Pregnant 9mos and boyfriend isn't working, need answers, please read?????

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Pregnant 9mos and boyfriend isn't working, need answers, please read?????

I want to print out your answers and send them to my daughter, who continually makes excuses as to her boyfriend not working, when she is due really any time now. She JUST went on "non-paying" maternity leave from her JOB worked doubles even up till then, and he hasn't held a job longer than 4 mos tops. They live with his parents, 4 other siblings, and two dogs, and are now going to bring a baby into the home. They are in their early 20's, and living w/ parents isn't the issue, takes alot of money to get out on your own, but boyfriend work ethics shows they will never have the means to set up their own home. We have talked to her and I know she is defending him, to us, he has a child on the way and is acting irresponsibly. We cosigned a car for our daughter to have safe and dependable transportation, b/f is not on the insurance, doesn't even have a drivers license. Told her the first time car pymt isn't made, the car comes here! I'll end up paying for it, while he sits on his @ss.. NO!

So, I would like honest opinions as to what you think about all this, so I can print them out and send them to her...You all don't know them, or us, so your not taking sides. Just honest opinions that maybe she will see we aren't "picking on him", there are times to step up and be a MAN and this is one of them. (to me it is) Thanks ahead of time.....

Answer 1

It's a pity! The plight of your daughter is not unique experience. It's the mother's worst nightmare. Especially, since your daughter is acting inmature. Sometimes, no matter what kind of upbringing you instilled in your daughter. Ultimately, the decision lies in her. To get pregnant in her early 20's and hooked up with an irresponsible, and non-working boyfriend is terrible. I guess the parrents of the boy condone his laziness in housing them. They make it quite comfortable for them.

But thank God, at least they got a roof over their heads. Your daughter it seems has" rocks in her head and stars in her eyes." Bet both of them didn't finish schooling. And won't have something by way of career to support the forthcoming baby . So many youngsters nowadays don't realize the responsibilities of parenthood.

These are "children having children." Youngsters nowadays, don't realize it takes more than "playing house" to parent a child. But hey, you did your best. It's no use crying over spilled milk.! What's done is done.! Just wish the best for them. Be supportive. Try to be willing to lend a hand when they come knocking at the door for help.

It must be very hard for you to see this happening and accept it. But she made her bed ; now she must lie in it. It's a very expensive lesson. I hope she'll realize this in the end. How foolhardy she has become.

I myself, have two girls. They were very young; when their father died . They were 8 and 3. But thank God!. They turned out alright. Because I stressed the importance of schooling. I brought them up with tough love and discipline. We, as parents, should do everything in our power to give proper guidance and training. But once, the foundation is laid. All you can do is hope and pray , that they turn out okay. You hope that they will do what's best for their future.

They don't realize that it takes more than love to survive in this world. What's in the future for both of them and their baby? And it seems your daughter is a glutton for punishment. Pullling the weight of two jobs while pregnant. She tolerates or sanctions the irresponsibility of her boyfriend.

I hope she heeds your advice and see the truths that when "poverty comes knocking at the door; love flies out of the window."

Money is not everything;but it sure helps.


Eversince they were small, I stressed or imbued the importance of finishing school. They should be gainfully employed before getting. married. That they should travel and enjoy each other as a couple. Buy a house and then get settled before starting a
family. Because, once the baby comes. that's the end of their carefree days. A family entails a lot of responsibilities. It's a loss of their independence. Now a baby needs their full attention.

You should encourage them to go back to school. In order to have good-paying jobs. Suitable for a growing family.

Wish you and your daughter the best of luck!.

Answer 2

Sperm are hardy little critters, and would proceed to exist being even dry for a time -- some see you later as 2 hours, then revived contained in the vagina. contained in the vagina, they can proceed to exist 7-10 days. ought to she be pregnant? certain. uncommon? constructive. no longer a threat, uh, no, sorry. Has occurred. some sperm are hardier than others. And if this isn't what you had in ideas, nor the different guy both, both of you ought to commence questioning consisting of your huge heads fairly than your toddlers.... it expenditures $250,000 to develop a baby to age 18. you'd be middle elderly in the previous you've been out from below the monetary criminal responsibility..... nasty. Too a lot of those and paternity proofs will take you into poverty very right away helping youthful ones you neither needed nor planned for. edit: Sperm can certainly stay outside the body, and dried, too.