i have talked about it with her she said i was the problem and i need to change. i changed my ways that was 4 yearsa ago and she has got worse every time i try to exsight her she shrugs me aside like the time we went on a holliday to a seaside town i renter a sea veiw apartment and all we went out for dinner every thing was fine we had a real good time we all went back to the apartment and i got the kids ready for bed for her while she relaxed i put them to sleep in record time coz i knew she would try any excuse to avoid haveing sex just as i put rayan back in bed after he got up for a drink hes 4 and she said im going to bed i said ok ill be there soon i was there straight away and as i walked in she was makeing out she was fast asleep this is only 1 of the times she is fully aware she has problems and egnores it i have tryed lots and im out of idears because ive tryed anything anybody can think of im only 30 years old she is 26 and we havent had sex in over 4 months
2007-02-02 21:47:29 · 11 answers · asked by jamahl v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ummm... you need to work on your english dear!
2007-02-02 21:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by Shelley S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her desie is gone. You need to make it exciting again, like when you first met. Why would someone try to change the person they fell in love with? That never made sense to me. People grow as the relationship grows. Now you have a child. That child takes up a lot of her time. Raising a child is an exhausting, thankless job. Helping her out on a regular basis will allow her to get done earlier. Try snuggeling on the couch with her while watching TV. She needs to warm up to you. Good Luck.
2007-02-02 22:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by GreenIce10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certainly you still have much to learn. Cant you see that your gurl needs some romantic touches, romantic feelings and romantic ideas around her. It is true that u try to please her but not the right way. Never think that sex is all what matters. Exciting her for sex is rubbish!! She needs care , she needs tenderness, she needs affection... not sex. When u are able to give her all these, she will open to you and you will swim and get tired.
Relax man, play it cool with her. Take her for a dinner just two of you, a classic restaurant offcourse, bye her some rose flowers and attach a romantic card on it making her know you love her very much. She want you to make her know that you love her that's all..
Good luck!!
2007-02-02 22:18:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sawaboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be exhausted, or depressed, or both. If there are no other problems with your relationship, then you both really need to get counselling before the months turn into years, you'll start getting tempted by someone else (what man your age wouldn't, eventually) and the marriage will be doomed. Talk to her, talk to experts and nip this in the bud NOW
2007-02-02 21:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by susan h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. I think you will need to take her aside and tell her how important to it this issue is. Tell her it cant be brushed off, and that the two of you need to resolve it and she needs to get professional help or it could destroy your marriage/r'ship. She probably doesnt realise that it is serious enough to jeopardise the r'ship.
If she still doesnt listen, there isnt much more you can do to sustain the r'ship... unless you are happy to go without.
2007-02-02 21:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the barer of bad news but maybe she's sleeping w/ someone else or maybe she's not in love w/ you anymore and she doesn't know how to tell you. Suggest counseling to her and see what she says, ask her to be honest with you regardless of how painful it may be, but be sure you're prepared for the truth before you ask. I wish you and your wife the best.
2007-02-02 21:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by Jay K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you've been ditched for 12 inches of battery powered bunny fun! Try marriage councelling...Even if you have suffer w*nking for another few months...And, dude, think of the kids!
2007-02-03 01:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear try n talk 2 her. u lost the chemistry so build it again. try 4 counseling. i think it'll make things better.
2007-02-02 22:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by bindu m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell her that there is a problem and make her realize it. maybe there should be an ultimatum, ask her if shes cheating
2007-02-02 21:57:45 · answer #9 · answered by misseshodges 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to talk to you and speak to you about what's bothering her because for sure you'll always be having assumptions and only she can tell you what's really wrong...
2007-02-02 22:00:06 · answer #10 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋