when someone's knocking at the door i won't answer it. when my parents or my brothers have friends over i'll avoid leaving my room. when i see someone i know (who isn't my friend) walking down the street i'll avoid eye contact with them so they don't talk to me. it annoys me that i'm like this coz no one else i know has this problem.
2007-02-02 22:57:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
This can be from a number of places
and, in order to have a much better life
you need to bring this to the attention of
someone (like a professional councilor)
who can possibly help before it begins to
develop into a full blown social disorder !!!
You are missing out on a great deal OF life
if you are hiding away behind doors while life
is going on around you--- you are settling on far less
than you should be getting within your life !!!
Your lack of confidence around others could possibly
be from past circumstances that have happened to you
OR from things you have either been taught to believe
or things you have Come to believe about society and / or
people in general----and -- none of that will be able to change
without getting to the core reason --- and dealing with THAT !!!
2007-02-02 23:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The good news is that you seem to be able to interact well with your family and your friends. I can't know why you are shy in this way. I don't know old you are and your age could make a difference. I do know that you have noted something about yourself that you would like to be different. Being more sociable like being able to chat small talk is a learned skill—practice it when you get a chance with a nod or a How bout them Bears. Maybe you shouldn't open the door to strangers. You may be expecting too much of yourself. If you can't make any changes in what concerns you see a counselor who is a professional stranger with the job of understanding why you are uncomfortable with some others and some discomfort with the counselor. Good luck!
2007-02-02 23:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure because I really don;t know you or anything about your life, but I know people who are the same way. From what I have seen it is a self consious matter for most where they are scared of what other people think of them so they can not enjoy life to the fullest.
I also knew someone who was like that and they actually had a medical disorder. Being around strange people or doing something around a crowd would cause them to take "anxiety attacts". Their heart rate would elevate and they would have shortness of breath. There is medication available to help this. One called "Paxel". You should talk to a doctor about this and maybe they could help you if that is the case.
2007-02-02 23:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must be quite young, with time you will grow in confidence, Dont let it worry you.
We all go through these type of traumatic periods, it's part of growing up.
You are right to be cautious of people, there are many horrible people around, the world.
Matt Stoneham
2007-02-02 23:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by stonehamatt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like social anxiety disorder. Make an appointment with your regular doctor and he can refer you, or prescribe meds for you. It can be put under control with therapy and anti-anxiety meds.
2007-02-03 01:41:36 · answer #5 · answered by kc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm a bit like that. i just cant be arsed to talk to people alot of the time! i also HATE crowded spaces. i feel normal! i'm sure you are. unless you dont like to talk to anyone, or you hate leaving the house, or you have no friends, i wouldn't worry.
2007-02-02 23:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by dasistgut_15 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be agoraphobic or have social anxiety disorder. Either way both can be treated with therapy and/or medication.
2007-02-02 23:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by baldisbeautiful 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i cant blame you people are evil!!!!!!!!! but remember not all people are out to hurt you... You have to overcome your fear of people and the best way to do that is to get to know more and more people that you not familiar with... im sure you will overcome that fear of being scared of people..... if people give you reason to be afraid of them listen to your gut otherwise get to know them...
Goodluck to you!
2007-02-02 23:13:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are only at ease with someone you know very well and a void strangers for fear of criticism , comment, which is pride.
2007-02-02 23:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by wilma m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋