy birthday";) x
2007-02-02 23:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by chris c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I will say "HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you"
cos it sounds like you need cheering up!
You are right to feel disappointed cos they knew it is your birthday & the rotten (inconsiderate) things have let you down
But don't let that get you down!
Just tell them you feel disappointed...
& then forget them! When the ball is back in their court, perhaps they will feel bad and respond in a more caring, kind & positive way?
Don't compare yourself to what other's have!
Still do something special to cheer yourself up like have a spa bath with some champagne, or buy yourself some other little treat - something special that you really lot & a bunch of flowers or better still, a potted plant.
Alternatively you could do what my friend did- knowing her family would not try to cheer her up, she selectively invited some trusted friends round for a meal & she asked each of them to compose a short passage about why they like her - to boost her self-esteem. That worked really well! Her afternoon & evening passed happily without the need to get drunk, & she got to keep all the nice comments to put her on her wall.
I hope this helps you & that you still have a really nice birthday.
2007-02-03 02:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, welcome to the real world! Things very seldomly go exactly as planned. The older you get, the more you'll come to expect it. Look at it this way, your birthday celebrating will carry on now for a week or more. Yes, it's very disappointing when special times don't feel special to us. Just know that you are being thought about, wished a happy birthday and time is being set aside for the special occasion. Everyone just can't break away right at this time. Happy Birthday, Aquarius!
2007-02-02 23:16:54 · answer #10 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋